@EdithWeston
And you can apply the same logic for anti Meghan people too
Agree
But you can't fairly apply it to the many, many posters on this thread who are neither one nor the other.
I'm not a Meghan fan. I didn't have any issues with her at the start, she seemed nice enough - it was good to see Harry in love. All the privilege in the world doesn't make up for losing your mum so young, and in such awful circumstances and everyone deserves to be happy.
But her/their inconsistencies, lies and willingness to use the media to trash their family, while simultaneously complaining about the damage the media does to them.......no, I'm not a fan at all. I am deeply opposed to their hypocrisy and I don't like people who twist the truth to suit their own agenda.
But despite all of that, I do question myself. I have regularly asked myself if I've been fair. I've wondered whether I've been taken in by unfair comments in the media. I've questioned whether some of the behaviours that I find unpalatable are just a difference in UK/US culture.
I can also acknowledge that there must have been things which were really awful for Meghan. No matter how much she idolised the royal family from afar as a teen, the reality of it must have been a shock and difficult to get used to. She comes from the hard-nosed world of entertainment so understanding the subtleties of British diplomacy would have been a huge change, and unintended faux pas would have been inevitable. She was in a strange country and away from her mum. Most of her family seem trashy and awful.
Yes, I dislike the lies, attention-seeking and manipulation. I think the court case is revealing the extent to which Meghan is willing to lie to suit her own agenda. The fact she wanted to publicly humiliate her sister by talking about how many dads her children have, and her loss of custody - while simultaneously failing to mention her sister has MS - shows that she is willing to be misogynistic and vicious to win at any cost. Her self-created role as a champion of women is at direct odds with her behaviour. She's deliberately lied to the court - if this was anyone else, they'd be in deep trouble. But I can still see that some things have been really difficult for her, and the adjustment must have been hard.
These two things can co-exist. My opinion of Meghan is poor but I can also recognise that some things have been really shit for her. I can recognise that some things I don't like about her are just cultural differences. I think she genuinely does care about making a difference, and I think she genuinely wants to help causes which are close to her heart. But I also think she's self-interested, manipulative and spiteful.
I get frustrated with anyone on either side of the argument who insists that there are no nuances, and that the other side is absolutely wrong in every single way. And that's what I mean about there being no point talking to people like that. I do think it's important to be fair, whatever your viewpoint is.