24 hours in police custody.

[Toddlerteaplease]

What a horrible man!

@BadgersGalore
Thank you yes you've said what I meant to say.

There was no need.

He was a complete fantasist wasn’t he and I am pretty shocked that Megan who seemed relatively normal and sensible had ever been in a relationship with him. I thought he gave very clear unhinged vibes and don’t think he had the skills or capacity to be a convincing sane person.
Her mum saying he was like a loveable puppy or something, I’m sorry but my spidey senses would not be getting those vibes from approximately 5 minutes in his company.

It is scary how easy it is for people to get tangled up with men like him, flattering messages on FB with people he doesn’t know etc then mega fast moving in.
You'd call it grooming/love bombing but he may as well have a red flashing light on his head for all the clues he is giving that he’s deranged and still people go for it.

I know it’s easy to say in hindsight but it’s scary how vulnerable and open / naive some people are.

Also agree it was poor of producers to frame it like she was murdered, the beginning having her mum talk of her in past tense looking at photos.

Just watched the stalker episode. Scary how he twisted it round in his head- of course none of it was his fault, ohh no - he simply just loved too hard and it was the women's fault for not appreciating him. 🙄

This mindset is all too common with manipulators. I learned the hard way when i was involved with a narcissist who love bombed from day one. I realised there was a screw loose a few weeks in, but it was so hard to get away from him for good as he'd ring up saying he was going to hurt himself, cry, plead can we just stay friends as he has no one else etc. I finally got away from him by blocking him while he was in the midst of love bombing his next victim.

It's the sob story of his childhood that I reckon lures women in. So many women like nurturing and giving love the sad lost puppy really hooks them. Manipulators know this and she will be his story for the next woman he wants to get his claws in; why we should always see "my ex was a bitch/psycho and I was completely in the right" type professions as a red flag.

Yes, this type target women for our empathy. They probably don't have male friends as most men would see straight through the act or just not care!

All this 'be kind' really doesn't help either as narcs love to play the victim and play the mental health card.

And given the amount of spare time he has on his hands, with all those messages, it's clear that the reason he hasn't seen his child is either because he's not allowed to or because he cannot be bothered.

He thought his number couldn't be identified. Most criminals are pretty stupid.

When he said the next girlfriend he has will be his last one, that sounded very threatening indeed.

And phoning social services!!!! As if it wasn't him.

So glad women will now know what he's like but there are plenty others like him.

Yes, he will kill her.

Yes, I took it to mean he would kill her and then himself.

I couldn't tell, were the children he had with Megan their children or her children?

They were her children, not his, thank god.

A friend is a cop and she has previously told me the freakiest houses she has to go to are the ones where they've written on the walls...

He was a fairly good actor on all the body worn where he'd called the police to his own house, terrifying.

He was a real psycho and will probably go on to commit more scary offences. Why did she even get involved with him? You could tell he was really unstable within a few minutes of him talking. To think there were kids in this mix too is frightening.

I'm also watching the one about the disabled drug addicted woman who was murdered. There's a really sad underclass in society that have no hope.

I feel very sorry and concerned for any woman who gets involved with him, he is a scary man. It’s easy to say how off he was based on what we saw(I knew straight away it was him, interestingly my DH didn’t pick up the off vibe he had) but I guess in real life things are different and he will no doubt find himself another victim.

He probably love bombed her and played on his bad childhood to get her to feel sorry for him.

I'd love to know the story behind him not seeing his son for 6 weeks.

I thought his aggressive manner to the person who answered the phone at Megan's work was very telling.

I wish they'd given a bit more background information about the relationship, e.g. how long they'd been together, who broke up with who and why, what his behaviour was like in their relationship, whether he was controlling, possessive etc. It seemed strange she didn't consider it was him from the start considering all this harrassment started just after they'd broken up.

I'm not sure if it was just her house but fancy letting him stay there after they broken up.

I know she didn't know what he was like but he must have shown some signs. Unless he wouldn't leave. They seemed to get on ok when he phoned her at work. Maybe he just did a 180.

Not sure why they broke up though. I wonder where he lived before. Thank god she knew to let her mum look after the kids though.

That reads like I'm blaming her. I'm not.

I took it that he was still manipulating her into letting him stay, probably saying he had no where to go and would be on the streets etc. The trouble with guys like this is they seem normal and just incredibly sad/bullied/life has been hard on them until they get their feet under the table. That's when things start to not quite add up, little bad behaviours creep out (like his voice to her workmate) in stressful situations - all of which they brush off as stress or someone triggered/made them do that bad little thing, so sorry etc. It seems like this is where she pulled the plug on the relationship and didn't want to believe it would be him, despite as she said, feeling he was really the only one who it could be. She wanted to believe it wasn't, which is the kind of person these people target.

I thought it was interesting that the other lady saw through him when he got to OTT calling her and then he clearly turned nasty when she called him out as she said "he's not the nice guy he makes out to be". I think single mum's can be magnets for these guys because they often don't meet men regularly and have the nurturing instinct. Women who can go out and meet normal men aren't as easily flattered.

www.cambs.police.uk/news/cambridgeshire/news/2024/november/24-hours-victim-he-was-cleverer-than-i-thought/

More here. She seemed a good catch yet he cheated on her and treat her like that.

For some reason I got the impression it was a short relationship of maybe a few months rather than a few years!

It says they knew eachother for 4 years.