Married at first sight!?

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Anyone else watching this madness?!

Seeing as a few of you asked about my mum, I thought you might like this. I just told her that I'm going on a date. She asked if he was nice and hoped he would treat me.
me: No idea
Chrissie: Oh no, whatever next
me: well I don't know until I meet him
Chrissie: hmmm, once bitten comes to mind.
I think she thinks I'm marrying a stranger again...

I think your mum would feel more at ease if you put all thoughts of romance out of your mind and instead sat in watching Midsomer Murder repeats for the next 40 years.

ooooh well good luck for the date...

I just wanted to add I wish all of you who took part in the program the best of luck for the future..

Although be warned the first person in the uk that ( that I know to) did it on BRMB and ended up married to Jeremy Kyle..

MitzyLeFrouf I think you may be right!

Loving this thread, thanks for answering everyone's questions Sara! I'm curious about the selection process, did they ask you much about what you were actually looking for in a husband or was the match they found purely based on their own matching process? Did they ask you if you had any dealbreakers?

DameDiazepam I actually don't think it's true at all that the spark must be there instantly, and I think a lot of people miss out on something that could be really good and they walk away too soon because of this belief.

First date with DH I wasn't really sure about him, took a few weeks for something to "click". I think he was a bit inexperienced in relationships and was trying too hard rather than being himself. Sometimes the spark comes once you've actually got to know someone. 7 years later, we are very happy and there is most definitely a spark there!

I too don't think an instant attraction is too important. My partner was a friend for 5 years without a sniff of anything, until one day it was like ping!

Interesting so many posters disagree about the instant attraction. I've always had it with partners and with dh it was like being hit with a thunderbolt ( I was about to get engaged to someone else at the time!) and we've been together now more than half my life!

I'm with you on the thunderbolt thing Dame! But I think it depends on the individual, some people (you and me) need instant attraction and others are happy to let an ember of potential fancidom (real word) slowly burn.

Sara great you are engaging so much here.

It would be lovely to hear from some of the others. Melissa and Clark seemed very well matched and I hope they make it. Yet having watched two series of UK, USA and Oz I've noticed that very few couples stay together. Despite 'scientific' matching.

Do you have any theories on that? I do!

I met my dh through a dating agency 18 years ago, before internet dating. So I am all for a little help! But I think the actual getting married thing is possibly what scuppers this process on MAFS.

It's been so interesting to come back to the thread and read Sara's comments. I hope you meet someone lovely

I keep waiting for the thunderbolt thing, I wondered if it was a myth! But being on my second divorce I don't claim to be any sort of expert

alphabook the selection process was very involved, it went for months and ranged form personality questions to values and physical attractiveness (we saw a quick flash up of all the men and rated them out of 7). I had 17 dealbreakers but they were all fairly understandable - height, no drugs, must be sociable.

MitzyLeFrouf I agree, it's such an individual thing! Ad was probably the first guy I really gave a shot that I didn't fancy so it's opened my eyes to lots more potentials!

Italiangreyhound I think the marriage part is important because it enforces a commitment to work at it which doesn't exist in a lot of new relationships. There's a 'grass is greener' attitude. I also think a lot of the people who take part honestly believe that they are ready but it's bigger than they ever thought. Nothing can really prepare you for the experience and there's no rule book for how to deal with it.

CurbsideProphet thank you! I hope so too!

Tbh I think the thunderbolt thing is pure lust

MyGastIsFlabbered I've come around to the thinking that divorce can be a really healthy thing. It certainly wasn't what I wanted but it's much better than being in an unhealthy relationship. I take my hat off to you, it shows a lot of strength.

I'be just finished the series today and thought you were all admirable.