Extended Breastfeeding Programme next week.....!!

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A mother is still breastfeeding her 8 yr old daughter!

Will try and watch it tho I think it might make me feel ill.

There is also a woman who tandem feeds her 4 yr old twins!

but mud, dd could do most of that at 1 as she started walking at 10 months. Not quite into sentences though.

Sorry you said you wanted a discussion but I'm still waiting for your reasons. I also never said you were a freak for having a cut off point. I actually said I understood that. You were the one saying I was a freak.

I have fed dd in public a few times although she is 2. I didnt feed ds in public partly because of other people having to vomit in public and also because ds only fed once a day anyway.

Mud, you didnt want us just to express our feelings but to give reasons. i've done so but you've just repeated that it makes you sick.

i don't particulary want a discussion about this and netiher do you hercules. you jsut want to prove your point that extending breastfeeding to childhood (not baby/ toddler0 is wonderful and anyone who disagrees is a despot

I remember getting disaproving looks when I used to feed ds and he was only 14 months old!

I cant understand why people get so uptight about it! Breasts are meant for feeding children. If there was supposed to be a limit on how long you were to feed them for then they would stop working or something

But Mud, can you tell us why?

theres is a huget emotinal investment in breastfeeding. there are obviosuly going to be big emotional reactions invovled in the parameters where an individual finds it enoug. fine yours are wider than mine. bravo to you. i am patently not worthy of having an opinion however visceral it is.

I've already stated I dont think that. I have no problem with people having a cut off point, I know I do. I would like to discuss it (please dont assume you know what I want) but you have refused to discuss it and simply stated it's sick. You have declined to give any reasons for your view but I have given reasons for mine.

You have got my opinion completely wrong.

Mud, but this isn't just a quirk of Hercules. The average age of weaning world wide id 4.2 years old. The WHO recomend weaning up to 2 and beyond.

Weaning at or around 4 is a human norm.

It would have been nice had you given a reason, that way a discussion could have occured.

Mud, clearly you feel strongly but do you know why?

Mud, your opinions are as valid as everyone elses, but i think hercules is wanting to know why you think it is unacceptable iyswim.

From reading your posts, I think that although you dont think there is anything wrong in feeding a baby til four (although you wouldnt do it yourself) and it makes you uncomfortable to see it happening (although you cant articulate why - its just one of those feelings you get - bit like when i see a nail file, it makes me shudder!! (crap comparasion i know!)

I think a bad choice of words 'freak' offended hercules although it was said with out meaning to be personal and one of those things you type with out thinking.

Is that right?

why do i need reasons for an emotional reaction. anyway i have ginvem what reasons i have. i don't care why you do it, i don't care that you do it actually. in the abstract i do not emotionally feel it is right to breastfeed a child. there is a differnece between a toddler and a child. my 2 eldest who have been 4 year olds wore a uniform and go to schol they are big hulking brutes and the thought of treating them like a baby is abhorent

thanks tamba and yes

I have no problem with someone being uncomfortable etc as I said earlier we all have our cut off points but to call it freakish and it makes you want to vomit without giving reasons is a bit silly.

It makes me uncomforable seeing mums pregnant and smoking, I dont think they are freakish and it doesnt make me want to be sick. I can also give reasons why I feel this way.

pregnatan and smoking - yes freaksih and makes me feel sick. we obviously have differnt nausea tolerances too

Well, now you are giving reasons. I dont see bf as a thing solely for babies so perhaps that were we differ.

i have given bloody reasons you just want to ignore them

i wish you wouldnt use offensive words such as abhorrent to describe breastfeeding. It does make it hard to repond to you in a civilised way.

Mud, you're clearly finding this emotional.

why its not sacrosant

I still cuddle my kids, a hulking 9 year old and 6 year old, to that degree I still baby them. I don't think that there is a clear cut off to 'babying' them, is there? The degree and nature of the babying changes as they get older and their needs chance.

This is why the vast majority of children self wean at around 4....they don't need it any more. Which is why I find the 8 year old still feeding worrying....she shouldn't need it at that point in her life

I think that is a big part of the issue. B/f is only for "babies" and once they are no longer babies, it's just not the right thing to do. This means that it's ok to b/f until they are 2, at a stretch, but no longer than that. There are plenty of 3, 4, 5 yo and even older still drinking from bottles but people get upset if they are b/f.

no, you're right it's perverse and sick. There now, I've agreed with you.

yes i am finidng it quite an emotive topic. maybe i wonder at myself for the strenght of my feelings which does not in any way negate them. maybe i feel i'm being attacked. stranger really this place is the total opposite of the real world or at least most posters are either bored or scared of taking on this topic because there is sucmj a vocla minority in the pro camp