I disgust my DD

[thinlyv]

Light hearted... sat watching tv with DD15 & she dry heaved.. 'what's wrong?' I ask. 'You, you're so cringey'. I'm literally sat here doing nothing. WTAF.

It's our job to be embarrassing and cringe worthy, anyone would have thought she had threatened to torture you.
In the grand scheme of things this comment is harmless

When dd was home from uni for the hols she asked if she could borrow a scarf so I gave her two options
‘Mum, I don’t want to look like a 50 year old woman!’
So she went scarfless…

@Eviebeans

If dry heaving was practising being a mean girl she needs to up her game. It's a funny old time for teens atm - give her a really cringey hug

Yes definitely. Oh and call her your ickle speshul pwincess while you're at it. That'll bring her round 😆

I'm gutted. Mine's not a teen anymore and I have to work really hard to embarrass him. In fact we went out together the other day and he walked right next to me and spoke to me!!!!!!

@EarringsandLipstick google enmeshment and individuation within the family.

[quote UserBot989]@EarringsandLipstick google enmeshment and individuation within the family.[/quote]
Why?

[quote UserBot989]@EarringsandLipstick google enmeshment and individuation within the family.[/quote]
Are you suggesting that those whose teens aren’t rude and hurtful towards them have some kind of damaging, toxic family dynamic going on?

Ah this thread is hilarious. I too was an awesome parent of teens until I had actual teens. There is such a huge, often unacknowledged element of randomness in the behaviour and temperament of our children - it's good to remember that before spending too much time patting oneself on the back.

OP I second @VeruccaSalty - if you haven't already, watch the entire four seasons of Better Things. You aren't alone.

Mine are adults now, as teens they were pretty decent.
But they knew that if they criticised me unfairly for embarrassing behaviour, they were risking the unleashing of so very much more outrageous behaviour in my repertoire.
That and being a source of lifts, interesting food and general comfort.
Gentle teasing was/us as far as we all go.

But yes, some people find rudeness and personal attacks ok in a family and others don’t. What is a spirited child for one is a foul little oil for another. Mumsnet is diverse, you are never going to get a homogeneous response.

Autocorrect.
Foul little oik
Not oil.

I got a very cool haircut on Friday, undercut, blunt fringe and also had lots of purple slashes put in. You should have heard the wails from my 13 year old daughter! In my mind, that makes it a successful haircut

Why can't you just be a normal conservative mum?! Do not answer when Evie/Isabelle/Amelia comes to the door! You are so embarrassing! You think you are cool and alternative but you are not! You look like an emo! Why would you do this to me? Etc etc etc

Mine told me yesterday that her room

"is the only place in the house where my foul stench doesn't pervade every corner & I need to not spray my vile odour around her personal space"

I was in there 2 seconds gathering up all the missing glasses etc when she came home & caught me

I admired her dramatic turn of phrase, she needs to be on stage or writing dramatic novels 😂

& I then set DH on her. She did apologise & meant it & owned up to being very hormonal 🥴

God teenagers are tits, aren't they?

I bet she feels so cool and edgy. Remind her of this at nineteen, she'll be mortified hahah.

In the meantime oh look what disgusting mum did... nO wIfI

@RockinHorseShit Haha! Little do they know they are the stinky ones!

Same DD told me off for sitting on her bed as I was spreading my bacteria on the bedsheets. Tbf she is a bit germphobic but in a similar vein to yours...

What perfume do you wear btw? If it has this effect on teenage girls I may need to purchase some for myself...

@thinlyv

"Elelel" - were you there? In the scheme of family dynamics, we've been through worse

Aw, I understood you, OP. It's all about context and it may be hard for others to understand when they weren't there, but I'm sure you knew the tone. My DD is 16 and in the past has sometimes said some rude things to me in a similar vein, but she has ASD and can get things wrong and I've used it as a lighthearted teaching moment so that she doesn't say the wrong thing with her friends. It's worked pretty well in her case and not going in all guns blazing about manners has really helped. TBF we are all big on teasing and taking the piss in this house so it's usually okay regardless.

You're getting so much abuse OP, poor you. As a secondary teacher I can safely say teenagers are totally bonkers and you need to maintain epic levels of patience and a sense of humour. Sounds like you're doing both so all credit to you x

Ha this made me chuckle. I have a 15 DD and she'd say something similar.