I think that is desensitising and brutalising whereas a drama like GoT evokes empathy in my opinion.
I think this is what people are missing.
I was raped by my husband. I still think Sansa rape, being hinted at or alluded to wouldnt have worked.
I totally get why people find it difficult to watch on TV. But I also get that you had to absolutely hate Bolton. You had loom at Sansa and who she has become and understand it. Bolton did the worst things imaginable to people. Rape would have been one of his first tools to use to hurt people. Seeing made an impact.
Personally, I dont think rape should be hidden, alluded to and happen off screen. If it's going to happen, it should be shown in all its horror. I hate when its hinted at but the brutality of it dampened.
Just like the battle of the bastards was.
I also dont get the argument that it wasnt in the book. It was, just not to sansa. They wrapped both stories up in one. Often happens. But what why the outrage that it wasnt in the book? How is writing it and describing it any better? Even if it was in the book, it doesnt have to be in the show. I guess I dont understand why some think, it shouldnt have been shown. But had it have been in the book, it would have been ok.
Sansa has become very different to the Perrson she was. Quite hard, calculating and unmoving. But I totally empathise with her thinking.
The same with Dany. I can see how she has ended up losing her shit. I like that there has always been the story of the Mad king and what he planned to do. But you can see how it could come to pass, in the right circumstances. I like that you can see the supposed heroes (like Robert Baratheon was viewed for the uprising) actually were very unheroic. Started a war, because a girl he fancied wanted someone else.
And how someone with the beat of intentions (Dany) can end up being the cruelest. And someone who just wants to do the right thing (Jon) being faced with doing something that feels wrong, because it's best for everyone.
The absolute brutality of GofT makes you understand characters, their flaw, their personality changes etc.
If Sansa had just been betrothed to Joffery but all was rosy (even as he cut hee fathers head off) then Tyrion and all was rosy, then Bolton and he left her alone and all was rosy. Her character arc, would make sense. It woildnt make sense that she would but hee family and winterfell above everything and tell Tyrion about Jon's heritage. Winterfell is where she feels safe and she will protect it all costs because everything hasnt been rosy for her.