My 12yo DS wants me to ask you all?!

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Do you allow your 12+ yo DS and DD to have their phones / devices in their rooms at night?

Do you allow your 13+ yo DS and DD to have their phones / devices in their rooms at night!

No, DS 12 goes to his room at 2000 & then hands over iPad at 2100 & goes to sleep.
Later at the weekends.

53 responses in under 20 mins and my DS is still arguing!!! He thinks you are all super pushy!! I think you are all normal!

lilac dds has a loud start up tune so if she turned it on I'd hear it

No - and it's proven to affect sleep if you do (even if you are not actively using it). Lots of dd's friends do, judging by the late-night messages though.

This made me smile as sounds just like DS2. I bet 'everyones' allowed their phone at night except him?!

Now my DS and are 17 and 15 I do let them have their phones at night, but up until they were 15 I always made them leave them downstairs at night.

skini I'd tell him the longer he argues the more years he won't have it in his room

DS would like to know if you allow your 12yo to use YouTube and internet freely when they have devices?

No (he's 11 though).

12 year old dad allowed phone and laptop in room in the day (to be fair laptop is used for homework and she never uses it for anything else as she hates it as it's Microsoft and she's used to apple!)
Phone is allowed in room In day rules are door must be open, I can pick it up any time I feel like to check anything and her iG account is logged in on my iPad as well so I do keep eye on that. She's very trustworthy and to date hasn't done anything to make me not trust her with it. At night it is upstairs in charge on the landing as she uses it as alarm clock too, I get up first so tend to take it off charge and place on her chair in her room which means alarm goes off she has to get out of bed to turn it off. It has to be on charge/landing by 8pm school night a

In our house, the dcs do use it freely, in the living room where I can see what they are up to!!
Dc1 is 14, dc2 is 12yo.

And 9pm weekends.she is allowed to use you tube etc but as she has Apple TV in her room she uses that for you tube and I can easily see what she is watching with that

I love that - mine will argue against the odds too. But no, no devices at night & devices off & family time after 7.30. Just for good measure a maximum of two hours s day on devices (which according to a school survey makes me pretty lax!).

Only when she asks. Have said if she abuses it I'll change the WiFi password daily.

Yes, but have parental controls on router. And until about 16 they used a desktop in a communal room so they could be supervised.

All devices have string restrictions on it though so there is a lot they can't have access to.

(Also apologies for the use of the phrase 'family time'. Cringe. I just mean not locked in your room and interacting with the rest of he household' time)
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I teach this age group. For every time they try to argue a point, I actually inflict further penalty. So, for DD, if she tried to argue she should be allowed her phone, I'd take it away for an hour/day/week (depending on severity).

Perhaps your DS would like to discuss that idea?

And no, DD has filters on things (and still does at school). Again - she's 13.

We're a VERY tech-friendly household btw, DH is a programmer. We have multiple devices/computers per person. There are still rules.

My DSS is allowed in his mums so DH lets him here, against my wishes. My 2 DC's are 19 and 20 so didn't really have phones until they were 13 and only then basic ones. If they were young teens now there is no way they would be allowed unfettered access at night. I can really see the difference and it's not a good one.

No, my 11&13 yos turn their phones in before bed and will continue to do so while I'm still paying for them.

For now, they also know that I may (but probably won't) have a nosey through them. I won't do this once they get a bit older.

Our secondary school is passionate about the distracting factors of not enough sleep, social issues and screen time and are very keen for parents to hang onto phones overnight.

Phones - only after GCSEs have been done.

YouTube at 12. No way!

I think it's asking for problems to ever let them start having phones or gadgets in their bedrooms overnight. It could leave them very vulnerable to late night texts from other kids who can't sleep, they become very addictive and can keep youngsters awake at night. Start the' no phone/gadget' in bedroom overnight' rule very early on and stick to it rigidly.

14 and 16yr old DS's, both are not allowed screens of any kind in their rooms after bedtime.

DD -13

Yes, but when she gets ready / goes to bed, she places her phone on her dock, so then it doubles up as her alarm clock. This is at the end of her bed, and visible when I go upstairs.

But our stairs are in the living room and DD sleeps with her door open, so I can see it's been put away, and I can hear her if she tries to sneak it on the stand as I walk up the stairs...

She is also very trustworthy and a bit of a jobsworth. So by and large, when I ask her to put it away, she does. If she didn't, it would be a different story!

Am loving the fact that practically no parents allow phones at night and yet my DS's (in the living room) buzz all night. I think op's ds might have a point, but we're right