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CanofCant · 01/10/2021 09:54

Just starting this. Judging from the trailers I will be crying and shouting at the telly in frustration before long.

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greengrassapreciationsociety · 06/10/2021 04:23

I think she just finds her self-worth through having a man in contrast to her daughter who is able to break out of the intergenerational cycle of putting up with mistreatment from men. The mom is a bipolar narcissist and her daughter continues to love her in spite of that because that is what our children do, love us no matter how many times we fail - as we do with our own parents.

Greytminds · 06/10/2021 14:42

I’ve been enjoying this but need to rant about the portrayal of Regina. The career obsessed, infertile older women who becomes a crazy and horrible person due to her infertility. It’s a lazy stereotype that seems to play out in so many films and tv dramas.

Otherwise am enjoying it very much.

greengrassapreciationsociety · 06/10/2021 15:17

I think Regina was probably a tough ruthless character long before the infertility surely? People who choose careers in corporate law are usually not the earnest do-gooders you meet in say education, so I did not read the infertility as having caused her to be that way, she was a rutless bitch before she found she was infertile surely but we are not all one thing and she has a kind side within that ruthless base. That kind side only comes out after Alex helps her, more than once. She is more intrinsically ruthless than intrisically kind and people like that can thrive in the dog eat dog world of corporate law in my observation.

Cruiser11 · 06/10/2021 15:57

It was so good and me 26/27 years ago as a young mum trying to get to uni. One of the best things I’ve seen. I loved all the nature shots.

Cruiser11 · 06/10/2021 15:58

Oh and I’ve never seen such a beautiful smile as little Maddie’s.

QueenLagertha · 06/10/2021 16:02

Started watching this today. Enjoying it very much!

SophieKaczynsky · 06/10/2021 16:35

The little actress who plays Maddie is an absolute star and such a sweetheart

Aspiringmatriarch · 07/10/2021 10:00

Just finished this. Amazing series. I agree little Maddie acts the part so well - actually I thought Andie McDowell was good too though so I'm probably not the best judge!

Definitely one that will stay with me.

Veuvelily · 07/10/2021 10:10

This brought back a lot of bad memories for me. I thought it was very authentic.
When she was in bed with the daughter waiting to see what his mood was when he came in, drunk or not.
When the person you are trying to escape from is your support.

BuddhaAtSea · 07/10/2021 17:59

God that was heart wrenching and so close to the bone!!
I finished it today.
Is it wrong that the main thing I took out of it is a reinforcement of the conviction that men are just shit. Not a very balanced view, I know, but I recognised every single little ‘trick in the book’ in Sean, Nate, Hank, Basil.
I was homeless when I was younger. For me, the most devastating aspect was losing the house. Time and time again, both mother and daughter. I gasped when Basil and Paula got married, I knew she was going to lose the house. That gazebo party, I was yelling at the screen: don’t bring them, any of them, into your house!!!
This one is going to stay with me for a long time!
Has anybody read the book?

Jud1 · 07/10/2021 21:00

Actually, they’re portrayed it very well. I manage to leave an abusive relationship with two children. My ex didn’t drink, but he was lovely, sweet and would come across extremely caring and do a lot of things for me. This is why it’s so confusing and you stay in their power. You have hope, you see the ills person is still there, if only… I would finally learn to do, or not do this which made him angry and upset. I was brainwashed over many years and actually beloved it was so my fault. Even though I’m a strong and rational person. It took me several attempts and police intervenes to leave..

Jud1 · 07/10/2021 21:06

I started watching it this evening. I completed the first episode, and watched the second episode only partly. I had to turn it off. It was too realistic and too close to home. It brought back the pain, injustice, trying to find a place to live with the children, having to price the abuse, etc. Also the not accepting there was actual abuse because you didn’t end up with a black eye or end up in the hospital. Boundaries are overstepped all the time I’ve many years whilst being brainwashed. Perhaps I can watch it next year, for now it’s all too raw and realistic.

Remmy123 · 07/10/2021 21:21

This isn't realistic at all!!! Load of rubbish!!

Theblacksheepandme · 07/10/2021 21:26

What did you really think of it Remmy123?

Onesailwait · 07/10/2021 21:33

I found it a bit boring & slow but stuck with it because it was filmed in my hood. One of the houses is she cleans is my friends house.

Onesailwait · 07/10/2021 21:33

Little Maddie is a local girl from Victoria, she did a great job

Purpleseaside · 07/10/2021 21:36

I've just finished watching it. Loved it but thought it dragged a little and didn't need that many episodes. The acting from Maraget Qualley was beautiful and her little girl was so cute!!

I felt sorry for her boyfriend and then started to despise him at the end!! ! Very interesting and worth a binge watch Smile

spotcheck · 07/10/2021 22:21

@Remmy123

This isn't realistic at all!!! Load of rubbish!!
How come?
Pinkbonbon · 07/10/2021 22:43

I dunno if remmy felt the same way as me but I don't like the way they portrayed the abuser as only being abusive as a result of the alcohol.

I know ppl have said that abusers are nice as pie sometimes but...just not in the way this character is.

Like for example, there's no way she would have been able to just drive off and leave him the second time without at least, a slew of verbal abuse whether he was drunk or not. The mask would have absolutely slipped. Because she is literally leaving him - and for a second time!

And also alcohol is often just an excuse to abuse and not the reason for it. I don't like the way it gives this stereotype that nice people with issues suddenly turn into abusers because they drink. Abusers are abusers all the time. Yes, they often have issues too...but I don't like the way this show makes him into a pitiable character. I think its a tired troupe. It just doesn't sit right with me.

That being said, as I mentioned uptrend, there were good things about the show.

But I think making someone abusive 'because of alcohol' is lazy writing.

Cruiser11 · 07/10/2021 22:52

It’s not a documentary though is it?

Pinkbonbon · 07/10/2021 23:01

@Cruiser11

It’s not a documentary though is it?
No but we were discussing it's realism.

And I'm saying i don't like shows that keep perpetuating this idea that 'there's good I everyone and there must be a reason why bullies bully' ect...
That's the same bullshit that makes women feel they have to give shitty people second chances.

I would have much preferred it if they had shown the manipulations and mind games and gaslighting and fake niceness of these sorts, as opposed to 'oh, the drink makes him bad'.

IrishMel · 08/10/2021 03:54

Just started watching it tonight and am enjoying it. So weird someone said here that is her real daughter as said to my son how she looks like her. Andie is beyond annoying in it and her character too over the top. Nice to watch something different after Squid games but cannot wait for Season 3 of Succession.

50ShadesOfCatholic · 08/10/2021 10:42

@Remmy123

This isn't realistic at all!!! Load of rubbish!!
It was very true to my own experience of accessing government assistance, getting trapped by it, the shelter experiences, the calculator ticking constantly.

Maybe not your experience but it is largely that of the author's. The series makers explained they introduced the mother and Regina to pad it out as the author's story is very lonely which doesn't make for dynamic television.

Aspiringmatriarch · 08/10/2021 15:32

I dunno if remmy felt the same way as me but I don't like the way they portrayed the abuser as only being abusive as a result of the alcohol.

I think as the series went on, it became obvious he was abusive regardless of the alcoholism. He didn't want her to have a phone, gave her car away, wouldn't let Regina in to see her. And her dad was gaslighting her too despite being in recovery.

AngelicaSchuylerAndHerSisters · 08/10/2021 17:47

I have really enjoyed this. Margaret Qualley is fantastic. Who knew Andie McDowell could have such a daughter with such subtle and deep talent when I find her performances so superficial.