My furbaby

[Skates]

So I’m a man. I live with my little French bulldog who is my absolute world. He’s 6 years old. From a puppy he’s always slept on my bed and I wouldn’t have it any other way. So I met a girl. We get on great but unfortunately she thinks dogs shouldn’t be allowed on the furniture or sleep on the bed. We haven’t spent a night together as I won’t leave my dog to stay at hers and she won’t sleep at mine because my dog sleeps with me. I can’t see this relationship going anywhere and she says I’m being unreasonable putting my dog before her needs. I’ll always put my dog before any relationship. AIBU?

I would have ended it as soon as you referred to your dog as a furbaby. It’s a dog.

from a dog lover

She's not being emotionally manipulative, she's just saying she doesn't want to share a bed with a dog. That's not unreasonable.

In which case she and the OP aren't compatible.

She is not unreasonable to want to not want to share a bed with a dog

You are not unreasonable to not want to change your dog’s routine because of her

sounds like this won’t work out

I still want to know (or do i?!) what happens wrt shagging and animals on the bed.

Surely you get them off the bed no? And if they're removed from the bed for that and stay off then why can't they stay on the floor?

I've had dogs (Great Danes) - i get the love for dogs - but not on the bed.

Or the cats or the 13 guinea pigs! None of them allowed on the bed either!

Throw her in the bin lol !
my 3 dogs sleep in the bed with me , I’m single and I prefer it .. plus you have a frenchie they are adorable!

I have a:dog, I love her to bits. There is no way she is coming into the room if I’m shagging. That’s just grim.

Only on mumsnet does "not wanting a dog in your bed" = hates dogs 🙄

If ever you want to know who lives you more, the husband or the dog, lock them both in the boot of the car for an hour and see which is most pleased to see you when you open it 🤣🤣

Doggy style? 😜

So nice of the OP to take part in the thread they started 🙄

You love your dog, and your dog was part of your life before the girlfriend. I'm not crazy about people who deliver ultimatums like 'it's me or the dog/cat/kangaroo or whatever. My advice would be to look for a girlfriend who also loves dogs as much as you do and doesn't see anything wrong with having them on the bed. This woman doesn't sound right for you.

Precisely

Just start them off with a basic keyboard

The dog has told him it's time for bed.

Sleep on the floor with your boyfriend. The dog can get the bed.

Get bunk beds. You and the dog sleep on the top bunk together. Girlfriend comes, you and she get jiggy on the bottom bunk. Then you go to the top bunk to sleep with your slavering animal charming pooch. Problem solved.

I love dogs, but I wouldn’t want to sleep with one. I hate the term “fur baby”!

Do all 4 of you fight for the covers? Who sets the alarm?

Completely agree with this.

I’m a massive animal lover but I voted YABU. I think you should be able to compromise by having the dog sleep on the floor if you like this woman.
Dogs don’t need to sleep on furniture or beds. You can get a lovely cosy dog bed for your dog.
Oh, and don’t call it a furbaby unless you want to be celibate for the rest of your life. Huge Ick factor 😁

If the husband sits in the trunk with Fido for an hour instead of operating the emergency boot release then maybe he prefers the dog’s company?

Problem solved.

Fur baby. Yuck. How old are you?? This woman, not girl, is not the woman for you.

This. Furbaby is a ridiculous term.