I disgust my DD

[thinlyv]

Light hearted... sat watching tv with DD15 & she dry heaved.. 'what's wrong?' I ask. 'You, you're so cringey'. I'm literally sat here doing nothing. WTAF.

I missed the dry heaved bit, that’s a bit over the line, I’d say something but unless she was rude all the time I wouldn’t react as some on here.

@topcat2014

Do what I did.. get a job at her secondary school with an office next to her form room....:)

Ha! Love that.

@GreenLunchBox

Well you obviously find it acceptable so probably have modelled this type of behaviour at some point

Gosh I never expected such bitter judgement on my 'light hearted' post. I made it very clear to her it was unacceptable. And I have never modelled such behaviour.. I posted on here in the hope others having a tough time with teens might see how unreasonable they can be. At times. She is also a delight. Good lord, where's the solidarity gone on here?

Wow, some people on here missing the - literally written out for the slow of understanding - bit where OP said "light hearted"

OP, it is a parent's job to be embarrassing. Literally, it is in the job description. I am impressed you have mastered it to such a level that you can achieve it whilst not actually doing anything other than breathing.
Kudos.

@Kite22

Wow, some people on here missing the - literally written out for the slow of understanding - bit where OP said "light hearted"

OP, it is a parent's job to be embarrassing. Literally, it is in the job description. I am impressed you have mastered it to such a level that you can achieve it whilst not actually doing anything other than breathing.
Kudos.

THANK YOU Jeez...

I get this feeling from my granddaughter (16). She never says anything but I can see it in her face. Overweight grey haired wrinkly grandma, yuck.

It really hit home Christmas Day when she was going on about Leonardo DiCaprio being fat. I had to check him out afterwards...

Have you seen Better Things, OP? It's about an actress mom raising three daughters (based on her own life) and the things they say to her made me gasp a few times, but she gives them space to be total nightmares and it seems to work out well for their relationship. I think it might be on iPlayer

Solidarity here I am also embarrassing. I whooped in the theatre (not inappropriately) at the weekend and afterwards she exclaimed she couldn't believe I had done that and she laughed at people like me who did that on You Tube.. 45 minutes before the show she told me I was very cool with interesting life experiences.. its all a balance.

@Kite22

Wow, some people on here missing the - literally written out for the slow of understanding - bit where OP said "light hearted"

OP, it is a parent's job to be embarrassing. Literally, it is in the job description. I am impressed you have mastered it to such a level that you can achieve it whilst not actually doing anything other than breathing.
Kudos.

The problem is it doesn't matter that OP says it's light hearted, she has described a horrible situation that isn't light hearted.

Pandemic teens are even more of a joy than regular teens, imo! They have even more of that love/hate relationship going on with their parents/themselves/the world. I disgraced myself today by saying it would be ok for DD to get her nose pierced. Apparently I was meant to be disapproving...

This did make me and DH giggle. Ours is only 3 so a few years off but fully expecting this 😂 I remember thinking the same of my parents (can't remember if I voiced it, maybe!)

My friend's daughter is 13. She's always been so loving with my friend, who truly is the loveliest guy. Over the first lockdown they'd go out for a walk to get fresh air (and give his wife a break!), and she used to walk six feet behind him and tell him not to speak to her because it was soooo embarrassing to be seen with him.

Ffs lighten up please!!! Op has described an abnormal situation with dry humour. She never said it was ok , but is wryly accepting that just sometime our kids are buggers and you have to laugh at them… she will remind her child at some point in the future when they have a similar nightmare teenager of this conversation and her child will think ‘ffs I was a twat’ mum and child will then laugh!

"Elelel" - were you there? In the scheme of family dynamics, we've been through worse

It was very rude and unnecessary but I don't get what prompted it. What did she even mean if you were sat watching tv and doing nothing else? She doesn't sound very kind. I'd be concerned how she was treating others if she felt that was acceptable.

@AgathaMystery

Holy crap I’d unleash hell.

Jeeeeez slightly dramatic 😂

Tell her to fuck off.

Seriously, my lovely mum who never swore, said this to me once when my behaviour had tipped over into the truly awful. It shocked me to silence and made me think. I didnt apologise (for about 30 years) but it did have an effect.

@AgathaMystery

Holy crap I’d unleash hell.

It does no good- believe me. There is more than one way to skin a cat

@thinlyv when I read your OP I did wonder if the mothers of the perfect fb 8-year olds would be out in force

@Lollypop701

Ffs lighten up please!!! Op has described an abnormal situation with dry humour. She never said it was ok , but is wryly accepting that just sometime our kids are buggers and you have to laugh at them… she will remind her child at some point in the future when they have a similar nightmare teenager of this conversation and her child will think ‘ffs I was a twat’ mum and child will then laugh!

Someone who gets it. Thank you! Why is everyone so bitterly judgemental?! Don't tell me they all have the most angelic teenage kids..

Op I have a 12 year old but we have almost reached this level.
Her embarrassment levels have reached critical.
I can’t even talk when waking around in public with her (even very quietly) as I’m just so embarrassing. Carrying things round a shop to pay at the till is embarrassing. Laughing in public is embarrassing. Smiling when she opens the car door when I give her a lift home is embarrassing.
Jeckle and Hyde describes the situation perfectly.

@thinlyv most don’t get it because they probably don’t currently have teenage girls!

[quote Silverswirl]@thinlyv most don’t get it because they probably don’t currently have teenage girls![/quote]

Correct. I have older and younger girls. I don't 'get' it because it's not how we speak to one another in this house.

Some of these responses 🙈

Tell her "I'm based. Cope"

Watch her horror/awe

I don’t get the shock or can’t look emoji at the responses

I do have a teen I’m sure there is some annoyance but can’t imagine this scenario