Going back to the question posed earlier about what Diana would think about it all, I do feel that it’s possible to say with some certainty that she would not have been happy with post-marriage developments in Harry’s life.
There is a tape recording in which Diana talks about a conversation with her stepmother Raine:
She said, ‘You don't know how much we've suffered because of Frances [Diana’s mother].’ I said, ‘Suffering, Raine? You don't know the word. I see suffering of such magnitude in my role that you would never even understand.’ I really spat it out at her.
She would have counselled Harry against talking about his own problems at the end of the African tour. Of course she would have been sympathetic but would have definitely let him know that the troubles of privileged people should not be brought up in those circumstances.
Actually, I don’t think she would have liked him talking of such private matters, whatever the context. Though she was indiscreet herself and did her own infamous tell-all interview, she came to feel ambivalent about her decision to do it, particularly in light of the negative effect it had on William. Knowing from personal experience the unanticipated heartache that can be caused to those you love most, I think she would have told Harry not to go public with his grievances.