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CanofCant · 01/10/2021 09:54

Just starting this. Judging from the trailers I will be crying and shouting at the telly in frustration before long.

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Cheeseplantboots · 08/10/2021 18:01

I binge watched it all in 2 days. Absolutely brilliant.

Inkanta · 08/10/2021 18:44

And also alcohol is often just an excuse to abuse and not the reason for it. I don't like the way it gives this stereotype that nice people with issues suddenly turn into abusers because they drink.

Yes Pinkbonbon - good point. The guy came across as a nice guy until he had a drink.

Cruiser11 · 08/10/2021 18:51

I don’t think it did give that stereotype, I think we weren’t shown that much about the husband or the extent of the abuse at the beginning. It only became clear to the viewer when it became clear to the star. Same as the hiding in the cupboard when she was a little girl. I think the abuse was a lot more complex than he did it because he was an alcoholic.

Remmy123 · 08/10/2021 21:11

I've watched a few more episodes and now really enjoying it!

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 08/10/2021 23:10

I think I'm up to ep 8, the bit where she disappeared into the sofa had me in tears.

I really relate to Alex, I raised my dd on my own and it's really bloody hard.

That said I have shouted no a few times at the screen; cleaning behind her bosses back, the party at the new house, inviting a date to her employees house, sleeping with Sean etc

I also get what you're saying about her being too good a mum, being on your own with a young child is relentless especially when you're stressing about money as well.

Think it's well done though, little Maddie is adorable and makes me miss my dd being that age (she's a moody teen now!!)

drigon · 09/10/2021 17:14

Oh yes, I agree that this is a fantastic series. I actually think Andie Macdowell is excellent in it and , of course, the lead actress is superb. I have just finished episode 7 which was very good and thought Paula's situation with the house was portrayed very well. I agree the men come out very badly and I am obviously rooting for Alex and lovely Maddy to win in the end without any men interfering. So much in this series to think about/ enjoy. Agree too that the money counting down bit on the screen is a nice touch.

QueenLagertha · 09/10/2021 17:29

Just finished the series today. A great watch!!

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 09/10/2021 20:45

I finished it today, really fab series.

FluffyTeddyBear · 10/10/2021 08:51

I binge watched it over 2 days. I absolutely loved it, it broke my heart. I have contacted my local women’s shelter to offer my help.

Silenceisgolden20 · 10/10/2021 09:37

I ended up binge watching it and thought it was really good. All really well acted..
The only thing I would say is that Alex probably would have lost her shit emotionally a bit more, she was very together the whole time. Now I know that would have been a coping mechanism but I think her desperation wasn't quite there when it was really bad. Only really saw it when her mother went to hospital and she turned to Sean. Her toddler daughter would have had a few more tantrums surely being moved from pillar to post that would have been difficult.
The more subtle signs of abuse were shown well and the power dynamics of all the men in her life. She was constantly trapped and the strength she must have had to get out.

isthismylifenow · 10/10/2021 11:33

This has to be one of the best series I have watched this year.

I binged watched all 10 episodes.

I think it's an important story to be told re emotional abuse.

I can't even put my feelings into words right now as it's just so close to home.

I do think though that Alex seemingly keeping it together was a coping mechanism. It was just one thing after the next so she didn't get a chance to process anything before having to deal with the next issue.

I didn't watch it with my dd who has just come out of a emotional and physically abusive realtionship. It's just too soon so I think i will look to order the book so it's here for her at a later date

sweatervest · 10/10/2021 11:52

i am liking it. i can't remember what episode i'm on but andie mc dowell has had the art exhibition cancelled (no spoiler alerts from me!!)

andie mc dowell was on graham norton this week talking about it. i thought she was REALLY irritating tbh although i love sharleen spiteri (in other news)

NewModelArmyMayhem18 · 10/10/2021 13:20

I thought Andie McDowell was very good in it (took me an episode or two to clock it was her), but her daughter is just awesome. Very sobering viewing though.

Slayduggee · 10/10/2021 21:28

There was always something about Nate and I knew he wasn’t going to be the nice guy that he made out to be. I hope that she does make it out.

