Ds wants to go on holiday with his boyfriend

[Thepurpleonee]

Hi my son is 14 and is openly gay. He has asked me if he can go on holiday for a couple of nights next week with his boyfrend who is 16. His boyfriends parents will also be there.
I don't know weather to say yes or no though what should I do ?????

What would be your reason for saying no?

At 14 I would say no. He is under age. My ds isn't allowed under age girls so same would apply for a bf in out house /holiday.

Have you talked to the other boy’s parents? If you think they are reasonable people, then I think I’d be ok with it.

I think 14 is too young for sex so for me it would depend on measures being put in place to reduce the liklehood of that happening.

Too young.

I know the other parents but I haven't spoke to them about the holiday yet my ds only asked me last night

Too young to go away with boyfriends/girlfriends IMO

Why are you allowing your son to date a 16 year old? They have sex it's still statutory rape.

So no I wouldn't allow my son to go on holiday with his 16 year old boyfriend.

I thought it was 18 ?? I don't mind that my son is going out with someone 2 years older as long as he is happy which he is.

How bizarre that everyone straight away thinks about sex. Is that only a consideration when teens go on holiday?

I think I'd let him go. Who honestly cares if they're having sex. Lots of boys that age engage in sexual activity with each other even if they're not gay.

Are you in the UK? I thought statutory rape only applied in the US

I wouldn't be happy about my 14 year old going on holiday with a 16 year old bf or gf, regardless of the sex aspect it feels too young to be going away in that situation

Me and my oldest dd 22 have had the sex talk with my ds and I told him to make sure his boyfriend is wearing a condom if they do it. but I don't think Either of them have thought about it

Absolutely not.

Id let him go. Legally it may be statutory rape but given the age difference of 2 years the policy wouldnt be interested and morally/ethically id be fine with it. Personally i dont think 14 is too young for sex, (within healthy parameters) that was about the age most of my friends started having sex.

make sure his boyfriend is wearing a condom if they do it.

I’m assuming you told him to wear one too.

I wouldn’t let my son or daughter go on holiday with a boyfriend/girlfriend until 16

Absolutely not. The boy is 14 years old.

You’ve ‘had the talk and as long as his BF is wearing a condom’ it’s ok? How would you feel if that was your 14 year old daughter? 14 is too young to be having sex. That’s why there are laws in place - to protect children who are emotionally immature at that age.

IF they are having sex then his 16 BF is committing an offence. Your son (and it would be the same if it was a heterosexual relationship) legally has to be 16.

www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/4hPrqzTRSBvvzHkTckNYNZ5/age-of-consent

I think it's fine. I went on holiday with friends and their parents at that age and don't think this is much different. If they are going to have sex they will do it regardless of whether you let them go away together or not. The other boys parents will be there so as long as you think they are OK and trust them I can't see an issue.

I wouldn't let my child go away with a partner at 14. Too much too soon.

They have sex it's still statutory rape.

There is no such crime in the UK.

I'm pretty sure in the Uk for it to be considered statutory rape, providing the 'child' is 13+ the perpetrator has to be 18+. No one would be interested in a 14 y/o and 16 y/o.
I would say yes I think, depending on how well I knew the boyfriend and their family.

I didn't think boys had an age limit for sex except up the bum. I think you have to be 21? I'd want to know sleeping arrangements and supervision. 14 is still quite young.