Am shocked Meghan said this…

[Ndd135632]

She said: 'Even when Will and Kate came over and I was meeting her for the first time I remember I was in ripped jeans, I was bare foot, like I was a hugger, I have always been a hugger I didn't realise that is really jarring for a lot of Brits.'

'I started to understand that the formality on the outside carried through on the inside, that there is a forward facing way of being and then you close the door and thing OK we can relax now, but that formality carries over on both sides and that was surprising to me.'

What an utterly horrible thing to say about your sister and brother-in-law. I am done with her now. People are DIFFERENT Meghan. We are not all like you you you you.

Exactly . Harry should have guided her. No one is suggesting a ball gown and tiara but maybe a pair of ballet pumps ? MM doesn’t have the prettiest of feet !

I cannot take ANYONE seriously who moans about press intrusion and then puts this out on the media. they are just waking up to the fact that somehow they are going to need to fund their lifestyle and this is how they are doing it

Exactly

I think it's another way of saying she's warm and friendly and the RF aren't - just another little dig. My family aren't tactile. I'm uncomfortable with hugging people I don't know well (and even those I do know well). Hugging someone on a first meeting, nope, never going to happen! My SIL is a hugger. I love her, but I hate the hugging.

She's right in saying Brits (or people from the UK) are more formal/less likely to do hugging/kissing. It's a stereotype but historically true. I suppose it's changing, I noticed DD and her school friends used to hug each other at the drop of a hat, something we never did.

But once this series is over and the book is out - what then ?

@MiniCooperLover or maybe he did and Meghan thought he was taking the piss? Cos I would.

@Readinginthesun Maybe when you were 36 you were happy to dress like you were elderly. But plenty of women of this age still dress trendily. It is still young.

THIS is what has shocked you enough to start a thread?

Not the fact that the Suits production team had to wire off trailers for security, that she was hounded in Toronto or that her letters had o be sent to Harry's security team in London, and that she received death threats in Toronto even before she married Harry?

Curious, the things you find outrageous.

Meghan is making a rather catty assumption that W&K are always formal behind closed doors. I don't think that can be true at all. They were just formal with her. Maybe they have never found her to be likeable or trustworthy someone they feel relaxed with.

I have just opened this thread as I thought from the title that Meghan must have said.... well I don't know quite what, but something outrageous. Let's just say I'm disappointed.

I'd think British imperialism is pretty important in understanding the royal family and British culture. And the OP is getting annoyed about MM not researching British culture, but then when M does talk about the relatively history that has helped shaped that culture she is accused of stoking hatred. Seems like she can't win.

I have always been a hugger I didn't realise that is really jarring for a lot of Brits

Like a PP I don't like being hugged by strangers so I'm with Kate and William on this but plenty of Brits are fine with it. What was M trying to say, did K and W actually pick her up on it or was that just her assumption?

I don't understand how not wanting to hug is considered formal, I just value my personal space and only hug those who I have some kind of positive relationship with. I couldn't care less about the jeans or bare feet.

I hate being hugged or touched by family or friends, I would have froze then backed away. Why should any of us allow ourselves to be touched against our will? If this was a thread about a MIL patting a baby bump or family members expecting children to hug or kiss against against their will what would the response be.
This is nothing to do with culture but everything to do with personal boundaries.
To all the huggers out there, back off.

You actually believe everything you've seen on the Crown?
crikey!!

We have whole threads on here full of British people revolted by the idea a shoe might cross their threshold. Sounds like Meghan would fit right in.

I don’t think it’s kind to say things like this about your SIL on TV but the actual meeting just sounds like two very different people, not that anyone was in the wrong.

i am well into my 60s and still dress fashionably ( jeans and shirt on today ) however you referred to MM as young as if she was a teenager and she most certainly wasn’t!

I think I would too! What they curtsey and bow in private even where there are no staff there!
I do get the Royal Family are different and has its own protocol that they will see as normal. But it is so different from what anyone else does that I don't before the crown anyone would have thought it was true. I even remember after they showed it in the Crown some people on MN thinking it was made up.

If that has sent you over the edge with horror @Ndd135632, you are in for one hell of a ride with the rest of the Netflix reality show

This.

Oh get over yourself ffs. She’s said nothing wrong here. Absolutely blows my mind that people go on about MM the way they do.

She could give some of you a bunch of roses and you’d find offence in it. It’s utterly pathetic. You need to get a grip, fgs.

This.

Whatever they feel like I guess... what're you doing next year?

Not a Meghan fan but I don't think that this is an unacceptable thing to say.
I would never hug someone that I had never met before but I would expect Harry to have briefed her beforehand so she could have popped some shoes on

@Readinginthesun I did not refer to her as a teenager. I am saying at that time ripped jeans were trendy and perfectly normal for a trendy 36 year old woman to wear. I had friends in their forties who wore ripped jeans. It was not unusual.
I don't like this fashion, but it was normal wear.

I don’t see the issue with what she said. I just see it as her saying she was expecting them to be more informal behind closed doors.

I’m not a hugger, I don’t mind if other people are, but I don’t like being touched by other people as a greeting. Not an issue as long as others don’t insist on it. If they step in to hug me I just step back. Nothing wrong with it, just different.