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Ds wants to go on holiday with his boyfriend

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Thepurpleonee · 16/02/2018 10:04

Hi my son is 14 and is openly gay. He has asked me if he can go on holiday for a couple of nights next week with his boyfrend who is 16. His boyfriends parents will also be there.
I don't know weather to say yes or no though what should I do ?????

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bluesouper · 16/02/2018 13:58

I wouldn't discourage the relationship but I certainly wouldn't be supporting it to become something so serious (holidaying together) at 14 years of age.

Dates, cinema, hanging out together - absolutely.

Holidays?? At 14?! Not a chance.

Frazzled2207 · 16/02/2018 14:03

Assuming I am happy with the other parents' ability to make sure as far as possible that no bed hopping occurs, I'd be ok with it.

SuburbanRhonda · 16/02/2018 14:03

But it’s not the holiday that makes it serious. I’ve known loads of children who’ve gone on holidays with other families. We’ve taken our DC’s friends on holiday with us.

What makes it serious is how they feel about each other. So I’m wondering what you’d do to stop that happening.

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Thepurpleonee · 16/02/2018 14:12

I want what's best for ds and my ds is happy with his boyfriend so I can only support him and not discourage him.

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macbethh · 16/02/2018 14:13

I think it's fine. I went on holiday with friends and their parents at that age and don't think this is much different. If they are going to have sex they will do it regardless of whether you let them go away together or not. The other boys parents will be there so as long as you think they are OK and trust them I can't see an issue.

I agree

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Thepurpleonee · 16/02/2018 14:20

My dd said the same to me if they are going to do I it would of happend by now

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cjferg · 16/02/2018 14:26

Don't see the problem. As others have said, if they want to have sex they will regardless of this holiday.

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Thepurpleonee · 16/02/2018 14:37

I'm going to let him go can't see how I can say no will tell ds later he will be so happy :-)

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SuburbanRhonda · 16/02/2018 14:38

Hope he has a wonderful time, OP.

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Thepurpleonee · 16/02/2018 14:45

Thanks I'm sure he will

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NewImprovedNinja · 16/02/2018 14:49

Just read the same thread on Gransnet...

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Thepurpleonee · 16/02/2018 14:52

That could of been my mum as I spoke to her about it but thought she wasn't on gransnet

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Thepurpleonee · 16/02/2018 14:56

I have spoken to the other parents and let them know that it's ok for my ds to go on holiday with them they are happy to have him.

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NorthernSpirit · 16/02/2018 15:45

‘i’m going to let him go as I can’t see how I can say no’. Of course you can say no. You’re in charge, you’re the parent.

MakeItStopNeville · 16/02/2018 15:55

No way! Not least because there’s a pretty big difference between a 14 and a 16 year old boy. They change a lot in those 2 years so it’s not a level relationship. And your son’s BFs parents should probably remember that tbh.

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LemonysSnicket · 16/02/2018 17:17

No, he’s too young.

I was allowed to go on holiday at 15 with friends, 16 with boyfriends.

Also statutory rape doesn’t exist in the uk.

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macbethh · 17/02/2018 06:20

Hope he has a great time!

bridgetoc · 18/02/2018 22:16

I feel for you OP....... My DS is gay, 15, and has a BF.

It is very difficult to know what to do at times, and both my DH and I do the best we can.

I would have said no if my DS wanted to go on holiday with a BF at 14.

Good luck....

Pollycat100 · 20/02/2018 11:54

I would let him go. My ds 12 is also gay

Keepingupwiththejonesys · 20/02/2018 13:22

I haven't read the full thread but fuck you thepurpleone. She's posted this on Netmums too and also a post about buying 5 pound ugg boots for her son and wondering why they slant. You're a weirdo

Keepingupwiththejonesys · 20/02/2018 13:26

Don't forget to pop to primark for those uggs and onesies....you know...IN YOUR IMAGINARY WORLD

Hoppinggreen · 20/02/2018 13:42

Oh God, is it THAT poster?
Wasn’t the son 17 last time?

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