17 year old DD phone restrictions

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For the past few years I've taken all electronic devices off my 17 year old daughter at 9:30pm and her WiFi goes off completely at 9:30pm. This is the same for weekends and during the holidays. This results in constant arguments and her attitude has worsened including her swearing and arguing with me and being very reluctant to give her phone over. Am I being too strict?

Your mother is completely and utterly unreasonable OP, but you won't make her see that. Keep your head down, try to toe the line and accept what you cannot change for now and then get yourself off to uni and have a wonderful time. Your DM is ridiculously controlling and you'll be happier out of it.

if you ever want to see your daughter after she's left for university i suggest you loosen up a bit!

Your dm is completely unreasonable,you have more restrictions placed upon you than my 14yo.
I'd say that you challenging dm is just making life more difficult for you so it's time to get clever instead. Keep your head down,don't argue and swear and get yourself a second phone they know nothing about.
If dm thinks she has won she will loosen her grip I'd imagine.
Grounding you until you are eighteen is ridiculous but I would have had words if you had gotten drunk to the point of incapable if you had been mine tbh.You need to be able to keep yourself safe and it would be better to learn that before uni.
Good luck,work hard knowing that come September you will have a new sort of life and can see the dps on your own terms.

Your mother is wrong.

Stop winding her up though- it's pointless really. Just smile and bite your tongue.

Uni is going to be a blast 😎

If you have a job- can you not get your own phone?

I hope you have a great time at uni.

I also hope you are doing something you have chosen to do. (Just recalling a couple of friends from my youth whose parents were very much like yours, and also chose what path those friends would take through A levels and uni, not surprisingly they dropped out)

Unfortanly I don't think your mother is going to listen to reason and the fact you say you've "snuck on" is likely to rile her more.

She seems very mistreating of technology again the snuck on bit makes me think you can't access the internet without supervision.

Very very odd, but when some one has those ideas going look these strangers say your wrong is going to make them worse and more angry at you I'm afraid. My step mother always thought she knew best when confronted with the facts she's literally point to herself and go "no naught your wrong I know I know I know" until she was almost screaming. People like that just entrench themselves more when being told their wrong.

get through to the end of the summer and I realise that seems a million years away now, but once your gone you'll discover staying up all night and sleeping the next day away. And have fun it's part of adult life.

Although with your mother going to bed so early I wonder if the problem is she's never self regulated.

If the control continues after your at uni yep cut her off!

Are you going to Liverpool uni or was that a change so as not to identify yourself?

Tried to buy my own phond but dad found out and he said if I do buy it then he'd cut the WiFi off it at 9:30 and the same rules would apply for it. Same for the tablet I bought and they found which they've now confiscated and restricted the WiFi on it

Going there because it is very far away, has a fantastic course, good nightlife and is a nice city

If I were you I’d just hang on until then. It won’t be long now.

And then you never have to go back.

17 is a bit old. I was living away and in college by then.

Sorry but you are treating a 17 year old and a 12 year old the same. You are too strict. You need to stop babying her. Let her make her own mistakes otherwise when she gets to Uni the freedom will go to her head. The fact that no one is allowed downstairs you go to be is actually worrying

Wow they sound batshit! I really feel for you. Can't believe they've stolen your own tablet. Your best strategy is to keep your head down and wait put the torture until September. Don't rock the boat with childish games because they may decide some other controlling punishment.

OP if you want to have internet access without using the family WiFi (so just after hours) then how about a second PAYG phone?

Bet she can’t wait until you die

17? Definitely too harsh.

Seems some people need to rtft before posting.

Ah. I hadn't read the full thread you will have a blast at uni OP. Hope you can find the freedom you need

Oh bloody hell it was a reverse. Are you okay?

This isn't normal parenting OP and I really feel for you. Your mum sounds incredibly controlling. You're nearly 18!

I have two 16 year olds and thought I was being pretty controlling by removing devices at 10.30 until after their GCSEs were completed. Since then they've been allowed to go to bed whenever they want and with phones/laptops, they need to learn how to self regulate.

Keep your head down, try not to lose it and swear at them, although that must be very difficult! September isn't far away and you'll have loads of freedom. stay safe though.

They've also come home a bit drunk from parties, one rather drunk indeed, but we're here to pick up the pieces/provide lifts/advice whilst they work out their tolerances etc. They need to do this within the safety net of home, not at uni miles away with strangers.

the more I think of this the more annoyed I'm getting at your parents, it's verging on abusive to be honest.

Yes. She's 17 now, basically a young adult.
She shouldn't be arguing with you and giving you cheek though, you're her mum under your roof she should respect you but you are being VERY unreasonable OP x

She's almost an adult and at 18 you wouldn't be able to enforce it. You are far too strict.

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