My furbaby

[Skates]

So I’m a man. I live with my little French bulldog who is my absolute world. He’s 6 years old. From a puppy he’s always slept on my bed and I wouldn’t have it any other way. So I met a girl. We get on great but unfortunately she thinks dogs shouldn’t be allowed on the furniture or sleep on the bed. We haven’t spent a night together as I won’t leave my dog to stay at hers and she won’t sleep at mine because my dog sleeps with me. I can’t see this relationship going anywhere and she says I’m being unreasonable putting my dog before her needs. I’ll always put my dog before any relationship. AIBU?

Do you really think a dog that sleeps in the bed with its owner everyday and is suddenly expected to sleep on the floor will just be like yeah, cool and merrily sleep on the floor? My dog gets upset if it cant sleep in its usual spot in the bed, I think she would drop down dead if I suggested she sleep on the floor.

Don’t like the sound of her 🤣

Because it is not the same as a human or woman, pretty sure men prefer woman to dogs for the important stuff like being able to speak, earn, family, babies, life….

@Mylegishangingoff I don’t know, OP could try to slowly train him out of bed. Doesn’t have to send the poor thing into shock.

But ultimately yeah, I don’t see how they’re compatible.

I mean it's hard to have some spontaneous fun if there's a dog on the bed so yeah I don't think she's being unreasonable.

Neither of you are BU, it’s just sounds like incompatible lifestyles, it’s hardly a single forever issue though, there are lots of women who also have dogs on the bed etc

She sounds controlling with the wanting to be priotised over your fur baby language. Very reminiscent of language my controlling ex used.

Please dump her, there will be the next thing she wants to change about you and how you do things.

Even if we give her the benefit of the doubt, you're not compatible and you would never be happy about putting your dog on the floor for the rest of your life. You're better if ending it now. There are plenty of woman who would be happy to share the bed with you and pooch. Anything else wouldn't work.
Your dog is and should be your absolute priority as he/she is dependent, and got used to the bond you have.

Prepare to be single for the rest of your dog's life if you'll always put it before any relationship. It's a dog which gives the appearance of liking you because you feed it!

It doesn't make her right.

It makes her different to the OP 🤷‍♂️

^ This

Plenty of women like dogs. This woman isn’t compatible with you. Your dog came first. Your dog will be there after the relationship ends.

It’s also worthwhile thinking about where you draw the line with your boundaries generally. She will have opinions on other things that you like or how you do things. And she will expect you to change.

Ditch the girlfriend.

Women often can’t say the same about men going by most posts …

Well, you're not being unreasonable but neither is she. Nothing wrong with having a dog but I wouldn't want to sleep in the same bed as a dog.

Decision time for you.

My little dog is currently lying on my bed next to me but will go and sleep in his cage in the corner of the bedroom for the night. Could you teach your dog to do this instead if the relationship is really important to you? But saying that I wouldn't be putting up with a new partner coming in and dictating to me what I could do with my pet that I'd owned for 6 years!

Not everyone hates dogs but they are a majority on MN. I would never date anyone who was not an animal lover.

YANBU OP your dog should be your priority.

Neither of you are being unreasonable, but it's a compatability issue. Were I in your position, and unless your dog happily adjusted to it, I would not compromise on it. For me, my pets' happiness would come first over a new relationship. I'd be willing to try to balance both but ultimately I think your moral duty is to your dog.

Sorry but how do you have sex with a dog on the bed?

am I the only one thinking this?

I absolutely love dogs, but I wouldn't sleep in a bed with my own lovely dog, never mind somebody else's. And a potential partner calling his dog a furbaby would give me the ick, frankly!

Well, where would you have sex with a dog?

It’s a dog, not a baby. And she’s a woman not a girl. Break up with her as it’s not going anywhere and she’s wasting her time.

How do you have sex with a dog wobbling about on the bed next to you??

Ew.

The thing is, neither of you are wrong so this is just a fundamental incompatibility.

My partner actually didn’t see a girl again that he was dating because she told him her dog slept in the bed with her, and that was a non-negotiable. That was a deal breaker for him.
I have two quite large dogs, but they don’t sleep in the bed/ all human beds are off limits and he is more than happy with them.

Just horses for courses 🤷🏽‍♀️

Wow.

That’s her in the bin then

No way would someone so new in my life be telling me what I could and couldn’t do with my pet and trying to emotionally manipulate me

I’ll always put my dog before any relationship. AIBU?

Any relationship?
Well you'll have to meet a woman who's happy to come second to a dog. Not a healthy dynamic in my humble opinion.