Just a friendly hand hold for any other mums of teens PART 2

[Pleasegivemeyourwisdom]

Again, just a friendly place to liaise (or lament?!) with other parents who are trying their best to navigate the ups and downs of raising teens 😳

no judgy pants here so don’t worry about that!

Feeling like a crap mum today. DD barely here (in her room when she is) other parents get talked about in glowing terms (all apparently less strict than me).

I know that's in the teenage playbook but it doesn't half make me feel shite!

Yup

damned if do, damned if don’t 😔

We had a few ok days but this week back to normal. She’s just in a constant bad mood. Spends all the time in her room when not out, has no interest in her parents or brother. Makes me sad. I’m just an irritant to her.

Who is going through mocks?

tbf my teen is okay but it’s all pretty negative really.

shes had some private counselling after being cast out from her friendship circle. Think it’s helping

Yes, mocks here.

DD with ADHD/ASD, distorted sleep patterns, low mood, anxiety and emotional based schoolavoidance. Let's just say, things are challenging.

DD isn't academic. Secondary school and GCSEs aren't right for her. Hopefully things will improve when year 11 finishes and there are more options for her. She's just been granted an EHCP so that is something good for the future.

Good luck and stay strong for all going through tough things and especially year 11 exams.

Dd11 ASD and pda been off school all week due to lack of sleep and emotionally based school avoidance. So hard

Sounds similar to my dd. Also ASD ADHD.

She has pretty much failed them all. Just waiting on a result.

@IndeedDanielJackson self harm is common unfortunately. I know at least one fabulous parent that it's happened to. They've got counselling and it's happening much less. If at all. So hang in there. Xxx son issues I hear a lot from many parents. I blame social media and schools are brutal places these days.

@AlwaysSomethingWithTeens it's a lie. They all get indignant and just see it their way.

Hugs to all my similar-boat pals today

our prelims start tomorrow

may the force be with us 😟

Would love to join this club please although it's not my dc it is my younger sister.she's 19 I'm 34. She is just the most unkind, abusive, demanding entitled, selfish irrational, irritable brat I've ever come across in all my days. She frequently blows her top if you look at her sideways. Has absolutely no patience with my young dcs and shouts at them for making any bit of noise. Seems to think the world not only revolves around her but also owes her something. There truly isn't a kind word i can say about her. She makes everyone's life a misery , we are constantly walking on eggshells around her. Parents think she has issues and daren't intervene.

That does sound horrendous 😒 so sorry

I’ve just come to Mumsnet because I’m at my wits end after another massive fight with one of the DDs (and just realised it’s what I did when they were babies and I was looking for answers). Sorry to drained to go into all the details but just to say I’m with you x

I think state teachers especially younger ones without teens side with the kids too much.
The history teacher went and told my daughter that I had emailed her. Brillant. So teen then lashed out at me. Nice. And yet they want us to support them at school.

It's easy to be her friend and let mums take all the flak. Sorry. It's not all teachers. It this one has upset me a lot. There's no information at all. Teen won't tell you and teachers then throw you under the bus. Help!

Had a fight with mine too. She is so selfish and the way she thinks I just don't understand.

Eugh I’m sorry guys

so somehow needlessly painful isn’t it? Like the worlds harsh kids, let’s at least cut each other some slack 😞

Hello all - I am back after a lovely prolonged absence. School issues - he just hates it. He is in year 10, late developer, type 1 diabetes, bright and massive over thinker. We have a lot going on.

DD turns 13 on Thursday and I am dreading her changing (I am envisaging a Kevin transformation at midnight obviously) as she is delightful at the moment.

Just had a row with my DS 16 with ASD /PDA and blocked him on WhatsApp as he's started to get abusive. Yeah he's got EBSA, but d' ya know what? I've run out of patience with him. Had to clean up a load of mess he's made, had to put up with his laziness and unkindness and today I'm not having it. I shouted at him to get up and go out for a walk. Judt grt out of my sight. I dont care if he thinks im horrible. The gently gently approach is not working and I'm angry!!

Eugh I hear you both

sounds exhausting 😞

you’re not on your own with these issues but they’re crap and I wouldn’t wish them on my worst enemy!

No real issues for two weeks, it felt nice! But again she's not studying and important tests are coming up, lied about when her game finished last night (I suspect so she could meet her boyfriend afterward). I'm not able to keep my cool, and that's not good, as clashes don't solve much these days. I told her I didn't believe her about last night and left it at that, I'll try to bite my tongue tonight.

I had a weekend without her and it was wonderful. No worrying where she was. Amazing. A night off!!

I feel better as mine is an only so I feel like if I'd had a sibling she'd be better. Mine is the same.

Went to a spa with mums and it was amazing. Everyone needs to go to one! Now!!

Just found this thread after being in tears - at my wits end with my DD. She is only 11 (12 in June) but the tantrums & constant drama is next level.

I am a single Mum (also have DS 16). My DD has a lot going on, is having counselling but I have her the majority of the time & I spend my time counting down to when I get a break from her.

Tonight is the school disco (yr 7), at the last minute she’s decided she doesn’t like her outfit, has screamed at me demanding something else to wear. I spent the whole weekend shopping for this outfit & ordering other sizes online this week.

She had such a fit, she trashed my room, managed to pull a drawer out on to her foot, is writhing in pain (although this is what she does when she stubs her toe) & I just don’t have the energy or empathy left to help her.

I have 4 Teenagers and a 20 year old and I'm a single parent! 3 of the Teenagers are ok but 2 really make my life harder than it needs to be. I am just so tired.