Page 10 | Matt Willis -Facing Addiction

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 2023-05-17T18:16:29+00:00

Anyone else watch this, it was really good? It's on iPlayer. I had no idea how many times he'd relapsed,poor bloke. Can't help thinking going on tour probably isn't a good idea, hope he's going to be ok. With the best will in the world being in a situation where you used all the time is going to be massively triggering. I've never really liked Emma , always thought she was a bit fake, totally changed my mind , she's clearly been slapping a smile on her face and keeping the family together. So much respect for both of them for being so open and transparent. And being completely shallow Matt is completely rocking the beard !

Rhondaa · 23/05/2023 13:11

FrenchLilacs · 23/05/2023 12:28

My DH and I thought this too (my DH is a former addict who went to rehab before I met him, and who still does regular twelve step meetings to this day).

When we saw Matt at the group he visited, he went outside afterwards for a chat with a woman from the group.

My DH commented to me : “Out of all the people he could have had a 1-1 chat with, he has chosen a woman instead of one of the men, and he has picked the one who is relatively attractive”.

When Matt was sitting outside with the woman, he was looking into her eyes while telling her how similar they are. And that was sober whilst on camera!

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Yes i thought that, seemed an odd choice.

It'd have been far more appropriate to get one of the young girls whose lives had been ruined by their selfish parents and asked them more.

Dulra · 23/05/2023 13:37

FrenchLilacs · 23/05/2023 12:28

My DH and I thought this too (my DH is a former addict who went to rehab before I met him, and who still does regular twelve step meetings to this day).

When we saw Matt at the group he visited, he went outside afterwards for a chat with a woman from the group.

My DH commented to me : “Out of all the people he could have had a 1-1 chat with, he has chosen a woman instead of one of the men, and he has picked the one who is relatively attractive”.

When Matt was sitting outside with the woman, he was looking into her eyes while telling her how similar they are. And that was sober whilst on camera!

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To be fair to him we don't know who chose the woman, could have been the producers because she'd the most similar story or maybe she was the only one to agree to do it

MadCatLady27 · 23/05/2023 21:13

It would be better for the band to be supportive of Matt by having the tour be alcohol and drug free

purpleme12 · 23/05/2023 23:31

That girl in the family therapy support group who got taken off her mum and dad and then her grandad died.
So sad 😢😢😢
She's so brave.
When she said 'what even is a home' 😢😢😢

Strictlyfanoftenyears · 23/05/2023 23:35

I was broken hearted listening to the two young girls, their lives are so different to Matt and Emmas. I am going from my own thoughts here but if I thought that i was harming my children in any way, I would not stay. I couldnt understand why Matt wasnt more devastated hearing their stories (of course, the editing may have changed that). The amount of relapses kept changing (maybe some where more longer lasting). But why wouldnt a caring, devoted father leave rather than subject his kids to the daily worry?

purpleme12 · 24/05/2023 01:09

Yes I thought Emma could have done with being alone in the support group thing.
Although I guess they kept him there so he could see the effect of his actions.

Agree that there skirted around a lot.

Fraudornot · 24/05/2023 10:06

Emma's instagram is full of messages about how brave she is - after reading all the insights on here I'm not sure that is a good message for her to be getting.

Midlander01 · 24/05/2023 23:44

It's clear he has PTSD from his childhood but unclear if he has had or is having therapy now to resolve that.

I found it odd Emma saying she didn't know support groups for families of addicts existed. I think it would have been more helpful for her to have gone to that group in Glasgow without him.

I wonder if she's now thinking about the impact of his actions on their children. Her being on edge while he's on tour will definitely be picked up by them. How old are they? The oldest must be nearly a teen and might have watched the programme or their school friends will have. If they've never talked about his addictions as a couple they won't have talked to their children about it either, and she can't shield them from it forever.

purpleme12 · 24/05/2023 23:58

His children are 13, 11 and 7 it says

lollipoprainbow · 25/05/2023 06:39

I see he's come off social media for a while.

twotruthsandalie · 25/05/2023 10:00

Midlander01 · 24/05/2023 23:44

It's clear he has PTSD from his childhood but unclear if he has had or is having therapy now to resolve that.

I found it odd Emma saying she didn't know support groups for families of addicts existed. I think it would have been more helpful for her to have gone to that group in Glasgow without him.

I wonder if she's now thinking about the impact of his actions on their children. Her being on edge while he's on tour will definitely be picked up by them. How old are they? The oldest must be nearly a teen and might have watched the programme or their school friends will have. If they've never talked about his addictions as a couple they won't have talked to their children about it either, and she can't shield them from it forever.

Their first born was born a few weeks before my firstborn so she must be almost 15.

It speaks volumes to how Emma has been overlooked in all of this that she didn't even know there was support available to her.

I would have though the many rehabs Matt had been through might have signposted that information.

purpleme12 · 25/05/2023 10:16

It came across that they didn't deal with a lot of it together and Emma didn't deal with a lot of it herself didn't it so from that, it kind of fits that she didn't look into it far enough to find support groups for her

Midlander01 · 25/05/2023 10:22

So his eldest is now at the age he was when he was drinking, smoking, taking drugs. That must give them pause for thought.

I found the programme desperately sad that Emma had had so little support.

Rhondaa · 25/05/2023 10:56

'It speaks volumes to how Emma has been overlooked in all of this that she didn't even know there was support available to her.'

Surely more an element of head in sand syndrome than not knowing support was available, we all have google even anonymous forums would have given her some support I'm sure theyll be groups local not sure why the trek to Glasgow. This isn't the first doc they've done is it? I seem to recall a similar one years ago of a teary Emma and a pity seeking Matt. Nothing seems to have changed.

Sumthingsweet · 25/05/2023 14:25

Poor Emma , at one point he says I like that lifestyle. Love it , I think he will be back on the drugs and fact that he has to go to rehab core marriage shows how far in he is . We prob hear he’s died of an overdose soon enough sorry to say - poor Emma and kids

CountessBathorysBeautySecrets · 25/05/2023 14:30

She clearly absolutely adores him. I was in love with a similar guy when I was in my 20s. Head over heels, infatuated and obsessed. I was distraught when he dumped me but looking back now, so glad.

cicerodays · 25/05/2023 19:05

Sumthingsweet · 25/05/2023 14:25

Poor Emma , at one point he says I like that lifestyle. Love it , I think he will be back on the drugs and fact that he has to go to rehab core marriage shows how far in he is . We prob hear he’s died of an overdose soon enough sorry to say - poor Emma and kids

He did come across as a 'dry drunk' with that remark.

Clarabell77 · 25/05/2023 20:49

Stellawella · 20/05/2023 08:24

He has slight help though. He admitted to begin with he told the therapists what they wanted to hear. He’s also done rehab. Not sure why you think he’s not sought any help.

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I watched it and I can’t understand where these views are coming from either. He said at the very start he knew he’d lose her if he didn’t go into the rehab place in Bournemouth.

Justmuddlingalong · 25/05/2023 20:54

She stood by him during subsequent rehabs.
He knows she'll stand by him again. She said she's not going anywhere.

Sumthingsweet · 25/05/2023 21:22

I can’t imagine how being addicted to drugs would be - giving up smoking was really hard now into vaping ( know it’s bad but still do it ) I know it’s not the same but I guess addiction just takes over once it has a hold on you