My teen has spent 20 minutes pointing out all my faults.😣

[ArseInTheCoOpWindow]

But I’m not allowed to reciprocate as that’s ‘mean’

Who ever thought that miming to music on my headphones was a failing? 🤷🏼‍♀️

One of my teens has spent the last 10 years pointing out my failings 🤷‍♀️

Teenagers are brutal aren’t they. I feel your pain. My DD is a lovely sweet girl but takes no prisoners when she has a problem with something I’m wearing for example.

But hey! That's a win in my book...I rarely get 20 minutes conversation out of mine.😂

Yes they are brutal. I thanked her sarcastically for the unasked for critique.

All the times I’ve been her cheerleader, mentor, nurse, counsellor, cook, lovely kind mum. But l breathe too loudly apparently. And am dramatic. And pick fights with her when I’m bored.

Obviously l am guilty as charged😬

She was only talking to me as l was driving her to a shopping centre to buy a sketch book, so we were trapped in the car together.

Do you know what my teen would be doing if they did that? Walking to the sodding shops.

My reaction is usually : “thanks, love you too”. Or “a mother’s place is in the wrong”

Is she 14 by any chance OP?

I'd just say yep and you're going to inherit ALL of them. Its's in your genes.

Is she 14 by any chance OP?

She was 15 a week and a half ago.

I hope she didn't get as far as the shop for the sketch book. I would (and have in the past) just turned the car around if my kids can't be civil.

You need to master the playing them at their own words.

So in this situation "ah that's fantastic I'm annoying you in the car. Means you will be happy to get out and walk and I can go and do something else"

Sweet smile.

Say nothing - apology just smile and keep driving.

More abuse - find the nearest lay-by or do an about turn and go home!

@Hellocatshome

Do you know what my teen would be doing if they did that? Walking to the sodding shops.

Agreed. It amazes me how many teens talk to their parents like shit and seemingly get away with it. If my teen is disrespectful to me they get one hell of a bollocking but it is a rare occurence thankfully.

Only 20 minutes? You got off lightly.

Teens are such shits (I'm the proud owner of a 17yo and a 14yo).

Counting down the days until they move out when they-re 30

Teenagers only get the free pass on rudeness if you allow it.

@FasterthanBolt

I hope she didn't get as far as the shop for the sketch book. I would (and have in the past) just turned the car around if my kids can't be civil.

I agree. I know this is light-hearted in the main, but there's just no excuse for rudeness or hurtful comments.

I have a 14 yo DD who is normally pleasant & friendly. Which is great.

However, especially if around my wider family, she can get a bit big for her boots & actually be snotty & be quite rude, eye-rolly to me.

I point it out, and let her know if she's upset me. She's not great at accepting this. But I do think it's important to let teens know that we parents have feelings. I definitely wouldn't be happily driving her somewhere as she listed my faults!

Did you turn the car around and take her straight home?

My preteen pushed it the other day as far as insults go I told him you know your way home from here right? You WILL BE WALKING in a minute I literally saw those words settle in his brain and he said sorry

My remarks usually start like "mom I hate when you do xyz" yes son yet here you are sat in my car spending my money "yes but thats because you love me" yes son but there is bread and water love and golden arches love......(golden arches is McDonald's) its a gentle reminder but he works it out that he has gone too far at this point if he goes further I threaten him with walking

I also annoy my teen by breathing. Apparently it is 'jarring'. 🤷‍♀️
Errr ok not sure I can stop breathing really.

And I annoy her by not telepathically knowing that her favourite blue skirt which is on her floor actually really really needed to be washed ready for going out RIGHT NOW.

And don't get me started on the requests for lifts home where I say,
Please give me some warning so that I can plan my evening .... and then I get the text 'please can you pick me up now' and it is so very unreasonable for me to say wait 10 mins while I finish my dinner.

But then just occasionally both DDs clean the kitchen while I am at work (they have both been on study leave).

So I live with hope that there are nice people in there hiding behind the Kevin the teenager rants.

I’ve actually told mine (just turned 18) to fuck off tonight. Ungrateful utter gobshite.

Yes @ShowMeYourMethod! Me too. I’ve done experiments where I surreptitiously hold my breath and he still bleats on

Either I was lucky, or I’m a terrifying parent.
Mine were all lovely teens. Now polite, helpful adults who have heated discussions not fights.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

She was only talking to me as l was driving her to a shopping centre to buy a sketch book, so we were trapped in the car together.

I think you should have either stopped the car and told her to walk or done a quick u-turn and gone straight home.

They sound unreasonable. How do they cope with you laughing and saying ‘Nope’ ?

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

She was only talking to me as l was driving her to a shopping centre to buy a sketch book, so we were trapped in the car together.

The car would’ve been turned round and we’d have gone straight back home if it was me. There’s no way I’d have continued with a shopping trip after being spoken to like that.