Sister Wives

[crochetmonkey74]

Is anyone watching? No one I know in real life watches so I have no one to talk about it with- I'm on the current series on TLC when Kody is going all crazy paranoid about Covid

I like Meri. She's had a rough deal. Kody was cracking on to Janelle on Meri's wedding day and then she couldn't get pregnant, which in polygamy in seen as very important.

Janelle used to be married to Meri's brother and they had a tricky relationship right from the very start.

Ooh didn't know this was still going, haven't seen it since they had the houses in Vegas

I feel like the cul de sac in Vegas was the perfect set up for them - all had a lovely seperate home but kids go over to each other’s by themselves, wives mixed a bit more eg shopping, meals etc and Kody could pop around and see everyone most days etc.
Once they moved to flagstaff and were seperate and the older kids all moved elsewhere/didn’t go with them, then kody started wanting to be where it was most fun and least stressful - with Robyn who won’t disagree with him, probably panders to his every whim plus plays a little on the ‘we need you’ card with kids panic attacks etc. (Which really puts a mockery on him not going to be with Isabel during her surgery! Just so he wasn’t away from robins kids for too long!!)

Savoy I didn't know that!

I think the tv programme has been a double edged sword for the family. Without it they would have plodded along, wives all working multiple jobs and not being able to leave. The programme has given them money - nicer houses etc but it’s also given the wives independence and the confidence that they can make it on thier own!

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I'm fascinated by their finances too - how do they afford it all?

Sometimes I think it does look fun to have such a big family - especially on the Christmas morning episodes but I have a friend with a really large family (she is one of 9) and I know the reality is much more annoying- never getting a clear reply on the family whatsapp, everything takes ages to organise etc

I am also way too invested in this programme!

I thought in the beginning that all the finances went into one pot with Janelle and Meri being major bread winners but I’m not sure that is the case. I thought it was all equal when they brought the houses in Vegas but in Flagstaff Janelle and Christine had smaller houses and Meri and Robyn have massive houses.

I love this show! My guilty pleasure. My heart goes out to meri, she deserves to be loved! It must have been so hard watching the others have multiple babies. I might be wrong but I think kody meant he was deceived because he married meri then discovered she struggled to conceive? I might be wrong but he seems like the sort of arsehole to have that kind of mindset! I’m trying to persuade dh to get discovery plus so I can watch the earlier episodes.

They struggled to find houses in Flagstaff so they ended up in all sorts of homes. Meri got chucked out when the landlord got a sniff of the situation and Robyn couldn't find anything at all and ended up having to buy a house when she didn't want to.

I think they divide the money evenly between the wives, regardless of children. There was one where they were buy those Vegas houses which were new builds and they met with the builder and they were choosing things and talking about budgets. And one when they were talking about Mariah going to university where money was talked about a lot.

I've watched this show from the start. I like Janelle the best, didn't know she was married to Meri's brother - you'd think that would have come up in their therapy and 'talking it out' sessions? I think she's the most sensible and practical and could see her as a friend (and she did say in the last episode that though she and Kody 'talk talk talk', they also have six kids so whoever said up thread she wasn't into that so much I think she certainly is)!
Meri I do feels needs a few truths and a mirror - I do sympathise with her but she doesn't do herself any favours. She was close to Robyn from the get go so I hope they get that back.
Christine is ok but man she needs a slap upside her head! She is very tunnel visioned.
Robyn I always think of as new but she's been married over ten years! It was interesting to see their courtship and how in love they were - bringing it back to me that I can't really get how Kody can live with that many women at the same time. I don't think she's quite as in love now - she is more compliant though.
Which is fundamentally what many posters don't get: in this kind of marriage it is Kody who is the head of the family and his word is the final decision and they should obey it, whether they agree or not. That's the deal with this kind of set up. I think he feels that the wives are too independent and have their own opinions and aren't following his lead, which is the main way plural marriage is supposed to work - one head and one decision maker. However he seems to think he is now bending for them and they aren't for him - which isn't true at all - He's not making any concessions whatsoever.
And I know this show is a year old but how ridiculous are some of his 'covid' rules?
I do think his boys are being totally selfish not willing to forgo friends and girlfriends for two weeks so they could celebrate together. How would they have dealt with a lockdown like here?

This show is also a guilty secret for me too.

I was wondering after the last episode, just how much editorial rights they have over the show. That scene where they met to discuss Thanks Giving and Christmas and Janelle walked off - Kody does not come out well at all - really patronising and spiteful.

Really couldn't understand why they moved from Vegas - looked such an ideal set-up. Flagstaff maybe a nicer place to live but it's really shown the cracks in their 'Family', even without Covid.

Where streams this? I keep hearing about it!

I watch it on Sky - TLC. Wednesday evening at 9 I think

I have watched this show for so long, I almost feel like part of the family. Not that I would admit that to anyone in real life! I think I would choose Janelle as my sister wife, she seems pretty chilled.

I think I'd marry Janelle too, if I had to choose one

So glad to find a thread on this. Was thinking of starting one.
I think the chickens are coming home to roost for Kody now - he's always treated his wives as options, dipping in and out as he sees fit and it's becoming apparent that they built their own lives when he wasn't there and now he is just an option. Their priorities are their children.

