rehomed our puppy and feel devastated

[ItsMyTurn]

that's it

Itsmyturn Take care of yourself [hugs]

There's been a few times recently when I've wanted to ask for advice about my Dad and his dog, (both old!) but asked elsewhere as I didn't fancy a lecture/kicking. (pedigree dog, Dad unable to walk him, two reasons to be kicked right there, and that's the short version)

I got some great advice which I passed on to my Dad, and Dad and dog both doing well.

Hope you are OK OP, sorry but theres some real 'dog loons' on here! Putting the feelings of a dog over a grieving widow, madness!

just popped back into this thread, and glad to see OP is now getting some proper MN support and by lots of posters. As she deserves. Hope you are ok

I know, I saw your threads, you got a CKC, which is what my Dad's dog is.
They are the cutest dogs ever, I got one for my 17th birthday

I just couldn't be bothered with it tbh, and the sort of posts I've seen today, which is not the first time is what put me off.

The main thing is that my Dad and his dog are both happy, even if it's a less than ideal situation and I got the advice without being made to feel like shit.

itsmyturn, i have also rehomed a dog. not recently, but over 5yrs ago now, a lovely border collie cross. we got her just before my dh fell seriiously ill. i tried for weeks to juggle children, pregnancy, dh and the dog. it didnt work. we rehomed her, and it broke my heart. her lead was hanging up in the hallway for a few yars after that

Agree with shine, i hope this gets deleted and then OP can get some support for her grief in another topic.

Jesus fucking Christ. I cannot believe some of the posts on here. I doubt if I have ever been angrier reading a MN thread.

You are talking to a recently bereaved widow like her feelings are of no consequence at all. Have you no empathy, shame, feelings? Can you not put yourself in this woman's shoes for a moment? She always wanted a dog. Her DH didn't. Her DH tragically died (did you get that salient point?). The OP - albeit naively - thought a dog would be A Good Thing. It wasn't. The Op got the dog rehomed somewhere she considers to be caring and responsible, through someone she trusts. What the fuck is wrong with that?

Haven't read the OP's previous posts on this. But the upshot was she bought a dog, ummed and arred about it a bit on here, obviously ignored some of your advice (shock horror! Get the fuck over yourselves) and did what she believes was the right thing. She now misses the dog. So shoot her (no, wait, you have already shot her down in flames how very big and brave of you ).

You should be ashamed of yourselves. Val, watch out for that soapbox of yours, it might just give you a great big fat bite on the arse one day (same goes to your groupies).

I realise I will probably lose some support on here after this post, but FFS people, have some compassion.

ItsMyTurn, I hope you're feeling a little better. Your treatment on this thread has been shameful. Stick around x

Yeah, shiney, it's getting almost Xenia-esque on here in some ways. You know,
Unsuspecting poster 1: My husband won't do the washing up
Xenia: Go out and get a well-paid job
Unsuspecting poster 2: I have a headache
Xenia: Go out and get a well-paid job
Unsuspecting dog-owner: my dog won't settle in his crate
The doghouse crew: Should have got a rescue dog.
Unsuspecting dog-owner 2: my new puppy has worms.
The doghouse crew: Puppy???!! Must have been from a puppy farm! Should have gone to a rescue.

Netto my parents up until recently always had pedigree dogs. Not long ago they had a huge elderly akita. My father is too ill to walk too far. The dog was old to be driven to the beach for a run. I didn't judge. I walked him, but for your dad I would have recommended you contact cinnamon trust

Applauds Rinders

"Groupies"?

Thought you'd left the thread Val? Watch out for that blood pressure

Adding support to Itsmyturn. This thread is disgusting.
Rinders has it spot on.

Rather appropriately for The Doghouse, some posters have behaved like complete bitches on this thread. Completely unnecessary and utterly disgraceful.

One thing is for certain, I won't be asking here for help or support regarding my dog here again.

Bloody hell. I have never been so ashamed to call myself a Mumsnetter as I did when reading this thread.

Ok, Itsmyturn has made mistakes but she is still grieving for her husband. It is a shame that the posters who have been berating her for those mistakes did not have a bit of compassion and empathy for her and her DC.

Valhalla
I truly value your opinions on all things dog-related but this time you have overstepped the mark. I am not a groupie of anyone, I have my own opinion. How you reacted in times of stress has nothing to do with this thread. The OP made a mistake and took steps to rectify it.