MAFS AUS Thread 6: Christmas Glazed Ham and all the purple nipply trimmings are giving us the ick, as is Dick. We’re just here for The Bullshit Investigators and mission impossible gamboles….. (NO SPOILERS)

[browneyes77]

Gambole = Brummie word for Forward Roll.

Just in case anyone was wondering…..🤣

Oh piss off tim! I really can’t stand him. All this vulnerable crap.. no that’s not what it is, he’s just not feeling Lu and if he’s really like this then he had no business coming on Mafs to screw with someone’s head and heart like this. He’s horrid! I can’t stand home now because he’s basically just treating her like shit now

He didn't expect that... He wanted a little young thing that he could play the big man to and "look after" his little lady. Kmt.

She hasn’t asked you to be emotional Tim.

She’s telling you that she felt a bit abandoned when you fucked off for 7 hours instead of the hour you said you were going to be gone!

You brought her to your home stay and then fucked off. I don’t care how ‘drained’ you felt from ONE emotional conversation all week, you were RUDE leaving her there for hours on end.

I thought it was / is …. But I read about DARVO a few years ago… and I kind of see then don’t see it in my relationship… but i really didn’t see it in Richie.
i was so surprised when so many people really disliked him … if anything I thought she was over sensitive and wouldn’t back down …
I am very used to my emotions being ‘
too much’ my DH lacks emotional intelligence and is always the victim when I raise issues

@Itsrainingoverhere - sending you a big hug , lots of help here if you need it
Maybe have a look in the relationship threads and start one if you want to talk about it
Many wise women here .. and some who've been there , done that 💐

Any way… don’t want to make it about me !/ derail. But thank you for your time explaining. X

Oh Tim.
He should not have been on this programme. He's got a lifetime to unpick.

Poor Lucinda. She's given so much and got nothing back.

We're here for you

Tim should never have give on the programme- he has too many hang ups

THIS!! The damn cheek of the man, I’d be fuming.. I would literally smear dog shite on his walls spelling out Fu*k you and I would be outta there…he’s just being so disrespectful now

Are these 'cast members' psychologically screened, and it's appropriate for them to be on the show? It's not fair on those who are ready to be committed, such as Lucinda, to be matched with those who are not ready for it, just for "good telly".

Tim needs a fuck tonne of therapy. Like, donkeys years and more.

Lu deserves a man who’s already done that work on himself (or doesn’t need it).

Tim is a silly selfish prick

He doesn't like talking but he makes the atmosphere so difficult

Wouldn't it have been better to lighten the atmosphere and remove pressure by doing something fun?

Feel so sad for Lu 😢

Were I Lucinda, I'd have packed my case and left.

You’re more than welcome.

And I’d definitely go on the relationships board too and get some further advice. Lots of people who have been in abusive relationships (me included!) who can talk you through behavioural patterns and listen to how you feel.

If you constantly feel your feelings are being invalidated and shut down and you’re made out to be the issue and your partner is the victim to the point you feel you’re going crazy, you’re probably being gaslighted and a victim of DARVO.

There’s some excellent reading material out there too xx

Reminds me of my mum your dad. The man that was grieving and one of the mum’s tried to support him. He said he wasn’t ready. Then a woman his type walked in. Suddenly ready!

So what the hell was the point of signing up to the show and say I’m not into all this emotional stuff. I mean that’s a given on MAFS.

Im livid on behalf of Lu because it’s been such a waste of time for her and she’s been so patient and he’s treating her like shit because she’s basically been patient and trying to support him.

@Itsrainingoverhere Sending you a virtual handhold. I was married to an emotionally abusive man... didn't see it for ten years, until I did.

@Itsrainingoverhere 💐

She never ever gets angry with him

Absolutely.

She really suits that blue

That’s just it! If his type walked in he’s soon perk up. I’m not denying that he might have some issues opening up but he’s taking the piss and now shouting at her and all that… sorry even if you find her too much or annoying there was no need to treat her so disrespectfully and shout at her…

Finally tori!