Just got a kitten for my 6 year olds birthday, and its caused huge rows between husband and I.

[lovesmountains]

Thanks for taking the time to read.

We bought a 3 month old house trained kitten from a rescue centre this week for my daughters 6th birthday present.

She is adorable and we all love her but DH has decided she is ABSOLUTELY not allowed in the house at all. We do have a wonderful garden and some shelter for her outside but my daughter and I would still love to be able to give her a cuddle in the house.

I've suggested that she comes in the house just to go on our lap and not wander around, but DH thinks she need to know her boundaries and this will only confuse her.

Never having had a cat before, would love to know others views on this.

Many thanks,

Having read your last post OP - I don't understand why she can come in when you live in an apartment but not whilst you are living in the whole house? Or have I misunderstood?

Even if she is safe, as you say, sooner or later she will find a home that offers what she wants - i.e. to come & go as she pleases. Cats are all about comfort [hsmile].

plenty of cats with loving homes will decamp to a nearby house with more cuddles and better/bigger food offerings...

what do you think yours will do as it has no warm home, and only sees people when they choose? it will not take your cat long to find someone else to feed her and care for her properly

how will you explain that to your dd? after all it is her cat right? the cat she can't actually play with or cuddle unless she goes outside and then only if she can find it

I do not know why I am hanging around on this thread. Usually I'm one of the hardhearted ones who just joins an animal welfare thread to say, FGS it's just an animal, put it to sleep. But the plight of this kitten is upsetting me.

OP, you are noticing everything we say that agrees with your position, but you haven't said one word to explain or justify why you are not returning the kitten to the rescue centre tomorrow. You made a mistake: you want a pet, your dh does not. Why won't you do the decent thing and take the cat back?

thisisyesterday - I thought troll because of the OP's failure to see the total inadequacy of her reposnse. But bizarre topic for some trolling surely?

She is a baby

Fuck your and your husband's boundaries - no one has the right to inflict such boundaries on a kitten....

....take her back tomorrow.

Please take the kitten back. If you are so eager to get back on an even keel with your husband, that will achieve that without putting the little kitten's health and life at risk.

bizarre topic in some ways, but guaranteed to get people riled up.... teenagers get their kicks from such things (which is even more bizarre)

sad life people must have if this is what passes for entertainment!

Good god, I feel bad when I shove my cats of the bed because I can't move. How could you possibly live with a tiny kitten scratching at your window? You've got to be fucking cold, just the image of that makes me cry.

Good god, I feel bad when I shove my cats of the bed because I can't move. How could you possibly live with a tiny kitten scratching at your window? You've got to be fucking cold, just the image of that makes me cry.

Poor poor kitten :( she will be gone by the morning if you are leaving her outside tonight. Take her back if you aren't going to look after her properly ffs...and keeping a cat outside all the time is NOT looking after it properly.

I think OP is relying on lack of neighbours in teh country to keep the cat captive.

Unfortunately after reading some of the op's other posts I don't think she is on a wind up

And if this is a troll and i'm too pissed to notice - i stand by what i have said in the vain fucking hope that some people will take responsibility in their lives for the animals they choose to take on and then get rid of on a whim - i have seen far far too much of it in my time - and i think they are the lowest of the low...

OP, just searched for your previous discussions on here. Terribly bad form I know.

But your DH does sound like a heartless wanker from your other threads.

Not sure why you'd be surprised that he's willing to lock a 12 wk old kitten outside forever given his previous form.

X posts Tigerbomb and Kew

Feeling terrible. But do appreciate the time you have all taken to explain things to me.
I'm not sure what I haven't answered that you have asked, as someone mentioned.

Just been to check kitten who is sleeping peacefully.
I'll show this thread to DH first thing in the morning and if it doesn't convince him, I'll take her straight back to the centre.

Oh, that is a relief! Well done OP. Hope you get your dh to see sense, but if you don't then it's good you will do the right thing for the kitten.

or perhaps you'd be better off standing up for yourself and not letting him bully you and your daughter any more?

just a thought

I know this is a bit late in the thread, but I'm hoping that sheer numbers will force you into seeing how unreasonable your DH is being for keeping this poor little kitten outside and how unreasonable you are being for allowing this to happen.

You say you will take her back to the shelter if she is in danger, well, SHE ALREADY IS IN DANGER! Take her back ASAP or throw your husband out (personally, I'd go with the latter, but...)

The kitten isn't old enough to have been spayed so will no doubt be pregnant before you actually get it done in a few months too. Are you prepared to take on newborns? And would your H make them live outside too?

He does sound like a terrible bully. Stand up for yourself and your DD (not to mention puss).

Oops, x-posts. Sorry, typing slow on phone. Hoping that your husband has a personality transplant overnight!

I am very relieved you are going to take her back. It is the only humane thing to do if your DH will not see reason.