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[Grumpyoldpersonwithcats]

Continuation of previous threads.

Your vet sounds great, and it's very comforting that he went quickly and calmly. That's always been my experience too.
Give Girlcat a cuddle and look after yourself.

You did the best and kindest thing for Boycat.
It'll take a while to get used to his not being there. Sending all my sympathy.

Oh Allergic. I'm glad it was peaceful.
Lana is right, you need to look after yourself now.
Know that we are all thinking of you and sending lots of love.

As always, Super finds the right words that are in all our hearts

Blessings Allergic, he is at peace now and you did everything you could with love in your heart

Priority over me now of course is Girlcat. I know I did the right thing, but she won't understand where her brother has gone.

Sending so much love to you and Girlcat 💕

Love and (((hugs))) to you and GirlCat Allergic ♥️

Sending you lots of love and hugs @Allergictoironing

Sympathy to you and Girlcat. He was much loved.

You gave Boycat a fantastic life and then on top of this made sure that he had a peaceful and dignified end. You must look after yourself now as it has been a very difficult last few weeks for you.

How are you and Girlcat doing @Allergictoironing

Fred is being a weirdo tonight, super affectionate but just put his head in my hand like I'm strangling him. Odd ball.

I'm OK, work are being fantastic and as supportive as I want without being pushy. Last thing at night and first thing in the morning are the worst, I keep expecting him to leap onto the bed for his cuddles, and I'm not sleeping great because I keep dreaming about him being on the bed then waking up & he's not there.

Girlcat I think isn't doing brilliantly. She really wants to be in the same room as me all the time except over night, and is constantly coming to me for strokes. She's not eating much at all, though that's a blessing in disguise after all the weight she put on eating renal food!

But also because she hasn't got Boycat to play with, I'm making extra efforts to play with her using her favorite toys - and she's just not interested most of the time. She ignored the laser pointer (usually goes mad for it), had a couple of half hearted swipes at the feathers on a stick with a spring in the end, and eventually did try to kill Da Bird but lost interest after just a couple of minutes.

She also seems to go looking for him when he doesn't appear at significant times e.g. meal times & when I got in yesterday. I do worry about he being indoors alone all day when I'm at work 😟

You're both grieving, give yourself time. It's hard when they go looking for the other cat. I've talked to my cats and told them what happened and eventually they did seem to understand that they weren't coming back.

Hi Allergic. When one of ours was PTS the one left was very upset for a couple of days. We gave him extra cuddles and treats, but he was clearly anxious. He did gradually calm down but it took a while.
Give yourself and Girlcat time. It's only been a couple of days. It's a horrible thing to have to go through. I suppose it's the price we pay for loving them.

Havelock opened the catch on the kitchen window himself.

Busted when I felt a freezing draught and found him head down in pan of ham and lentil soup on stove.

Secretly quite proud. The burglar-proof clasp was no match for his fluffy black
paw.

NDN said ‘That’s odd - Havelock prefers bacon to ham’.

Um. No, no clue what is going on

Oh how tiny Ollie is 🥰

I've been off work today with a migraine. Leroy thought it was utter joy and has been a very understanding nurse.

I'm absolutely fine now but don't tell DH

Emerald, having a nap.

Oh my gosh! Paws and Ollie sleeping together!!!

Girlcat is driving me slightly insane today.

She came to fetch me from my bedroom when she thought I'd taken too long to get up - never used to do this, and it was literally 10 minutes after I'd got out of bed for a pee. I'm "allowed" about 5 mins at a time on the PC, then I get summoned with little squeaks followed by louder, sharper noises if I don't respond right away. I have to be in attendance constantly, and be prepared to fuss her if she's anywhere within reach. The only break I've had was when she sat in the window calling out to neighbouring cats, and when I needed the loo I took a book in there for 5 minutes peace.

Rather than her wanting one fussing session last night, she wanted 3 and then seemed hopeful for even more.

I know it's because she's lonely & missing her brother, but normally by this time of day she'd be crashed out on my bed rather than sitting by the study door mithering at me & wanting even more attention.

I'm thinking Project New Companion for Girlcat may have to be pushed forwards a bit at this rate. I know I have the responsibility of helping her over this, and love her so want to help all I can, but there's my own recovery to consider as well 😔

Why don't you have chat with one of the big cat charities Allergic? I'm thinking CPL, along those lines. They'll be able to advise you on when to introduce a new cat in cases of bereavement and what signs to look for to know when the right time is. They should be able to do a good match for you as well, based not only on GirlCat's temperament but also the circumstances.

In the meantime you'll both benefit from a few extra cuddles... I said a FEW GirlCat!

Sending (((hugs))) 💐

And remember - offering a happy, loving home to another cat does not mean you are "over" your grief, I genuinely don't think you ever really are. If anything it shows just how much you love BoyCat and what a joy he brought to you...

I'm struggling to explain, I'll shut up.

I do understand what you're saying Yes, perfectly clear and that's how I'm thinking.

I've already started looking around, but virtually every one (of the very few) indoor only cats up for adoption need to be an "only" cat.

Of course it doesn’t. Capn is round
my neck 24/7 and I kiss him goodnight every night. I miss him. A fantastic person and cat.

But little Prince turned up homeless. That was that.

Sometimes feelings have to take a back seat to a greater need. Obviously.