Was this anything other than consensual sex?

[fedupwithemployer]

Please help me with this. I keep turning it around in my head and have been unable to sleep all night. I'll keep it brief.

Boy 15
Girl 14

Boy pesters girl for sex. She says no. She is too young and wants to be in a more committed relationship. She's a virgin. Boy asks again, and again. Eventually girl has sex as she wants to stop the nagging, and doesn't want boy to break up with her. Never had a boyfriend. They've been seeing each other a month.

Boy splits up with her the next day.

Thanks.

@AnotherEmma thank you

Well done OP and DD.

Thank you @123rd

@fedupwithemployer

Hi

My child is the DD. The police are involved, but it's early days. I am absolutely distraught, and trying to do everything to help DD.

Thanks for everyone's input so far.

Police are invoked ... for what she said yes Although morally it’s wrong

Not sure what you mean @Akal212 ?

@fedupwithemployer bless you. Have no words for what you're both going through. Take care x

Some people seem to find it surprisingly difficult to understand that a victim of coercive sex - and a 14 year old virgin one at that - might describe the experience in a way that is not entirely clear, well understood or consistent. And that determining the legal status of it is only going to be possible after patiently and sensitively helping her make sense of it.

Well done for taking a stand in this. More people need to call out this behaviour. Two sets of parents who knew about this behaviour have failed your DD. We need to think about future victims when failing to report unacceptable behaviour.

@FifteenToes thank you. My sentiments exactly. Expert questioning by the lovely Police Inspector got the information from her. They've done a fantastic job. The fact that he's unlikely to be charged will, I imagine, be a disappointment to her as well as me.

@Greylamp100 thank you too. She most definitely has been let down by both sets of parents. Especially his. I can try and see that the parents of the girl may have wanted to close that chapter of their life and move on.