Having sex when teenagers are in the house

[tiredandgrumpy]

Embarrassing problem. Having a dilemma. Turns out our floorboards are very squeaky and since our bedroom is immediately above dd's bedroom, she's getting disturbed.

We're honestly not noisy. Last night I didn't think there was any noise, but dd is in tears because she claims we disturbed her again.

What is the answer? We can try to get better soundproofing in the floor, but is half her upset the knowledge that her parents are up to something she just doesn't want to know about? Dh has a high sex drive so reducing frequency is not really a long term option.

Not sure why the negativity on this thread., op is entitled to a sex life and no it’s not traumatic to the teens. They aren’t screaming the place down..

Just Don't let them hear it. Everyone saying that you shouldn't be having sex until they've moved out is just wrong. that's not right to say, it's your house and your life you still have a life and your an adult. you shouldn't not do something you want to do just because you have teenagers in the house that's unfair. I used to think oh she shouldn't be doing that here well at least not when it's so quite in the house when I can obviously hear it. but then I felt bad and realised. I'm 19 and I live with my mum and when her boyfriend come round sometimes I hear them and it's absolutely disgusting it really deeply disturbs me. Hearing her moaning is the most disgusting thing ew I can hear it in my head now I don't wanna hear that shit I also don't like her boyfriend so makes it even worse just knowing that there doing that in the next room 🤢 I think it's fine just make sure that they can't hear anything. It's a private thing no body should know that's what your doing no body wants to know either It is very disturbing for a daughter to hear her mum shagging never mind someone who's not there dad

Bless her I know how she feels It's absolutely disgusting hearing it it made me not even want to be in the house I can imagine how frustrated and mortified she feels. Seriously you need to consider her feelings out yourself in her shoes it's very unfair if she's made it clear it makes her uncomfortable and you ignore it just be quite and make sure she doesn't know that's what your doing ever again

Funny how people think having sex at any time at anywhere is easy. My husband himself is big and tall , I could never do a "quickie" in a shower plus he hates quickies

Could a thick rug under the bed work?

I understand how you feel. We have way too many people in our house and don't want to be heard.

Get your daughter some earplugs too

Get a water bed...
(and a structural survey before you fill it)

My aunt used to tell her kids that they are just exercising haha, don't worry, I was way older when she told me this and the subject somehow came up.

Not a helpful post though

Don't get her earplugs as someone just said
😠🥴 that will make her even more uncomfortable that's basically you saying to her I don't care how you feel I'm gonna keep having sex end of deal with it here, here's some earplugs. If my mum came to me with earplugs I'd be like wtf. Trust me she wants to forget about it not be reminded of it Just make sure she doesn't ever hear you again it's not hard.

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles seriously..... a water bed.........don't you know that makes x10 more noise. 🤦‍♀️

I doubt the earplug would send a message of " I don't care how you feel" . Her daughter should understand people in a relationship have sex.

it just means her mother can try to be quiet the best she could but it's doesn't her daughter can's hear it.

@Blueberries0112 I've been in the same situation as the daughter. I know exactly how it feels. Yes. She would be very uncomfortable if her mum came to her with a bag of earplugs.

It's uncomfortable all around , but you only feel your parents don't care when they actually don't care.

@Blueberries0112 the "earplugs" will only make her x100 more uncomfortable why make her more uncomfortable than she allready is. She doesn't need to be given no earplugs OP just needs to be discreet about it then it will all blow over. And never has to be spoken about again and no more tears bless her.
Earplugs 🤦‍♀️imagine 🤢
"You might wanna put in your earplugs tonight"

No the mother don't need to warn her ahead of time, like I said I am sure she will try to be discreet. I would just say, here is some earplugs in case we snore too loudly or talking (she probably can hear them arguing too) , or whatever because our paper thin floor

Futon mattress laid directly on a different part of the floor. And sort your floorboards.

Remember it might only be a few years before she's sexually active. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot and you had to listen to her rutting every night?

I'm surprise by most of these comments. I think hearing sex is really really grim. I think you should fix the floorboards and also enjoy when she's out.

@Oblomov20 init especially hearing your MUM some of these people are deluded absolute weirdos

@whoeverthrewthatpaperyamomsaho

You need to add more water if it is sloshing about!

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles doesn't matter how much water is in it your literally laying on water and moving of course it's going to make a sound. Absolutely ridiculous

@whoeverthrewthatpaperyamomsaho

Fill it with jelly then?

That is grim. Best time is early morning before theyre awake or when they’re out. Bit difficult w a pandemic on but I’d be completely grossed out if my teens heard us and they would be too

Os she crying because she finds hearing you distressingz or because she's so tired? I'm a crier naturally, and need lots of sleep. If I don't get sleep for a few nights, things that normally I don't give a damn about would make me cry. It's an exhaustion thing.

@housemdwaswrong it'll be both. I know what she's feeling as I've been through it myself obviously I'm 19 so I'm not going to cry if I were her age I probably would but she will be upset because of both

@Oblomov20

I'm surprise by most of these comments. I think hearing sex is really really grim. I think you should fix the floorboards and also enjoy when she's out.

Best solution!!

This is vile.
What does it matter if you are ac to ally stopping her from sleeping or if it is that it is why you are doing that is upsetting her.
How can you enjoy having sex when you know she is listening upset.
How awful.
No one is suggesting not having sex but seriously find a solution and it can't be that she just needs to accept it.

Squeaky floorboards are very easily sorted- it's usually because the floorboard nails have started to lift out of the joist. Buy cut clasp floor board nails, and a nail punch. Any really loose nails replace and any nails that were still tight but lifting use the punch to drive down. Should fix the issue.

If your bed frame is squeaky then that will depend on why that is but you should be able to deal with that creatively.