Am shocked Meghan said this…

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She said: 'Even when Will and Kate came over and I was meeting her for the first time I remember I was in ripped jeans, I was bare foot, like I was a hugger, I have always been a hugger I didn't realise that is really jarring for a lot of Brits.'

'I started to understand that the formality on the outside carried through on the inside, that there is a forward facing way of being and then you close the door and thing OK we can relax now, but that formality carries over on both sides and that was surprising to me.'

What an utterly horrible thing to say about your sister and brother-in-law. I am done with her now. People are DIFFERENT Meghan. We are not all like you you you you.

@LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet I would google things like that. But i wouldn't be researching how to greet my American in laws if I had them. I would expect my partner to tell me if the way I would normally greet someone would cause offence.

It's like Meghan isn't allowed to speak.

Jesus, if you don't like her, for whatever reason, just leave it. By analysing every single thing she says you are in fact feeding what you don't like! I do and don't understand it.

If you really don't like Meghan stop talking about her. Leave her to talk into thin air.

If you do like her then give her the time of day.

This woman has had so much vitriol fired her way it's abuse. Just stop the abuse. She is a human being.

But it’s not just about the Royal Family. It is so judgemental on a different culture or if you don’t buy that - just a different way of being. Not everybody wants to hug people the first time they meet them. Has Meghan seriously grown up thinking everyone is the same as she is. It’s such a me focused way of thinking.

I’m from Los Angeles.
Grew up in that industry.
My brother and uncle ran one of the biggest firms doing security for all of the studios.
As a recovered Angelino (thank you, UK for saving my ass! 😁), I know exactly what MM is, culturally speaking- as an Angelino, just to reiterate- and I’m just going to say, put some goddamn shoes on. 😆
It’s not a Californian thing to meet your in laws bare foot and insist on hugging. Yes, we’re huggers. But we also know when to dial it back. It’s called reading the room and we have enough historical evidence to show us that Harry and Meghan are not very good at reading the room. They need to just stop with their ‘story’. They are unimaginably privileged and they just need to STFU. I am fed up of their whining, especially in a time of war and economic crisis. I’ve grown to loathe what they AND the RF represent.

Let's be honest, the RF is on its last legs.

It's needs a huge modernisation. Personally I wouldn't be too sad to see it go.

I see what she’s saying and don’t find it offensive, just naive. I dressed nicely when I first met my in laws and I was very polite and formal until I got the measure of them and gradually relaxed in their company over a period of time. I can imagine the royal family would have relaxed around her and become less formal once they had got to know and trust her.

I think generally as a culture we start off wary of people and gradually relax whereas maybe in America they’re a lot more trusting and relaxed from the off. Neither way is right or wrong, if she wants to wear ripped jeans and bare feet and hug everyone then great but read the room and respect other people are different.

Oh wind your neck in OP. Just because it's insulting to you doesn't mean it's insulting to everyone else. Your massive stereotyping of cultures really says a lot for how much you know about other cultures.

Jeez so even behind closed doors Kate is stuffy and straight laced. Does she ever loosen up. It's likes she's constantly worried William is going to dump her again.

I think Meghan clearly wishes to distance herself culturally and morally from the RF, yes.

I believe she has her reasons and that history will likely vindicate her choices, although likely not in the immediate future.

Both hers and Harry's behaviour at this time will be viewed rather more favourably given the benefit of some hindsight in the coming decades. If this were not the case it would have been prudent for the pair of them to have shut their traps ages ago. My assessment of their actions is that they are pretty well acquainted with the closet in which the skeletons are residing.

I haven't watched it, but I'm gathering (so far) that there isn't enough real stuff to froth over, so every little thing will be pounced on.

Tbh if you find this grossly insulting you need to gain some perspective.

What? It’s not a cultural thing is an individual, some people are more tactile than others. She has not said anything wrong on your quote?

To those saying that this will damage the Royal Family - if such an innocuous statement can damage them, then they must be exceedingly fragile.

I'm not keen on her persona but have never actually met her so can't really comment. However, she has been brought up very differently from the other royals, even Kate (albeit from a non-royal family) was brought up with money etc. so would be used to that way of being. I think Harry was more in the wrong here for not warning her that things would be different and not expect a hug. In her own home she can wear what she likes!

Quite.

I think this is true.
Lots of people have already said in advance on MN that they want to froth about the Netflix documentary and some were even saying they were looking forward to criticising the documentary. So I guess if there is really nothing to criticise so far, they have to do this shit.

Oh please - some people just love to be shocked by Meghan. I did not realize how huggy they were when I moved to California, and it was a big culture shock. Not sure where you think you learn this stuff.

So in MN-speak, M doesn't have an in-laws problem, she has a DH problem.

Harry didn't seem to warn her about anything to do with being part of the Royal Family; or be of any use to her whatsoever when was immersed in suicidal ideation; and then contradicted her on Oprah in front of a global audience.

Now he's comparing her to Diana which will go down like a tonne of cold sick, and simultaneously cause her to be a figure of fun, instead of stressing that she is her own person which I think would have been the wiser thing to do.

But Harry and wisdom seem to have parted company.

Did half of MN think Harry was going to marry them instead?

I genuinely can't understand the obsession with hating everything Megan does 😂

Can you imagine an MN thread? My in-laws are visiting for the first time and I am being told I have to buy new clothes because my in-laws will not approve of what I normally wear, what should I do?

OP, you sound unhinged

@RheanaT if unhinged means that I have an understanding that other people may be different from me then ok.

I can absolutely see why Megan would think things would be informal behind closed doors . We all relax and aren't on ceremony in our own homes so it's not unreasonable to assume the same here .
If anyone is at fault it's Harry for not explaining the etiquette of the royals

I do not think a Californian girl from a high society background would do this in the UK as they would usually want to follow the cultural norms of the country they were in and they usually find it freezing over here even in thermals!

Teenagers might do it. I do get those vibes from both of them but if you are over forty then it is a bit strange.

I am done with her now.

I doubt that.