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things couldnt get any worst, dd was admitted to hospital today after self harming

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SpaceCadet · 01/02/2007 23:12

any one who has read my thread regarding my daughter will know that the last few months have been very tough.
lately her outbursts have become more violent, she has assaulted me on 2 ocassions and my 2 younger children are so distressed they scream the house down when dd kicks off, ds(5), stands with his face to the wall, covering his eyes and sobbing uncontrollably
today, when i told her that she couldnt have her boyfriend round, she went beserk, vandalised her room again and slashed her arms open with arazor, her arms are already a mess from the fconstant self harming..i couldnt take anymore and rang the gp who arranged for her to be seen in hospital.
the situation now is, she has been referred to the mental health team and she sees the pschyciatric link nurse tomorrow..however they are notifying social services..im not abad parent, ive done everything in my power to stop all this, im so exhausted with it all, its going to destroy my family
a lot of the reason for my own extremely low feelings are down to all this.

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Molesworth · 19/02/2007 23:09

I just feel appalled that there are such a lack of services where you are

Someone should come to your home to see you and dd

mummytosteven · 19/02/2007 23:10

could J not take her? if it's completely impossible for you to get there, phone up as soon as they open tomorrow morning to explain - it's not absolutely impossible that they would cover your taxi fare, or that someone could come out to see her at home.

Molesworth · 19/02/2007 23:11

Definitely worth calling them and exaggerate if you have to to get taken seriously (not that you should have to - the situation is already serious enough to warrant emergency attention)

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SpaceCadet · 19/02/2007 23:24

mummytosteven-i have asked but he cant get away from work, he is the only manager on tomorrow so cant, otherwise he would, he took her to the others.
molesworth, i will phone them, but am not holding out much hope

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Ishouldbereadingnow · 19/02/2007 23:30

This sounds a very frustrating situation but, as someone with a great deal of knowledge of how mental health services work I would suggest that you move hell and high water to get to the appointment tomorrow. It may be a test of how seriously you take it for your daughter.

Crisis services through A&E are good sticking plasters for a week or two but the solution will inevitably be in longer term consistent contact with someone she can trust and that will have to come through the proper channels eventually... so the sooner you make contact with the community team the better.

On the whole there is a good prognosis for self harming in teenagers, if the family and she can hang on in there.

Good Luck.

Molesworth · 20/02/2007 00:11

I really hope you manage to get to the appointment somehow SC, or that they come to you. Please let us know how you get on - GOOD LUCK x

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SpaceCadet · 20/02/2007 10:05

ishouldbereading-there is no way i can get to the appt, because i have a disability which means i cannot walk far and bus travel is out of the question.
milesworth, i phoned them this morning and they said they dont do home visits

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runkid · 20/02/2007 10:38

Spacey why does everything have to be so bloody complicated.Im so sorry this has happened

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SpaceCadet · 20/02/2007 10:59

well there is not a lot i can do about it..im pretty disgusted though that they wont do a home visit, the adult service does. so why not the child service

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oliveoil · 20/02/2007 11:01

how much is the taxi?

batters · 20/02/2007 11:09

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SpaceCadet · 20/02/2007 11:14

its really kind of you, but ive cancelled now

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oliveoil · 20/02/2007 11:44

nooooooooooooooooooooo, can you uncancel?

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SpaceCadet · 20/02/2007 11:57

nooo, just tried and was told, sorry shes left the office, i said i wanted her to phone me back asap, i will just have to see if they can offer another appt.

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oliveoil · 20/02/2007 11:58

please do, we will sort it out

let me know, goint to lunch now

xx

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SpaceCadet · 20/02/2007 12:01

im just waiting for her to ring back.

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batters · 20/02/2007 12:38

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SpaceCadet · 20/02/2007 13:17

she has just phoned and offered an appt on friday at 11.

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elliot3 · 20/02/2007 13:25

can I pay for your taxi?

oliveoil · 20/02/2007 13:41

oh good, you need the appt, please let us help

oliveoil 654 at hotmail dot co dot uk

foxinsocks · 20/02/2007 13:43

whereabouts are you? can someone give you a lift?

MummyPenguin · 20/02/2007 13:53

Isn't it very disturbing that such things as teen suicide sites actually exist? I never understand why these things aren't eradicated. Young people are far too clever with computers and have access to things that they really shouldn't.

Hope things improve SC, although it probably seems really bleak right now.

winnie · 20/02/2007 13:58

oh spacey, I am so sorry. You are really being put through it right now. I am glad that you've got another appointment and I hope your car is back ont he road by then.
I've been thinking about you a lot. Take care, Winnie xx

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SpaceCadet · 20/02/2007 16:33

its really lovely of you to offer to help, hopefully though the car will be on the road, its going into the garage on thurday and because this is the third time they will have it, they are not charging(should think not too)

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