Heartache after saying goodbye- support thread

[Helplessandheartbroke]

I'm in agony after losing our boy 2.5 weeks ago. I had another thread deleted as it was too outing but realised quickly there's many of us suffering. Anyone want to join hands?

@Helplessandheartbroke aw :( I know these brach breeds don’t often live very long because of the health issues x
Bless them

@Tara336 you was really fortunate to be able to afford to give him his sight through the operations etc you should take comfort that you was able to and how wonderful it was for your little one to get the sight back x

I read something that thought it might bring anyone or someone one reading comfort. Just because there is a treatment for a sick dog doesn’t mean or guarantee that would work just because there are specialists and surgeries doesn’t make it right it’s a dog life and a dogs happiness comes from sleeping and eating and drinking and being with you being able to run in a field and explore and see and smell the world - a pets happiness comes from being healthy enough to do all these things if we put them through tests endlessly and medication what kind of life is it to prolong their life or suffering for a couple more years or so? I just read something on a vet blog and even though they in the business to make money sometimes they just want to say stop it’s not a good dog life just because there is a treatment they offer doesn’t mean you have to take it or it’s best for them depending on the situation - for the ddogs if they not eating drinking pooping peeing or walking or fragile and thin then the kindest thing no matter how hard for us and unanswered questions is to let them go asleep peaceful and unaware… this is incredibly hard and I’m so hurt over my ddog that no matter what anyone says I will always feel guilt and upset no matter the situation because I love him and always will. Hope everyone doing ok Remember better a week early than a day late rushing to PTS when it should have been done long before any major suffering x

@4658Lou that's helpful, thanks. Makes sense.

It is helpful thank you. @rumred how are you?

@4685Lou
It does make a lot of sense, my little guy started shaking as soon as he entered a vet carpark, this was just for his yearly vaccinations when he'd never been sick, he'd not stand on the table, he'd be climbing on my head!

when he was in hospital three days I can only imagine how awful it was for him away from us. As well as all the needles n stuff. I'm very certain we had no choice and it was his time, it's just the pain for us left behind.

I hope everyone is ok, weathers been awful in the north west today

@Zandra123 aw bless your ddog my other ddog who is 12 is exactly same as yours she shakes all over and hates it I know for sure if she needed extensive treatment she would hate it I don’t think I would put her through it 3 years ago she also was in hospital for 3 days! For pancreatitis we actually got told she may not make it but she pulled through and she never had any other issue with a change of diet etc that’s were it was appropriate but if it had happened again and again I wouldn’t of put her through… with my other ddog he was quite chilled out going vets but he was a suffer in silent type of dog he would not show he was in discomfort but his issues were repeating all the time including even put him through it :( x

exactly it’s just the pain that’s left behind I keep thinking I’m hearing my ddog feel like I’m going crazy? I have even said I’m just going letting my dog out for a wee and totally forgot for a second it’s driving me nuts I’m so use to him being there x

im in northwest aswell rained
all day!

@Zandra123 it takes a lot of battling with our minds to confirm to ourselves it was right for them but we need to think, we would never have crossed that path if we didn't truly believe it. Where abouts in the NW are you? I'm over Manchester x

I’m near Liverpool - we are from Manchester but live outskirts of Liverpool x

Small world! I bet you've had some fall outs with a mancunian accent in Liverpool 😂

I'm in warrington, and have one adult child in Manchester and the other in Liverpool, I'm either going one way or the other

Haha and you're inbetween me and lou!

Yep, foul near Preston too.

I think it might be bad everywhere today though.

@Helplessandheartbroke sure have lol x

We're all within about 40 mins of one another x

@Helplessandheartbroke yeah :) x

@Helplessandheartbroke I'm OK thanks, grimacing my way through at the moment. Probably using avoidance tactics too much, but I'm still here.
Still fostering, I'm quite sure I'll feel different again when she gets rehomed, but I've generally enjoyed having a dog around (despite the fact she's more horse than dog sized).
Love to you and all the people on here going through it x

How is everyone tonight? I've not cried today, not had many days like this. I'm slowly getting over the guilt thinking I was a bad dog mum and its helped having reassurance from the wonderful ladies on here as well as people that know me and knew ddog and how loved he was. I realise it's all part of the grieving process. Now I'm really missing the daft sod dearly. It still hurts but it helps to not keep blaming myself x

@rumred sorry to cross post! Would you consider adopting? X

@Helplessandheartbroke yes but not yet. Still grieving my boys. Definitely in near future though. Would you?

@rumred I get that completely. For me it's a huge no go. I haven't grieved very well, put a lot of blame on myself. Couldn't go through it again. Plus we had our boy before ds was born. I couldn't rescue with a young child and couldn't cope with puppy stage again atm. Dh is on nights this week and I always felt so safe with ddog downstairs to protect us. I don't feel safe anymore 😪 x

How is everyone today?

Is anyone on tonight? This is the first time noone else has posted in the last 5 weeks. Are you all bored of me? 😂hope everyone's doing OK x

@Helplessandheartbroke i am I check it every evening 😂 x

@4658Lou thank you! How are you? X