rehomed our puppy and feel devastated

[ItsMyTurn]

that's it

Val speaks a LOT of sense! It seems that she spends her days cleaning up after other peoples' mess when it comes to dogs.

She sees people posting about buying dogs from breeders, which is a ridiculous concept given the fact that rescue centres are over-run with great dogs in need of homes; and then people deciding they no longer want the dogs' lives as part of theirs, so they pass them on to someone else.

Of course she's angry!

Perhaps people could try to see it from her point of view, rather than 'bashing' her on this thread.

You did the right thing op

Folk, I don't think that Valhalla's contributions have 'turned things around'. There always has been, and still is, an awful lot of hostility to dogs across MN as a whole. And there has always been a pet section in which dog owners have been able to exchange advice, support, and so on without encountering the 'anti-dog' brigade. The change in recent months has been the development of an agressive orthodoxy, and a nasty cliquishnness.

Agree with minimu1 :)

i have always found the doghouse a supportive place in the main. i visit here almost daily.

its a shame that this has turned into an attack on one particular person when in fact a few posters said very similar things. i also notice on the other thread the OP thanked Val for being supportive.

i too worry about the dog. i am not unsympathetic to the OP either. i think most of us have experienced bereavement or difficult life traumas at one time or another. however, this is the doghouse so i think its natural that people will focus on the welfare of the dog. i have seen the OP posting in bereavement and i am sure the response there would be focusing on that. i do think selling the dog to someone with an elderly sick dog is irresponsible and there are genuine welfare concerns with privately rehoming an unneutered puppy

Oh... and where's the pointed line in my other thread? Because if you mean it's the remark that I have yet another to save it's because I've been saving dogs from pounds as a network rescuer for 6 or so years now non-stop. There always IS yet another, the "point" is that it doesn't stop and we must SOMEHOW find a solution to it.

If you mean that the dog was someone's pet once... he was, as the pound are convinced.... and the "point" is that HE CAN BE AGAIN, he shouldn't be written off just because he's a Staffie and is, pray god, soon to be in a rescue.

Sorry if you missed the point.

"expressions of pity for herself"

You do yourself and your cause NO favours in that choice of phrase Valhalla.

Well i don't subscribe to certain ways on here so to speak....i've never crated any of my dogs or used clickers etc. I'm an old fashioned dog owner so to speak - but i do think that there can only really be good come from 'the doghouse' in general - it used to be worse i'm sure......

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Would be a shame if the baby got thrown out with the bath water.

I have owned a dog for over a year now and have received excellent and helpful advice both before and since getting her from mners in the pets and dog's house topic.

There IS a strong pro- rescue group and that is fine. There are strong factions and personalities everywhere on mn dictating this that and whatever . I read and have a think and then do what I think is right.

I bought a puppy from a breeder. I believe I behaved in an ethical manner. Others do not, and have told me so. Such is life.

It would be a shame if people took this thread as a classic example of what the Dog house is like. It isn't. There are plenty of random short little helpful threads about recall, and worm tablets and leads and dog poo bags that get answered in a helpful friendly manner just like everywhere else on this site.

The rehoming threads are pretty much always going to get heated as there are posters here working on the coal face of dog rescue seeing dogs, healthy happy everyday pet dogs PTS because of bad decisions people make. It's unsurprising that things get heated and nasty, although it's a great shame when they do. No one comes out looking good.

Nothin' wrong with a Pit Bull, Shiney, as many responsible, caring families in Ireland will tell you. Just something wrong with the UK laws which govern them.

In theory, if everyone only got dogs from rescues it would reduce the number of puppies being bred elsewhere, though. Having said that, I didn't take that advice because my latest puppy is the result of an accidental mating at the owners of the local boarding kennels . I think if you post asking for opinions about where to get a dog, it's fair to suggest considering a rescue. Making people feel horrendous about the choices they make shouldn't be part of the advice though.
I hope I haven't offended you itsmyturn. Having not read your other thread, I was trying to see why you rehomed the way you did instead of through a rescue. I suppose it would be very scary to take your dog to a rescue and be made to feel worse than you already do. I stick by what I said about there needing to be an easy way to hand an animal over without fear of retribution. I know the rescue centres are full to bursting though. It's a pretty rubbish situation for stray animals in the UK just now.

I have to say that sadly I would never ask for any advice or post anything dog related on MN.

Really viva? Isn't the same as asking for advice on any other topic on MN?

Nope. Not from what I've seen.

this is an appalling thread. i'd be inclined to think, from what i have observed on mn, that it is still a place that values humans over animals, and no amount of brow-beating by one very vociferous person should change that.

i hope you feel at peace with your decision soon, itslyturn, and am so very sorry to hear that you have been suffering badly recently.

I too steer clear of "thedoghouse" section on here these days . The one and only time i asked for advice re - my pup growling & biting i was made to feel that i was always posting about problems with pup when in fact that was not true .

viva - dont know if you remember me from the chicken keepers. you gave me fantastic advice and our old hen is doing very well. this sounds a bit ott but when vet and i were deciding whether to pts the advice you gave on the poultry vets helpline meant that we delayed pts and she recovered. so sorry if i sound stalkerish but i remember you. i did come back to update and thank you but your name has stuck in my head ever since. i love my old hen and am so grateful for the advice you gave

it seems a shame that you wouldnt ask for advice on dog related issues. would you reconsider? would be lovely to return the favour if i could

When we have another dog this'll be the last place I'd ask for help.

"I bought a puppy from a breeder. I believe I behaved in an ethical manner." Errm, no you didn't.

Are you carrying the baton now Pia ?

Pia, with respect, that's exactly the sort of remark people are objecting to.

I think the best thing would be for this thread would be to be deleted and forgotten. There seems very little here to help the OP and I agree with the posters who have said effectively that this section has an air of 'do it our way or don't bother.'