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My furbaby

302 replies

Skates · 30/03/2025 20:44

So I’m a man. I live with my little French bulldog who is my absolute world. He’s 6 years old. From a puppy he’s always slept on my bed and I wouldn’t have it any other way. So I met a girl. We get on great but unfortunately she thinks dogs shouldn’t be allowed on the furniture or sleep on the bed. We haven’t spent a night together as I won’t leave my dog to stay at hers and she won’t sleep at mine because my dog sleeps with me. I can’t see this relationship going anywhere and she says I’m being unreasonable putting my dog before her needs. I’ll always put my dog before any relationship. AIBU?

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Wolfiefan · 30/03/2025 20:45

Well you’ll be breaking up with this girlfriend and may be staying single for the time being. And furbaby? Boak!

Sminty2 · 30/03/2025 20:47

No. You and your dog are a family. Who would want to break up a family?

BatchCookBabe · 30/03/2025 20:48

Hope you're happy to be perma single.

PhilippaGeorgiou · 30/03/2025 20:49

Ummm. You need to find a hobby. You are going to have a lot of time for it.

I have a much loved dog. Had them all my life. Furniture is for humans. Never seen a hyena on a sofa. If dogs needed furniture they'd have invented it.

Fedup1978 · 30/03/2025 20:49

YANBU She’s just not the right girl for you

TennesseeStella · 30/03/2025 20:49

She is right. Shut your pet in the kitchen/downstairs overnight.

Ownedbykitties · 30/03/2025 20:49

Impasse then. I wouldn't be upsetting my pet for a new relationship tbh. Smile

BaggyPJs · 30/03/2025 20:50

My pets are allowed on the bed. Wouldn't date anyone who expected me to change that.

She's no big loss @Skates. There are plenty of women who also let their dogs on the bed.

toomuchfaff · 30/03/2025 20:50

Simply put, you're not compatible.

she says I’m being unreasonable putting my dog before her

This is red flag type language. It's unreasonable to expect someone with a dog of six years to put your needs above their pet, especially when you're an early stage girlfriend.

TeapotTitties · 30/03/2025 20:51

You're a 'man' but she's a 'girl'?

Anyway YANBU to put your dog first if that's what you want to do.

Plenty of women won't have a problem with you not wanting to leave your dog.

This is not the right woman for you that's all.

SonoPazziQuestiRomani · 30/03/2025 20:51

No one is BU other than you for allowing your dog on the furniture and calling it a fur baby. You're just incompatible with this woman.

AllrightNowBaby · 30/03/2025 20:52

She’s not right for you, it’s your house, your bed and if you want your dog on it, then that’s the end of it…
Find a dog lover….

TeapotTitties · 30/03/2025 20:52

TennesseeStella · 30/03/2025 20:49

She is right. Shut your pet in the kitchen/downstairs overnight.

If any new date expected me to do that, I'd sooner shut him in the kitchen.

stclementine · 30/03/2025 20:52

She’s so unreasonable. My dog sleeps on my bed and he’s a hell of a lot bigger than a frenchie. Your values are incompatible and you will make each other miserable so end it now before you upset your dog.

MissMoneyFairy · 30/03/2025 20:54

You love your dog more than this girl, it'll never work so say goodbye now. Don't call your dog your furbaby, it's really off putting.

SonoPazziQuestiRomani · 30/03/2025 20:55

TennesseeStella · 30/03/2025 20:49

She is right. Shut your pet in the kitchen/downstairs overnight.

She's not right though (and I say that as someone who hates dogs being allowed in furniture). It's his house and his dog. It's just a sign that the relationship is a non-starter.

TeapotTitties · 30/03/2025 20:57

MissMoneyFairy · 30/03/2025 20:54

You love your dog more than this girl, it'll never work so say goodbye now. Don't call your dog your furbaby, it's really off putting.

Of course he does and so he should!

Dogs on average live to be around 14 years of age.

Why would he suddenly love a woman he's just met, more than his dog?

Mylegishangingoff · 30/03/2025 20:57

Ditch her. You are very different people. I couldn't be with someone with such different views to me about pets, it'll be a nightmare in the long run. It doesn't even matter which one of you is 'right' just that you will never be compatible(you are right though obviously).

BallerinaRadio · 30/03/2025 20:58

There have been about 3 dogs in the past couple of weeks splitting couples up on here 🙄

TY78910 · 30/03/2025 21:01

I think if you let your dog do something for 6 years, it would be cruel to suddenly change that. It would be different if you taught it from puppy to not come in to your bedroom, but it would likely stress your dog out if you shut it out so I disagree with the posters who say it’s that simple.

I agree that you’re not compatible in that sense, you would need an equal animal lover to enter your life. There are people out there like that.

Also, fur baby is a widely used term for pets - don’t listen to these grinches.

TeapotTitties · 30/03/2025 21:01

BallerinaRadio · 30/03/2025 20:58

There have been about 3 dogs in the past couple of weeks splitting couples up on here 🙄

Well they're not mine.

Mine can't even type! 😁

vodkaredbullgirl · 30/03/2025 21:02

🤔

coldcallerbaiter · 30/03/2025 21:04

Your gf is right, I wouldn’t even live with a dog in the house. I can smell them and some are a nuisance.

Bingbopboomboomboombopbam · 30/03/2025 21:06

She should break up for the term “fur baby” alone.

But in all seriousness: can’t the dog sleep on the floor when she stays over? I love bf’s family dog but I just can’t sleep with a dog in the bed. I wake up with every little
thing, let alone a dog moving around.

When I was younger my family just left the doors open so that our dog could come in and out of each bedroom during the night. He was trained not to be on the bed/sofa (he did when we were out, but still).

Breezybetty · 30/03/2025 21:06

i think you will be limiting yourself to a very niche market in the dating field by insisting your dog stays in your bed. There is no way I’d date you, not just the dog in bed thing but I’d run a mile from anyone who used the expression ‘fur baby’.