I disgust my DD

[thinlyv]

Light hearted... sat watching tv with DD15 & she dry heaved.. 'what's wrong?' I ask. 'You, you're so cringey'. I'm literally sat here doing nothing. WTAF.

That’s so rude

Ask her if you give her the ick

Don’t worry, I’m embarrassing too apparently.

Was she having a laugh or being serious?

Your dd is rude, hurtful and disrespectful. How would she like it if someone said this to her for absolutely no reason?

Not light-hearted, I'm so sorry she disrespects you like that.

Oh the insults my dd 18 gives me. I bought a new coat and i liked it and she said "you look like Biddy" (x mil, hated her, very controlling and manipulative woman))
Before the new coat i was going out with a friend and i had a bit of make up on but i was in jeans, she told me i looked non binary. I was obviously a bit taken aback. Even for her that was rude.

Oh don't worry I told her all this in no uncertain terms. It was half jokey but she does have a sharp tongue & I think she 'practices' being a 'mean girl' to me at times as she wouldn't say boo to a goose outside the house. I didn't post to be criticised.. it's light hearted. We all know teenagers are Jekyll & hydes right..?!

Mothers of daughters tolerate incredible rudeness.
I’d not put up with that shit

Holy crap I’d unleash hell.

'tis fine, OP. Just remember to tell her that being embarrassing is in the job description for parents...
Many years ago I had taken my teen DCs into Marks and Sparks for some sandwiches for lunch during a shopping trip. They'd been squabbling the whole time. I was so fed up I informed them (loudly) that I was seriously considering buying a picnic bottle of wine and necking it in the car on the way home.... They shut up (from embarrassment which was the whole point) - and the man who was standing next to me had to pick his jaw up from the floor!

How would she feel if that was reversed? Why would you let her think there's anything remotely cool or funny about being rude or unkind.

There is a difference in being a bit scathing like in Userbot's example about something particular. But to turn to you and say that for absolutely no reason is actually really shitty. How dare she speak to you like that

I think she 'practices' being a 'mean girl' to me at times

15 is too old for this, tell her to cop on to herself.

Sometimes it is best to laugh! - really.

Telling her she is being rude is a waste of time - she already knows that!

Give it time. I had 3 DDs and they all got through this phase and are a true delight now.

Lighthearted - /have you seen 'Mammy Banter' on Facebook - does very funny videos on parenting a teen. It always gives me a laugh!

@Mischance

Sometimes it is best to laugh! - really.

Telling her she is being rude is a waste of time - she already knows that!

Give it time. I had 3 DDs and they all got through this phase and are a true delight now.

Agreed. I know they go through this having read up on teen girls development & good to hear from someone with your experience it's par for the course. I know for a fact she'd never say mean things to others & it's not an everyday occurrence. In the next breath she adores me - interesting response on here tho...

That is so rude

No excuse for that

@YourWinter

How would she feel if that was reversed? Why would you let her think there's anything remotely cool or funny about being rude or unkind.

I didn't..

I couldn't relate to this at all, out of nowhere. I don't buy into the 'all teens go through this' stage either. They don't. It was a horrible thing to say to you and she could do with learning manners and respect.

Well you obviously find it acceptable so probably have modelled this type of behaviour at some point

My 16 yr old DD got in the car after she finished work the other day and said 'oh you look really nice' I thought it was lovely to be paid a compliment without any prompting etc. They can be lovely

I now feel old, as despite am absolutely sure was an awful teen to my dm, I would NEVER have been so unprompted rude and nasty. Yes would have been 'you're ruining my life' if dm was dancing/singing at a family or village party type thing. But to dry fucking heave because you sat next to her?!

@thinlyv you should start using slang words and she will think you are ‘proper cringe like’ I told my daughter she looked Peng as she was leaving the house one morning, she didn’t know what to say and couldn’t stop laughing and asked where I’d heard it that was proper cringe apparently.

Do what I did.. get a job at her secondary school with an office next to her form room....:)