Married to a paedophile

[WakeUpFromYourDreamAndScream]

Anyone watching?

I'm in bed but recoding this! It looks fascinating. DH said I'm weird for wanting to watch it

Is that woman an actress?

With a very close family member convicted for this and having had to dismiss an employee for doing this on a work computer it's quite cathartic to watch. I'm no contact with the family member now, but it's interesting to see how others deal with it.

I feel very much that the families are also victims (although in no comparison to the children and what they go through), I hope that they provide some kind of support line for families as it is an incredibly traumatic thing to go through.

I also do not have any idea how the police officers who have to investigate it cope, I only saw file names on the work computer and that was disturbing enough.

They're actors which is making it quite weird to watch.

Yes I believe they are actresses

Yes, actresses but the dialogue was provided by the actual individuals.

Fuck me. Sobering.

Watching in horror. That woman who is meeting her husband from prison knowing he viewed images of kids the same age as her grandkids...wtaf??! She is twisted sorry.

I'm watching it's weird to watch it via actors as it's the real person voice but with actors

I really don't understand how she can stand by her husband. Wonder what their kids think.

What channel is it on?

I can't understand her standing by him either. I think she pretends that it's not that bad as she was with him for so long she can't imagine life without him. She's in complete denial or she doesn't have any empathy for those poor children. She's rather week.

Channel 4.

Wow didn't realise they were actors! Guess it's because the perpetrators and their families wouldn't be safe?

Feel very sorry for the blonde wife. Find it difficult to empathise with the older lady standing by the husband.

I think there can be guilt... The I should have known, I should have stopped him... If I was enough he wouldn't have done it.

I'm sure she is broken and has no idea what is the right thing to do. Everything she has ever known will have fallen apart.

Absolutely no way I could do what she's doing though.

Even though this is apparently done by actors I find the men very self pitying.

I'm also struggling to comprehend the older woman still being able to see her grandkids - and have them in her house - knowing she still has contact with her husband. Sorry but what is the mother thinking??!

I don't think this ever should have been made using actors.

The only value of making this as a TV show would be in total honesty - I switched into this part way through and couldn't understand what was going on because it is being presented as a documentary but has been filmed as a drama.

We are 46 minutes in and I don't remember anyone mentioning the children in those images who were being abused and how they felt!

Alex is sad that he has hurt his adult daughters, I have no idea how they can stand to be around him. He is so fucking lucky they can even be in the same room as him.

It does feel a bit staged but the words of the people are real.

It almost feels like an advert. Don't look at images of children being abused, it will fuck up your life.

I didn't realise it was actors. But looking now i can see because some of it is stilted. Why on earth report it as docu?!

Sorry but are those definitely the actors? I feel so sorry for the kids and the wives...We had a neighbour who was accused of downloading child porn. He was working as an IT at a local school. Turned out he wasn’t guilty..I remember another neighbour shouting abuses at him when this guy was being investigated...Anyway...He lost his job, his friends, tried to commit a suicide...

I'd get longer in prison for ridding the world of blokes like 'Alex' than he got for contributing to the abuse of god knows how many kids.
That older woman's 'he insisted he never actually did anything' has boiled my blood - he doesn't have to touch the kids himself to contribute to the abuse of the kids he watched

They are all so self-centred - it's all about how it's affecting their lives and how people might judge them. No thought for the poor children involved!

I'm going to watch it later, can always switch off if I find it too much.

There was a woman (few years ago) married to one of those; he'd abused her two children (not his) when they were but she didn't know until he was done for doing it to someone else.

He was out on bail pending sentencing and she stayed with him to protect him from vigilantes. She felt that was the right thing to do. Her children wouldn't have anything to do with her.

She couldn't grasp the fact that she too had been abused by him. She had been abused as a child and was only about twenty, with two little kids, when she got with him and eventually married him. He was a lot older.

It was awful. I wonder if she is still with him, he must be out of prison by now.

So I am interested to see the programme.

Exuses, excuses, excuses.....