16 year old DS away with GF

[Woody67]

My DS is 16 (17 in December) and he is going on a "mini break" for 3 nights to a B&B with his GF, also 16. They've been together about 7 months. My view is that it's probably preferable to a lads rowdy holiday and if they are going to have sex then they don't need to go away to do so.. Would you let your 16 yo go?

No.

Who is paying for it ?

I'd let them go.

As he is old enough to leave home I don't see how you can really stop him??

Yes I probably would as long as you know they are safe in all aspects of the word.

I wouldn't let a 16 to go on a lads holiday OR a mini-break. Totally age-inappropriate.

If I were the B&B owner I wouldn't accept them.

Why are you asking what anyone else would do ?

The trip dirty weekend is already planned and booked, yes ?

No , and I doubt the B and B owner will allow under 18's.

Just interested. He's paying.

No.

As he is old enough to leave home I don't see how you can really stop him??

I doubt there are many 16 year olds who could really leave home, raise the deposit for rent, pay rent (would a landlord even accept a 16 year old?) etc etc.

I wouldn't stop them, but I defo wouldn't be paying for it. If they have been responsible and saved up for it between them, then they sound pretty sensible/mature imo.

Do the B+B owners know uthey have schoolchildren coming to stay ?

And the girls parents ?

I think it's fine if the relationship is stable and they've been lectured on safe sex etc.

But then again I'm Scottish and you can get married at 16 without the need for parental consent so that slightly colours my view.

What part of a mini break bothers people? If it's the fact that 2 consenting adults will be having sex, it's very ducking obvious they are already sexually active.

I have no problem with my teens having sexual relationships responsibly. I also have no problem with them enjoying a holiday.

For the poster that said it was not age appropriate; how is it not?

I suspect the B and B won't take them. They ask for ID usually, don't they?

My DS aged 16 would never do this in a month of Sundays - not got the maturity.

But if he did want to go away, at that age he can leave home, or can get married w/o my consent (Scotland) so I don't see how I could reasonably stop him, though I might advise against it.

I can imagine young people that age might just want a bit of privacy to dtd. I would prob grit my teeth and have the contraception conversation with him again very soon (it's always been theoretical before!)

Bertrand Russell - I have never been asked for ID at a B&B.

I think that 16 is very young to be in a 'serious, committed relationship'.

A number of my DNieces and DNephews have had serious relationships at that age and personally I feel it is too young to get so serious and committed - and in each case it has not led to a happy, fulfilling relationship (including two unplanned children ) - so although I know that lots of people meet their life partner at 16, live happily ever after etc etc but to be perfectly honest it is not something I would encourage for my own 16 year old.

Premier Inn take bookings from 16. I just checked their Ts and Cs.

They haven"t booked a Premier Inn

I know they haven't booked a Premier Inn.

Some posters are suggesting that they're too young to book a room. Clearly that's not the case in some establishments e.g. Premier Inn allow bookings at 16.

think that 16 is very young to be in a 'serious, committed relationship'.

Maybe, and certainly form my 40+ yo point of view this relationship isn't as serious or committed as the DS&GF probably think but it IS age appropriate.

I'd let DS if he wanted to go away with a girlfriend. He's over the age of consent.

A non-chain private establishment are less likely to allow two under 18's to stay