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Heartache after saying goodbye- support thread

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Helplessandheartbroke · 03/01/2024 18:40

I'm in agony after losing our boy 2.5 weeks ago. I had another thread deleted as it was too outing but realised quickly there's many of us suffering. Anyone want to join hands?

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Helplessandheartbroke · 15/02/2024 22:20

Evening ladies, how is everyone? X

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Helplessandheartbroke · 16/02/2024 19:43

Lonely....I am so lonely....dont have nobody....all of my ownnnnn..... 😂how is everyone? X

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Danascully2 · 16/02/2024 20:23

I still had a little weep when I looked at a picture of him today but overall doing ok.

Helplessandheartbroke · 16/02/2024 21:17

@Danascully2 thank you for replying. I get that. My friend sent me a video the other day of my boy playing with her daughter and it made me laugh but made me sad too.

Hope everything else is OK. Its shit isn't it x

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GoodbyeMyPupper · 17/02/2024 14:09

Joining please, just lost our amazing DDog today. He was our world, but he had severe untreatable cancer and we were so lucky to get the time with him we did after diagnosis. His passing today was so peaceful and the vets were wonderful, could not have asked for more. Now to get myself and my family through the horrible horrible pain.

Helplessandheartbroke · 17/02/2024 14:40

@GoodbyeMyPupper I'm so sorry for your loss. My words won't bring you comfort but were here to hold your hand through this painful grief and we all know the grief so we'll. We really have to think of their suffering and its lucky for us and them that we can end that pain for them x

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Helplessandheartbroke · 17/02/2024 20:39

I had a little wobble earlier. 5 years ago memory on my phone was a gorgeous pic of ddog cuddled up with dh asleep on the couch. He's so young and incredibly cute. I wish we had more time with him 😔 breaks my heart he didn't make it to 7 god bless him x

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Ineedwinenow · 17/02/2024 21:50

I’m just about on my feet again after my operation, I still desperately miss her and even though I’m now not crying as often I miss her every single day and life is still tough without her. She was our entire life and now she’s gone there’s still a huge hole that I don’t know how to fill xx

Helplessandheartbroke · 17/02/2024 21:55

@Ineedwinenow glad you're recovering!!! Do you want to talk about the op? Don't worry if not. I've been crying on and off for a while tonight and I've not cried for a few days. I feel your pain love x

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Ineedwinenow · 17/02/2024 22:12

I’ve had to have emergency reconstructive surgery, bloody painful!!!

I still do cry to be honest but definitely not as often, sometimes I can be doing a simple task and it can remind me of her and then I’m gone and can’t calm down for an hour or two, but then it passes and I’m ok until next time but I still can’t stop thinking about her, I wish she was with me every day ☹️

Helplessandheartbroke · 17/02/2024 22:15

Sorry to hear that! Hope health wise you're ok now. It's really shit isn't it. It's honestly the worse loss I've suffered! They're such a big part of your life x

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Helplessandheartbroke · 18/02/2024 21:24

Is anyone on for a hand hold tonight? I feel like I've got 2 steps forward and 3 steps back these last couple of days. Missing my boy so much and feeling guilty again and just can't stop crying x

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4658Lou · 18/02/2024 21:54

@Helplessandheartbroke I’m same I think it’s skit the process of it all and that’s just how it is x

4658Lou · 18/02/2024 21:55

Sorry I meant to say ‘just’ I don’t know why it auto corrected to skit, ha x

Helplessandheartbroke · 18/02/2024 22:01

@4658Lou it's horrid isn't it! Sat crying for about 2 hours last night and the same tonight. Convinced myself I was a shit dog mum etc and really I know I'm just missing him so much. 2 month on and still doesn't feel real. Hope you're ok x

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Helplessandheartbroke · 20/02/2024 16:53

Hi all, how is everyone? After a bad few days I had a cbt session yesterday and we spoke about ddog a lot. It helped. Nothing will ever fully take the pain away though x

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Ineedwinenow · 20/02/2024 22:51

I’m still struggling, everyone is sending me links to puppies so as well as trying to recover from surgery I’m getting this thrown at me too, my mum is very poorly, I’m recovering from surgery and all everyone is talking about (including my mum) is a new puppy!

I haven’t got over losing my little girl, my heart is shattered into a million pieces and I don’t think I can ever love another dog again but somehow everyone is ready for a new dog (except me)

Helplessandheartbroke · 20/02/2024 23:28

@Ineedwinenow I'm sure people mean we'll but how ignorant.... if someone's partner died people wouldn't pester them to join online dating would they.... it has to be if and when you're ready so don't be afraid to tell people to p off. Hope you're recovering well x

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Helplessandheartbroke · 21/02/2024 15:21

Been at a relatives for the past couple of nights and come home and feeling really sad and down. The first thing I looked at when I walked in the living room was my boys ashes and was sad I've not been here to say goodnight the past 2 days. I miss him 😢

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4658Lou · 22/02/2024 14:02

@Helplessandheartbroke hope you’re ok as can be. I’m still checking the thread every few days or so for anyone needing support xx I miss my little guy too I’m really trying to remember how much I love him and would of done anything to have had him well and here xx

Helplessandheartbroke · 22/02/2024 15:41

@4658Lou I'm a little better today thanks, how are you? I know the missing them is awful! X

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4658Lou · 23/02/2024 20:43

@Helplessandheartbroke alittle down but I’m getting there. How have you been doing x

Ineedwinenow · 23/02/2024 22:14

I’m having a tough few days too! It’s been a month since I said goodbye and it genuinely feels like I’m not improving, I still miss her every single day ☹️

hope everyone else is doing better than I am xxx

Helplessandheartbroke · 23/02/2024 22:18

@4658Lou feeling sorry for myself how are you?

@Ineedwinenow have you had a wine? I've had a few its unbearable still x

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Zandra123 · 23/02/2024 22:43

@Ineedwinenow it's a month for me tomorrow and it's still so hard, i can stop myself crying but every time I see his little urn it hurts too much. I hate being in the house alone.
My friend sent me details if a little rescue dog that needs a home, he's 8 , so will struggle to find a home, he looks so sad but I'm so unsure if I'm ready.
I hope everyone has a nice weekend.