Married at first sight!?

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Anyone else watching this madness?!

Sara now you're on this thread and have answered everything so honestly and openly i just want to say you have my utmost respect and i think we all really appreciate you taking the time to do it! You seem really lovely and wish you all the success in your future love life and personal life

Sara now you're on this thread and have answered everything so honestly and openly i just want to say you have my utmost respect and i think we all really appreciate you taking the time to do it! You seem really lovely and wish you all the success in your future love life and personal life.

Hear hear! You're really fab.

Hi Aoibhe!

I think it's very easy to assume what someone's character is like from a very edited tv show or from what the press say. I've got to know Caroline very well and how she was over breakfast was tongue in cheek and they had a lovely day after that. In fact, my Adam often used to say things to me (and still does!) that could have been construed to be very derogatory and mean if taken out of context of the rest of the conversation around it but we were always quite playful with it, however, none of that was shown.

I totally appreciate that everyone is entitled to their own opinion but when those opinions are based on a tv edit and not real life, and are sometimes very mean and often abusive themselves, it's just not fair or mature.

Please do remember that although this was a tv show made for entertainment (which we were and still are all very aware of), we all did it for the relationships and are real people sat behind the screens! It's certainly put a lot into perspective for me that I never thought about before! x

Sara did you know your marriage was doomed when he told you he didn't eat onions? That would have been the death knell for me. What kind of fiend doesn't eat onions?

Also, not sure if someone has asked this already, but did you fancy him when you first saw him?

aww thank you guys! I'm sure the other girls will be reading this too! They're all fab

squoosh: haha! I couldn't believe the onion thing! I did sneak some in...if I cut them up really small he couldn't tell

I actually didn't fancy him when I first saw him and he knows that too but I did grow to be attracted to him over the honeymoon. It's taught me a huge lesson about judging people before you get to know them and how attraction can grow!

Sara hello! Lovely to see you here.
I hope you are getting on okay.
I would like to know how Clark and Melissa are getting on if you know?
I felt sorry they didn't stay together.

Sara May thank you for coming on the thread and giving us a little insight into the programme.
I hope you get what you wish for.
For me personally the fact Adam didn't shave for the wedding would put me off. As if he didn't make the effort.
I hate when DH is stubbly and I get beard rash.

Aplaceonthecoach I watched both Australian series. They were excellent. I both the farmers! Did you see both series?

Saramay if it is really you, Adam DoD not deserve you! He seemed like he was not ready to marry! Five hours drinking wine! I would have gone mad!

If it is really you- is a joke, by the way!

Italian I did watch both series of the Australian one. I had a pile of particularly boring filing to get through so I binge-watched whilst filing
I find the whole process fascinating. I think it would be amazing if there was a successful scientific way to work out whether people were compatible or not. The other aspect I find intriguing is that traditionally 'arranged' marriages would be between people who shared a culture/religion/contacts. Yet some of the MAFS peeps didn't have any kind of shared background and still worked. I don't want to name names in case of spoilers

Who were your fab couples?

Did you watch USA too/ I did series one and two.

I think I prefer seven year switch though!

I have a theory that you HAVE to have flutter/spark/fancy someone immediately or it doesn't work.

I have a theory that you HAVE to have flutter/spark/fancy someone immediately or it doesn't work

If someone had told me I'd have children with DH the first time I clapped eyes on him I'd have laughed myself stupid. Six years later I had a Road to Domestos moment in ONeills and it was like his bad hair and top to toe fringed leather had never happened.

We're approaching 20 years now, I'm hoping our slow start won't hinder the long term success of our relationship.

Yeah I think that initial spark thing is a western world fallacy too. At uni when I was single, I had lots of male friends that after a few years, I could see a lot more attractiveness in them, just through knowing them better.

Good morning all!

JaffaCakes: it's not really my place to talk about the other relationships, sorry!

hollyisalovelyname: I actually preferred him with a beard, he grew it as the show went on, maybe that's why I became more attracted to him lol

Italiangreyhound it is really me!

APlaceOnTheCouch I watched the Aussie one when I lived out there, kind of what got me interested in the first place. Their new one for 2017 has 10 couples including twins...I just think that's a step too far. You can't focus on making all those relationships work and have found genuine 'good matches' for all those people. Although I do believe it's as much about the individuals wanting to make it work. In my opinion I think the selection process should be longer and the time before decision day should be 8 weeks not 5. The new American series seemed to get it right.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen MrsJamin Rrross1ges a few of my past boyfriends I haven't had an immediate flutter. I remember when Adam and I got back from honeymoon I was so excited to see him and the crew were making me wait before I got to the house and it was driving me insane! I definitely didn't feel like that the second day I knew him but a week on it was totally different. I'm sure the beautiful setting of Siena helped that too!

What happens all the wedding presents

Holly, we didn't get many but we got loads of cards! A couple of people gave us dinner vouchers which we used while we were together. Anything that was given to us by family and friends we took individually like photo frames, mugs. I have the Mrs mug and Ad has the Mr mug

What did your family and friends really think about the show? I think if youre on dating sites you should specify Must Love Onions

Your mum was (understandably) pretty sceptical about the whole thing, she did seem a bit overly harsh to you though! This may be an editing thing though. Your big bro seemed lovely.

SaraMay, thank you for the update. Can you get the others on here too?

For a variety of reasons, my mother's sister had an arranged marriage, and it was long and happy, but from what I gather, the first couple of years weren't easy.

sara thank you for coming on and sharing more about the experience! I really liked you and Adam. I thought they exaggerated the laddish side to him on the editing. I noticed how lovely he was to your mum at the beginning when they were waiting for you to come in for the wedding. I wish you both all the very best for the future

Hi again Sara
Love this thread! Another question, do you feel the couples were genuinely matched and there was "science" involved or was it literally a bunch of people putting together people who'd vaguely ticked similar boxes on the questionnaire.
And even though he didn't quite turn out to be "the one", could you see why they thought you and Adam would be a good match?

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve it was very mixed. My mum struggled with it as you saw, and a few people decided they didn't want to be involved so didn't come to the wedding. One of my best friends met Ad off camera as soon as we got back from the honeymoon and she was supportive of me the whole way through, although she did try everything she could do get me to not do it! A couple of friends did try to persuade me to change my mind. Ultimately I think everyone just wanted me to be happy and they were worried this would hurt me.

BuntyFigglesworthSpiffington my mum did find it hard but she's a bit of a natural worrier anyway! She's also naturally quite critical but she did give Ad a chance and we saw quite a bit of her off camera. Ad even paid for her birthday dinner in July! My brother Lee was great, very supportive. I think that because I lost my dad quite young he felt a responsibility to be there and make sure Ad was ok! Funnily enough he works with one of Ad's friends who had worked out that we'd been matched before the wedding but didn't say anything!

MrsSchadenfreude That's so great to hear! I think inevitably it's going to be hard to start off with because you're having such an intense relationship with someone without even knowing them!

Arcadia thank you! He was very laddish and I don't know if he was quite ready for the intensity of a marriage but he did try. It was hard for both of us at times but sport being on tv 24/7 at home was a tricky one to deal with

Frazzled2207 absolutely I could see why we were matched, we had a lot in common and it was easy between us from the start. There's no way we would have found the similarities between us after a couple of drinks on a date (nor would we have even gone on a date in the first place, we wouldn't have met!). We are definitely compatible, just not as husband and wife! That bit's so hard to measure, if not impossible!