My 12yo DS wants me to ask you all?!

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Do you allow your 12+ yo DS and DD to have their phones / devices in their rooms at night?

Do you allow your 13+ yo DS and DD to have their phones / devices in their rooms at night!

No, and the boarding school I work at takes devices off all yr 9 & 10 at night

Dd 11, ds 13 & ds17 tablets and phns aloud in rooms during the day, all have them down stairs on the table at 9, I wouldn't be so worried about ds17, but my boys share a room, so older son goes along with it. I keep mine down stairs too

Yes DS (17) and DD (13) both have phones and iPads and I trust them to self police. But both do homework unasked and do extremely well at school. If I thought that they were being stupid or work was suffering I'd ask what they were going to do about it and might think again.

Yes but I use OurPact

ds is 14, dd1 is 11.
Phones downstairs on charge before bed.

Same goes for most of ds friends, although ds would swear black is white that he is the only one.

Not in bedrooms until 18 and at university. Not encouraged when they came home either. The boarding house had a no IT after 9.30 policy for main school and 10.30 for sixth form.

My boys are now 20 and 23. They didn't have computers in bedroom until 6th form, until then homework requiring internet access was done in study downstairs. U-tube was watched in study , so we could supervise.
Phones were in schoolbags usually downstairs at12-13 but were not smartphones then obviously.
Still don't have TVs in bedrooms, but they do i-player. If the older one wants a TV, he can buy his own, younger still at Uni.
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No. DS (13 years) is really good, but I take his phone downstairs at 9pm.

I never take mine upstairs either.

My DD is only a baby but I am a secondary teacher. There is no way I would allow a teenager to have one in their bedroom over night.

internet useage - we have quite strict controls on the router, so yes, he has free use. BUT we reserve the right to check his phone at anytime (usually gets a melt down when we ask, and we don't do it often)

bedtime - this is totally linked to wake up. ds (year 9) did an internet search to discover that his age need 9 1/4 hours sleep. So working back from wake up that means asleep by 9:45.

dd1 is year 7. She goes up at 8:15, and lights out at 8:45.

I don't agree with any electronics in bedrooms at night for teens. My DS has a phone, tablet, DS, laptop. All stay out of his room. DSS however has been allowed to use his under his own rules - aged 13 he's been on it until 2am or longer. I can't stand it.

13 year old - devices on charger from 7pm is house rule, in practice often a bit later, but not taken up to bedroom or used after 9 ever.

No, no way we have plugged their chargers in downstairs in main living room and they aren't allowed phones full stop after 8.30/9pm.
They need some down time and switch off time. A few kids they know are still snap chatting, instagramming etc until well after 11 most nights and at 3-4am if they are at a sleepover, others messaging at 6/6.30am the kids think we are mean but we are looking after their health and we'll being.

Nope never they need their sleep and it's proven mobile are more addictive than any drug.

Ask your DS, if we all let our kids jump off cliffs, he'd jump too?

Lol you're the parent, you make the rules, not us!

yes

My dss isn't old enough for a phone. I'm really not sure if I would let him, if he was your son's age! I'm torn. If he was getting up for school early, doing homework on time and doing well in school etc. I would allow it. But ANY sign of those standards slipping, I would not hesitate to remove it.

My parents were VERY relaxed in terms of what I did and when I did it. I had a phone when I turned 12 for my birthday and was allowed it at night. In fact, there were no rules, other than not at the dinner table. But I do remember texting boys my friends quite late at night

For reference: I'm 26 and grew up with the Nokia 3310, no internet and a top-up card that I funded using pocket money!

No electrical devices upstairs at night. Obvs we are the only parents in the world that does enforce because dd phone pings with messages at all hours!

Nope. Not even the DD16.

I let all my kids have there phones all the time apart from when we're having a meal as a family at home or a restraunt

DS (nearly 14) goes up to bed at about 10pm. His phone stays downstairs. However, I don't mind him having it to listen to music / play games on if he's in his room earlier on in the evening.

The fifteen year old - yes. She is a sensible sort. She uses her phone for her alarm. It's always left right across the other side of the room, on charge when I check. She voluntarily puts herself to bed at 9pm and gets up at 6am because she likes to have time to fancyify herself listen to music and sketch before school.

The 10 yo - oh hell, no. She'd never, ever sleep. Ever. On the rare occassions she has no enforced bedtime she is literally awake until she collapses.

Different rules for two very different children. If dd2 started putting herself to bed at a reasonable time, getting herself up reliably and fetching me coffee in bed, she too could keep her devices in her room overnight. As it is I can see that happening when she is around 25 years old, if not older

15 year old dd in our house.

Phone and ipad left downstairs at 10pm. He has a tv and ps4 in a den room downstairs. Does have a sonos speaker in his room but obviously as controlled by app on phone no access to this after 10.

They all try to tell you that you are the only parent who does this!! Stand firm.

I'd say no, because it affects their sleep. I understand where they are coming from, but ... no.

No. All devices are left in the charging drawer after 8pm.