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 10/10/2021 22:34

I didn't think Nate was too bad, he never lied about the fact that he fancied Alex, he tried to support her as a friend, he let her and Maddy stay with him and he gave Alex a car.

He was rightly pissed off when Alex stayed out all night, didn't let him know what was going on and shagged her abusive ex.

Pouffeycat · 11/10/2021 01:14

I love this. Not at the end yet.
But so much resonates.
The actor playing Alex is beyond great.
Andie is good as a bi polar person.
The child is awesome.

I hope Dad is ok..

IrishMel · 11/10/2021 04:08

Was watching it but have stopped as one episode was really bad. Did like the young lead lady though great actress. Started watching Kin instead, is really good.

50ShadesOfCatholic · 11/10/2021 05:11

@Girliefriendlikespuppies

I didn't think Nate was too bad, he never lied about the fact that he fancied Alex, he tried to support her as a friend, he let her and Maddy stay with him and he gave Alex a car.

He was rightly pissed off when Alex stayed out all night, didn't let him know what was going on and shagged her abusive ex.

I liked Nate. But Alex didn't want to get involved and tbh a new relationship when you're five mins out of the last is not a good plan.
50ShadesOfCatholic · 11/10/2021 05:13

@Silenceisgolden20

I ended up binge watching it and thought it was really good. All really well acted.. The only thing I would say is that Alex probably would have lost her shit emotionally a bit more, she was very together the whole time. Now I know that would have been a coping mechanism but I think her desperation wasn't quite there when it was really bad. Only really saw it when her mother went to hospital and she turned to Sean. Her toddler daughter would have had a few more tantrums surely being moved from pillar to post that would have been difficult. The more subtle signs of abuse were shown well and the power dynamics of all the men in her life. She was constantly trapped and the strength she must have had to get out.
Maybe? But the author has posted video clips of herself and her daughter and they ARE very together, Maddy (Mia) is so joyful and placid, Alex (Stephanie) looks like the most loving mum.
Silenceisgolden20 · 11/10/2021 07:37

@50ShadesOfCatholic I don't understand your reply and why you have quoted me?

Silenceisgolden20 · 11/10/2021 07:40

What I'm saying is that if a toddler's routine was disrupted that much, through no fault of Alex, there prob would have been a tantrum or two of maddy trying to cope with that. I didn't say Alex wasn't a loving mum.

Silenceisgolden20 · 11/10/2021 07:47

I think Nate had a right right be pissed off that Alex didn't call but not that she didn't want a relationship with him. I think it showed very well mens ego and Nate was helping her because he wanted to own her and saw Sean as competition. He was kind but it had stings attached, he wanted his kindness so Alex to be with him, and couldn't take the rejection. I think that happens a lot and the drama showed that.

ElephantOfRisk · 11/10/2021 08:32

I was left wondering about her Dad. Do we think he's still abusive? Maybe not so much physical now but to me he still seemed to be controlling but under the guise of religion. His wife seemed fake happy and not sure that the twins behaviour was normal, but to be honest I'd need to rewatch as didn't pay that much attention to that.

isthismylifenow · 11/10/2021 08:41

@ElephantOfRisk

I was left wondering about her Dad. Do we think he's still abusive? Maybe not so much physical now but to me he still seemed to be controlling but under the guise of religion. His wife seemed fake happy and not sure that the twins behaviour was normal, but to be honest I'd need to rewatch as didn't pay that much attention to that.
I thought that he still was and Alex realised this hence walking away from them. He wouldn't answer her direct question as to whether he had hit her mother, and he lied about the kitchen cupboard. He claimed to not have remembered because of the alcohol. Then covering for Sean was the cherry on the top for her. She was more aware of emotional abuse after what she had been through. This what I took from it.

I am not sure that I would be able to watch it again. It was tough, and after some of the episodes I wasn't sure if I could continue, but I did. I finished it over the weekend and it is still going around and around in my mind.

50ShadesOfCatholic · 11/10/2021 09:05

I can recall two scenes where she was tantrummy but what I said, in response to your post, was that Mia does seem like an exceptionalluly placid child and her mum does seem extraordinarily stoic and patient. Some children really are that placid, my eldest was.