I really like all the wives. I think Robyn really wanted the sister wife relationships and it hasn't panned out that way because Kody so obviously favoured her. I really think Meri would be better off leaving Kody - he makes absolutely no effort to build any kind of relationship with her and she must be so lonely.

The kids are all lovely. The women have done a great job. But Kody is coming across as totally unhinged and such a selfish and manipulative bastard. He always goes only what is good for him. Can't believe he let his poor daughter have that major operation without him and his attitude towards Janelle's boys is beyond shitty!
I think Christine and Janelle are starting to wonder what the point of him is.

You know I used to really be intrigued by the lifestyle and I think I would like some sister wives. If you all got on, it would be so great to have a little community. Unless you hate sharing your husband and feel jealousy I think. I think the wives are getting on better as they fall out of love with Kody.
Ps I am also glad to have a discussion thread on this as I have no one else to talk to about it!

I also was intrigued by the lifestyle when I first started watching, it's a totally different culture to mine but despite ups and downs it did seem to suit the women. Sure it wasn't perfect, but what is in life and relationships? Now it seems totally different though. Kody has basically dumped all his wives except Robyn. I can now see the whole thing is nothing to do with religion, culture, or whatever. It's just the usual story of an arrogant man ditching his wife for a younger model.

I felt so sorry for Meri last season and felt she was being mistreated. This season I'm not quite so sympathetic. If your husband has legally divorced you, moved in with and married another women, never visits you and openly says on internationally broadcast TV that he doesn't love you and your relationship is over.... It's over! Have some dignity and get out.

Janelle has left Kody in the past which hasn't been mentioned on the show before, this season she did discuss it but played it off as they weren't seperated but just lived in different cities because Janelle couldn't be bothered to move.

It’s interesting how this season has shown a many more cracks in all the relationships between the wives and also the marriages.

Probably because there isn’t much else to focus on with covid.

I really wonder why Cody was so keen to move from vegas. Some of the wives were really against it.

I think Kody is struggling with the fact that he can no longer dominate his wives. What does he expect? They've spent their married lives sharing him and spending most days without him. Having their own houses meant they had to be responsible for their children and running their homes. He pushed for Flagstaff, bought the land with no clear plan as to how they would share the land. It seemed an awful mess when they were trying to find places to live.
I'm also very curious about their finances. Christine bought her house. What happens now? Can she sell up and move to Utah with the proceeds? Meri and Janelle rent. Are the proceeds of their Vegas homes in the bank? Would love to know.
Why on earth has Robin got a nanny? I reckon the mere fact she has one is a huge bone of contention for the other wives, regardless of the fact she's allowed into their home daily when his kids aren't.
Keep posting everyone, I love this thread!

I really wonder why Cody was so keen to move from vegas. Some of the wives were really against it.

I'm not sure if this is the reason or a side effect, but moving all the time keeps the wives more dependent on Kody and the family. After they are in a place for a while they make friends, get jobs, etc. Then time to move - no job, no friends in the new place.

I love this programme!

The wives are all so capable, they just get on with life with a husband who only pops in for a couple of days per week. Kody's such an arrogant sod though, always bleating on about being "head of the family" - and yet he always refers to each wife's children as "your children", never "our children".

I couldn't believe they just upped and left the new-build in Vegas, it looked such a perfect set-up for them. Now they're scattered all over Flagstaff, and hardly ever see each other.

Does Kody actually have a job (other than creating TV content)?

Yes I’ve found my people ! No one I know watches this !
I’ve been watching it from the start and it did look like a nice lifestyle when they all had their houses in Vegas . They are just falling apart now unfortunately
I love jenelle and Christine . Meri I feel sorry for and I used to love Robyn but I can’t look at her face anymore , she never smiles
I don’t understand how kodi and meri are not in a relationship but she’s still in the family ? Why does she not leave ? It’s bizarre, she’s basically completely on her own
The older kids seem to have grown up happy and well adjusted , no talk of them going in to plural marriage from what I gather ?

Did anyone else notice Kody say that the rental for Janelles house is in her name and therefore he couldn't evict the adult sons. But he so would have if he'd been able to, regardless of their mum's feelings. He's a nasty bully and now Janelle has seen that footage she should leave him on the spot!

I wish we had this thread from the beginning 🤣 Perhaps we should have like a book club but instead we re watch and discuss and we move through the series 🤣

The move from Vegas was brought about by Kodys manipulation of his wives, Robins son was going to college in Flagstaff and she didn’t want him living away from home (he does have some sort of special needs), so that meant everyone else had to uproot, Janelle s son losing his scholarship and moving away from friends. Understandable if the older kids resent Kodys relationship with Robyn. Trying to sell Flagstaff was about the only time in recent years that we saw Kody being nice to Meri. Kody is so manipulative but I think Robyn is as well.

I think the poster who mentioned that Kodys past behaviour is coming back to haunt him now is spot on. He’s spent all these years not needing to make any effort in nurturing these marriages and the wives being in this sort of competition (not quite the right word) with each other and being grateful for any crumb he throws their way but now having run their own homes (apart from Robyn), and discovering there is more to life than waiting on Kody they have emotionally and physically moved on. It’s been clear watching over the years that if he has any issue with one wife he just goes to the next, he doesn’t stick around to resolve it. He got another wife ready who is happy to see him. That’s where the whole ‘sister wife’ vibe falls apart.