Just a friendly hand hold for any other mums of teens

[Pleasegivemeyourwisdom]

I've 3.

It's a 'journey'.

Just in case anyone wants to know another trying her best mum is thinking of them

Exactly choice. The label thing is a phase for 12 year olds most of them move through that stage pretty fast (if you are lucky). Dd year 10 and no one mentions it anymore. Just “that’s nice dear” and move on.

Thank you for the replies and reassurance - I really value that, because I flip in my mind from thinking 'just a phase' to 'oh fuck'.

I try to do the 'that's nice dear' thing to a degree but she insists on pushing the conversation. She asked about top surgery yesterday!

I hated my teenage years. I just want her to have it better than I did.

Meanwhile, 15 y/o DS is in a lovely phase, I've probably forgotten what a pain in the arse he could be around this age.

I find it really comforting to read this thread to know I’m not on my own. I don’t post very often but my goodness my 14yr dd is really pushing it at the moment! Most of the time I’m not allowed to talk to her as I’m so annoying 😳 and the rage she has is incredible. If I ask a question I either get a grunt or why are you asking stupid questions the rudeness and entitlement is shocking. She’s currently still asleep and I’m enjoying the peace and quiet. I know teenagers are tough but she is exhausting me. I’m treading on eggshells in my own house it’s crazy.

hi guys

nearly at the 1000 mark so I’ve taken the liberty of starting a second thread - please join me there. The kettles on and I’ve laid it nibbles. There’s also a free bar and domino’s pizzas are being delivered shortly 😁

I am so upset with my Dd17. She speaks to me as if I am something on the bottom of her shoe. She just came down for supper (hadn't seen all day as I just got tin from work and started cooking immediately.) I said oh how was the science test? She bit my head off and said why did I keep asking her about it (I hadn't at all) and how I need to get our her life and stop speaking to her. It then descended to her swearing at me. I left the room. Eldest son and husband just sat there- neither of them said anything, either to her like don't speak to mum like that or just stop. My husband just bloody sat there again shovelling the food in that I had cooked, not saying anything. Am so upset at them all. Daughter is a monster and it literally is killing me. I hate what she's become and I cannot continue to live like this til she moves out. She doesn't lift a finger in the house. She is rude and vile to everyone, esp me. Sorry for ranting but I am so so upset. I am utterly broken by it all and feel so alone.

Totally get what you’re saying 😣

can you come over to THREAD 2 - we’ve all moved xx

@Pleasegivemeyourwisdom please can you post a link to the new thread?

I’m not sure I know how eek sorry but it’s in the teenagers section where this one is - basically labelled PART 2 xx

@belge2 exactly the same with me. I thought maybe I'd done something awful (I haven't been perfect) and she's an only child so thought it was that. But sounds the exact same.

I think men hate drama. And it wears them down. It's a tactic that works. Unfortunately. Try not to blame them. Even though I get angry too.

My DH says she won't change so there's no point. I say yes. But I will feel better if you do.

@choixduroi don't think they are less bullying. More so. As they have social media.

I find it hard to adapt to how she wants to be a teen. She's more like my sister as a teen. My sister was fed up too. But I enjoyed her company. But with daughter it's not like that.

There’s a New PART 2 thread ladies xx join us

Just feeling like I’m doing a shit job. Kids will never turn into responsible adults / manage their lives and I’ll be stuck in Groundhog Day forever !!!

moan moan moan and stamp my feet

Come join the other thread xx part 2