Here’s a different perspective.
I’m an expat, left the UK many years ago. Married, had children abroad, worked, bought a home etc.
I think many expats would agree then when you leave your home country, the people you leave behind (family, friends, colleagues) feel a sense of betrayal. You’re not betraying them, especially when you leave with a heavy heart, but to those left behind you’ve made an active choice of something/somewhere else over them and home.
It can come as a shock, the first few times you visit home, that everyone isn’t over the moon happy to see you. You don’t always realise that they’ve adjusted to life without you, that they may miss you but you miss everything about home including them. So, excitement levels going “home” are high for the expat, and more “so good to see you again” for those you’ve left behind.
It also is a thorn in a relationship if your partner doesn’t get homesickness, or (later) this sense of disappointment and second guessing that follows.
So, in thinking about Harry and these alleged video calls to patronages and military contacts, I just don’t think he gets it.
You cannot get more nationalistic and patriotic than the military: that’s what they’re for. To put Queen and country above all else, to give your life for it. People sacrifice marriages, stable home, limbs and life for their country. I don’t see how many fucks any of them would give about someone who’s chosen to leave they country (for a mega mansion in Hollywood!!).
The patronage’s: aside from the Commonwealth work, these are organisations that again serve the people of the UK, in the main. What do they care about someone who’s riding out the storm in Hollywood? Someone who chose to leave them for a swimming pool and Oprah and LA? He’s no more relevant to them than..... MM.
MM has no allegiance to the UK. Whatever motions she goes through, whatever lip service she pays, she’s not about the UK and she never was. She’s home now.
It will be years before Harry realises this, before he understands that you can’t have it both ways. Zooming in to people from a different time zone just isn’t the same. If when traveling bans are lifted he expects to travel to the UK multiple times per year, what does that say of his eco credentials? And how destabilizing is that?