If someone says they were born here and are British, I’d leave it there. But, as other posters have said, it might not have killed Ngozi to think “this is an elderly lady, I know what she’s asking and she’s probably just trying to make conversation” and said “I’m British born and raised but my parents were from the Caribbean. Did my outfit give it away! Can I tell you about my charity?”
Ngozi isn't a fool. She wouldn't be in the position she holds if she were. She's an intelligent, articulate woman, and you can do her the credit of assuming she knew precisely what Susan Hussey meant. And if that tweet was a verbatim transcription of the interaction between the two of them, any reader with half a clue can pick up that meaning too.
It's great that people are seeing fit to advise black people how they - who have to suffer this tedious, everlasting shit on a more-or-less daily basis - should handle it so as to cause minimum distress and inconvenience to the privileged white woman deliberately trying to cause her distress, and to put her back in her box as an 'other' who didn't share her position of privilege (as if she needed reminding). And all this on superficial acquaintance and for no other reason than the colour of her skin.
Ngozi dealt with the situation with grace, which is more than can be said for the professed 'Lady'. SHE shamed herself; nobody else.
@MrsMaxDeWinter - I'm not a regular on the Royal Boards and only tend to post on these threads when they trend, or when a major story surrounding them comes up. I've been a staunch republican for most of my life and wouldn't go out of my way to support a single one of them, or follow what they're doing on any kind of a regular basis. But I do find the constant singling out of Markle - fueled by a hideous, bullying right-wing media with a grudge - really distasteful and the board politics you describe don't sound much like my idea of fun.
To deny the racism at the root of that institution is what's commonly called persistence in the face of all evidence to the contrary; in other words sticking your fingers in your ears and going 'la, la, la'.
The comment upthread that the monarchy is adept at adapting: I have to say I respectfully disagree. They look more out of place and ridiculously anachronistic with every day that passes. There are few other institutions - and none so visible - which more backward, out of date, and irrelevant than Brand Windsor.
As to the palace offering Ngozi her the role of one of the companions, with their track record I know exactly where, were I in her shoes, I'd tell them to ram it ...