@FrancisCrawford
And attempting to explain it by the old “but everyone else was doing it” excuse simply does not hold water. If your child explained they kicked a dog “because everyone else was doing it”, you’d still be furious with them
I did nothing of the sort. I explained my own experiences of such incidents in the same environment as Harry was in, in response to posters who found it incomprehensible. I knew someone would try to imply I was making excuses for him so made it quite clear that I was not doing so, only describing the context. Take your mini telling offs elsewhere and don't extrapolate meaning from my post, which simply isn't there. MN is ridiculous for this. You cannot speak about your own actual, lived experience in relation to a thread, without someone trying to shame you for it if it doesn't toe the current MN party line 