Married to a paedophile

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Anyone watching?

Rebecca that's a tiny bit sad - the woman having been abused & not really seeing how protecting him is wrong - but a whole lot infuriatingly disgusting

I am watching this a bit behind time - I’ve just got to the bit with the younger man’s dd’s 21st birthday.

As others have said, there seems to be no acknowledgment from the men, or from the older wife, about the very real harm that is done to children during the creation of these images.

I don’t think I could stand by dh, if he did anything like this. I certainly wouldn’t be running around buying him new sheets and washing them so they weren’t stiff out of the packaging!

I do feel sorry for the collateral damage that has been done to their wives and families.

And that's why they need locking away, he still won't admit what he's done. I've heard it before, must be a bloody script they all read!

I feel like there is a common misconception by the offenders on these kind of programmes that by "just looking" at these kind of images, that they are not actually abusing children.

By looking at them he is contributing to creating a demand and fuelling a market for them, and as such there are other people out there who will then create more content for people like him.

I'm probably not putting that very succinctly but listening to that letter he wrote being read out really wound me up.

Can’t bring myself to watch but I know someone who worked in a team reviewing the images on paedophiles laptops. He only told me the bare minimum and it was horrific. He had to resign, he just wasn’t able to shut off from what he’d seen.

I think it’s terrible that anybody would support a paedophile, the suffering they cause is immeasurable and not just to their victims, the families of those victims but also those that have to see the images to bring the paedophilic to justice.

As me & my mum just said...we'd do time if we ever found out our OH's were this way inclined. They'd have to find the body first tho.

I'm intrigued by the parents allowing their young kids to see gran still. What bloody logic is that?! I wish we would hear from them

What she just said about the breastfeeding baby. I feel physically sick, I don't think I'd ever thought of anything like that before? I mean, I don't think about what paedophiles do, but that is beyond anything my brain could ever deal with. I really wish I hadn't heard that. Really really wish.

am shocked he is still allowed to see the grandkids...
Wtf...the image he was looking at...I wish I never heard that!!

Those daughters are just vile, not sure I could even have that conversation with them.

Actually got a few tears, not sure if angry or what (definitely still hormonal - DD is 10 weeks). At what point does a person think that is okay??!
And there is no fucking way on earth i would be sat in a room mediating with a bloke that thought that was arousing. No way are those kids safe

I missed that @samatamfabahaba what was said?

And yes those daughters are fucking enablers. DP has severe depression...at no point would he ever dream of doing this shit.

I feel so sorry for the wife with the teenage daughters to see her daughter making excuses for her dad like that would cut me to the quick. I would feel I had lost my daughter and my husband.

I've spent most of the last hr crying watching this and have switched off. It hasn't really covered enough of the fallout that can be dumped on wider family.

I've posted once before about my situation here - DF was prosecuted for downloading indecent images on his computer receiving a community order. DH has taken the view many do, branding him a "paedophile" and refusing to have anything more to do with him, or let my parents come to see us and DD. It shattered M, B + I but there were reasons linked to his health (PTSD) we understand and forgive.

We've been happily married for 5 years but Xmas + NY was a total washout and I didn't see my family at all. After countless rows with DH he refuses to at least try and forgive and I'm left wondering if our marriage will last much longer, but he's done nothing wrong and neither have I. It's a huge strain for both of us, meanwhile M+D seem to have got their lives back on track and left us behind.

Maybe I'll catchup on it later if I feel up to it.

I don't think I can type it out if I'm honest. It was a sexual act... I just tried to type and can't. I can. I'm NOT like this at all usually, I am absolutely still reeling. Is this definitely true?

No way on this earth would such a man ever see my kids. I am surprised the daughter in law could sit in a room with him.

Yes I wish I hadn't heard that. It is something a healthy person can't even comprehend.
Can't blame the daughter in law for keeping the kids away from him at all.
Alex's daughter making excuses for him. Depression ffs. I've had depression, as have millions of other people, it didn't make me do sick stuff or hurt other people.
All excuses and minimising.
I don't believe people can change or be better without taking responsibility fully and being honest.
The older man definitely doesn't seem to have done either.

That sounds like a really hard situation lemon

lemonpie without sounding harsh i am with your DP a million percent. There is no way in hell any member of my family would be near my kids after being done for that. And in fact if my dad was done for it, and my mother stood by him she wouldn't be seeing my kids either. There is no excuse for being a paedophile

Not once have I heard about the devastation to the victims of the abuse, it's all about them. That older lady sticking by her husband despite what he has done, is shameful. Is the older lady actor as well.

It's ok @samatamfabahaba someone upthread has said, I feel sick. My stomach is churning. I wish I hadn't asked. How could that baby's mother do that? This fucking world has gone to shit.

I had to turn it of after hearing about the breast feeding baby video. I didn't want to hear anymore after that, I felt sick.

Lemon I agree with your dh, he is a paedophile and shoukd not be around any kids. I woukd nit be allowing my kids near him, sorry.

Unfortunately life's not that black and white for us Pissedoffdotcom.

Very easy to write, until you've been put through it.