I had so so many arguments with people online defending MM. Her Sister, her Dad, all the nasty racist stuff it was just so unfair and I couldn't see that she had done anything wrong. It was awful but there was also a large proportion of people who felt like me also.
I didn't start out disliking (I don't do hate) anyone, I'm very pragmatic about the human condition, no one is all good or all bad, but I didn't/don't blame the RF for any of the nastiest and racism aimed at MM. They did release statements condemning the racism, I remember it quite clearly.
I believe her MH suffered badly throughout all this, tbh I can't see how it could not in those circumstances.
On the other hand I do believe that her MH issues might have manifested itself in such a way as to make her behave in ways that affected the MH of those around her, I still don't see how this is the RF fault. I see people hurting people hurting other people.
Harry, well I've always had a soft spot for him. I was horrified that they walked behind Diana's coffin, it was too much for any child to handle. I always thought that one day one or both of them would have some real grievances to air about their Mum, the press and their father and their upbringing. How could you go through all that and not have issues.
We all have issues, we all treat people badly at times, we all have our reasons.
I really don't blame them for wanting out of the RF, but I blame them for focusing on the bad stuff for way too long, for bringing it up over and over, it's not healthy, especially because it hurts other people who also have issues just like them.
I blame them for having little compassion about the pain this is causing to grieving members of their family. I blame them because they haven't been fair or totally honest about their narrative. I blame them because they are quick to point out others mistakes whilst ignoring their own.
I don't hate them or wish them any harm, I just hope they come to terms with their pain quickly and can move on.