I think that the Firm must be bitterly disappointed in how this has turned out. They really wanted it to work, they wanted MM to be the person of colour ( is that okay this week) who married into the vile colonist institution and made it all alright, or at least a bit better. I think they tried pretty hard.
I don’t think that if Harry had wanted to marry a white blonde sit com actress who was a very recent divorcée , older than him , whom he had met less than a year before the announcement, they would have no been so accommodating. I don’t think the Archbishop of Canterbury would have broken the rules on divorced people marrying in church which had been enforced on the Prince of Wales and Camilla , especially when the bride had not been a member of that church for more than a month or two. I dont think they would have gone along with the charade of the white dress ( or three) and the veil which the Queen was fairly surprised by. I don’t think that the Prince of Wales would have escorted the bride down the aisle to marry his son the groom , when the bride had a a father, an uncle or …..well almost any one else of vague suitability.
As for the racism, the AOC found a black preacher ( Megan didn’t know him) for the wedding. They welcomed a gospel choir to perform during the service. Perhaps this was condescending, or the wrong sort of welcome, but I think they did their best.
they were allowed to rent from Soho Farmhouse, I believe an unprecedented choice of abode. Then they moved to Frogmore , which cost a small fortune to do up in a very individual style.
The Queen persuaded her personal secretary to work for Meghan. she invited her on the Royal train before she was married, an unprecedented gesture.
I think they did their best to welcome her, maybe not from the purest motives, but only God sees them and can judge them. I don’t think they have got much thanks for it.