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QueenOllie · 09/10/2020 10:14

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coastergirl · 23/11/2020 15:21

He's gone. I'm in bits.

Thank you all so much for keeping me company through this.

swampytiggaa · 23/11/2020 15:24

🌈 🐈 so much love to you @coastergirl 💐 my heart is breaking for you

QueenPaws · 23/11/2020 15:25

I'm am so so sorry. Godspeed Bertie

Fluffycloudland77 · 23/11/2020 15:36

Poor Bertie, he didn’t deserve that ending so young.

Guiltypleasures001 · 23/11/2020 15:44

I'm so so sorry lovely thinking of you here as well x

TheLongRider · 23/11/2020 17:40

Thank you for trying your best for him. You did the right thing for him.

TheSilveryPussycat · 23/11/2020 18:03

So very sorry that you had to let him go Sad

coastergirl · 23/11/2020 19:29

I just want him back.

Defiantly41 · 23/11/2020 19:37

Heartbreaking. Such a beautiful boy and much loved

Fluffycloudland77 · 23/11/2020 19:38

Of course you do, who wouldn’t want that little face next to them?. You went above & beyond when he got lost.

I'm sorry you have to go through this.

QueenPaws · 23/11/2020 19:41

Go really easy on yourself. I cried for days when my horse went and I still can't speak about her out loud to anyone. Do what feels right whether that's crying or being angry or going to bed. And we are all here for you surrounding you with love

swampytiggaa · 23/11/2020 19:56

Such a beautiful boy 💕 so glad you got him back and that he was so loved by you 💕 so sad for you tho

nettie434 · 23/11/2020 20:20

So very sorry for you and Bertie Coastergirl

Supersimkin2 · 23/11/2020 20:21

No kitty has been better protected and looked after, darling - he had a lovely life. Take care of yourself. I'm so sorry.

coastergirl · 23/11/2020 20:27

You're all making me cry even more by being so lovely. I just don't feel like he did have a lovely life. He was a feral kitten, found with two litter mates and no mum. It took a lot of rehab by the rescue to get them ready to be rehomed. Then it took a long time for him to trust me. He spent a lot of time scared. Then there was the two months he was missing earlier this year. And now this. Only two and a half. I love him so much. He had the pointiest nose that he was very insistent on using to demand strokes.

I can't even look at Walter. What's that about?

And yes just how is Darcy? And all the other lovely kitties on this thread. I'd love to hear about them.

Another couple of Bertie.

Justonedayatatime11 · 23/11/2020 20:33

Darcy is hanging on but not looking good. I'm barely holding it together to be honest

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coastergirl · 23/11/2020 20:35

Oh just I'm sorry. I hope she pulls through.

Supersimkin2 · 23/11/2020 20:45

Oh sweet @Justonedayatatime11, sending love to you both. Darcy is so very lovely.

@coastergirl Bertie loved and was loved, and that's what matters. Thing is, when someone dies, your first reaction is always to think of the trials they went through, but what lasts forever is the good bits. You gave him love and he loved you.

Of course you can't look at Walter. I was revolted by any cat having the cheek to be alive when Mr C died. Wears off.

Papergirl1968 · 23/11/2020 20:55

They are lovely photos, Coaster.
Be kind to yourself. You are a brilliant cat mom, and have nothing to blame yourself for. Look how hard you tried to get him back in the summer. I know it’s hard but give Walter a hug - it might make you feel better.
Just, I’m so very sorry Darcy is not better. Come on, Darcy, we can’t lose another of our fur babies this week...

coastergirl · 23/11/2020 21:25

You lot are amazing with words. Lana that's exactly it. How dare he be ok and carrying on as normal when I had to hold Bertie as he died this afternoon? Well actually I didn't have to but I wanted him to know i hadn't abandoned him. But I don't feel like I should feel this way towards Walter because he's mine too.

Can I ask a question of you wise cat ladies? Apologies if there are any cat gents here.

When the vet rang me with the final prognosis from the second opinion, she did tell me that there was one more option (if we had all the money in the world). That was to go to London to be put on dialysis. I live in Southport. I didn't even ask about cost because I felt it would be too much for such a timid, nervous cat, and that the only option was to let him go peacefully. What would you have done? She didn't even sound like it was a realistic option, but said she had to make me aware. My vets were phenomenal throughout. They really tried everything.

Justonedayatatime11 · 23/11/2020 21:34

coastergirl you did the right thing. It's the worst decision in the world to have to make, I know, but you've done the right thing and I'd have done the same

coastergirl · 23/11/2020 21:37

Thank you just. Self doubt is awful. He was already in such a bad way though, I couldn't bear it.

Supersimkin2 · 23/11/2020 21:42

God no, I wouldn't have done that. Horrible stress & a relentless long journey in a rattly van would not have made his end any better, to put it mildly, and it would have speeded it up. Nothing to do with money.

Vets are obliged by their rules to tell you these things even tho you both know you'll do what's best for him.

coastergirl · 23/11/2020 21:48

@Supersimkin2 thank you. He was so poorly so quickly. I felt like he was slipping away on my knee waiting for the vet to call back last night. I know I did the right thing really but I need reassurance. I struggle with anxiety and self doubt at the best of times.

I really don't think I'll ever have another pet. I'll give Walter a happy life, but no more after him. The pain is too much when they get sick or die.

Papergirl1968 · 23/11/2020 21:48

You did the best thing for Bertie, so please banish any doubts about that. And you chose to be there with him at the end, despite how distressing it was for you.
He is at peace now, and wherever pets go when they leave this earth, but you may be aware of his presence from time to time. I like to think they pop in to say hi and see if we are ok.

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