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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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things couldnt get any worst, dd was admitted to hospital today after self harming

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SpaceCadet · 01/02/2007 23:12

any one who has read my thread regarding my daughter will know that the last few months have been very tough.
lately her outbursts have become more violent, she has assaulted me on 2 ocassions and my 2 younger children are so distressed they scream the house down when dd kicks off, ds(5), stands with his face to the wall, covering his eyes and sobbing uncontrollably
today, when i told her that she couldnt have her boyfriend round, she went beserk, vandalised her room again and slashed her arms open with arazor, her arms are already a mess from the fconstant self harming..i couldnt take anymore and rang the gp who arranged for her to be seen in hospital.
the situation now is, she has been referred to the mental health team and she sees the pschyciatric link nurse tomorrow..however they are notifying social services..im not abad parent, ive done everything in my power to stop all this, im so exhausted with it all, its going to destroy my family
a lot of the reason for my own extremely low feelings are down to all this.

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pinkbubble · 12/02/2007 22:53

Cant you get an app with anyone even if its with GP?

runkid · 13/02/2007 11:17

Spacey- They surely cant expect you to carry on like this your poor dd will have no arms left. Cant she be referred as an emergency this is potentially life threatening(sorry to be blunt){{{hugs for you and dd}}}

winnie · 14/02/2007 13:20

Spacey, how are things?

MummyPenguin · 15/02/2007 16:07

Haven't got time to read all the thread now, as got to pick DD up from tutor soon, but will read, as I am having problems with my DD (thread in Relationships titled 'worried about my DD - calling parents of girls aged 10 or over.) Basically, she's had thoughts of self harming, hasn't, thus far, thank God, but is full of self loathing, extreme mood swings, flies off the handle over the slightest thing, and reading SC's opening post, I'm worried that my DD will be heading the same way as SC's DD.

Will catch up on thread later. Hugs to SC. You must be feeling a lot worse than I do, and she's making me feel pretty wretched right now, that's for sure.

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SpaceCadet · 15/02/2007 20:48

mummytosteven-they dont have a pscych nurse for adolescents..she is seeing no one. i broke down today, i cant handle this anymore, last night she trashed my front garden, took me an hour to sort it this morning, this evening, she stole my tablets this evening and was looking up suicide sites on the net, her arms is dripping blood(not an exaggeration) and as i speak, shes not here, she stormed out of the house..she could be anywhere..ih and last night, she smashed her mirror and tried to slash her wrists with it.

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runkid · 16/02/2007 09:09

oh spacey i dont know what to say. Have you thought about having her sectioned for her own safety this is/has gotton out of hand. God these services are so bloody slow and frustrating.

winnie · 16/02/2007 09:27

spcecadet, I am so sorry. I would talk to someone (your GP?) about the fact she needs to be in hospital for her own safety. It makes me so angry that it has had to get this bad for you all Take care, thinking of you {{{{}}}}

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SpaceCadet · 16/02/2007 12:17

icould scream....just rang gp asked for urgent a;pt, triage nurse rings back, says suicidal teen is not an emergency as not their jurasdiction..rang the centre where she has been seen and they said, they have agreed to offer help, and her name is on the waiting list..we should hear in a few weeks..fgs, this is bloody ridiculous..she has been looking at these teen suicide sites and her google search was entitled..tips to commit suicide.

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Radley · 16/02/2007 12:20

OMG SC, I have been reading this, but, not know what to post.

BUT, from your latest post, you sound as though you are about to crack.

Having only been in this situation once (with a friend a month ago) I can only advise what the samaritans advised me, and, that was to take her to casualty and ask for the crisis team.

You may have already gone down that avenue, but if not, it is worth a shot, and, if you get there and say you have to wait weeks, I would personally create such a commotion, threatening with the log rag, watchdog, anything you can think of, until they can help you and your poor daughter.

Apologies if this is total bullshit, but, couldn't not post in this instance.

lulumama · 16/02/2007 12:22

take her to casualty.if she won;t go , call an ambulance and say she is attempting suicide

Radley · 16/02/2007 12:23

P.S.

My mate said it was the best thing anyone has done for her, I even argued with her parents and told them to do as I say as if they didn't they wouldn't have a daughter.

She is now back to normal and says the crisis team were fabulous.

airy · 16/02/2007 12:26

Oh how awful for all of you
If it were me and no-one seems to be actually moving fast enough to help her I'd be very tempted just to take her into hospital and tell them you are afraid she will do something to seriously hurt herself and refuse to leave.

Realise that might be totally impossible for you to do though.
Sorry I can't be any real help
xxx

Frizbe · 16/02/2007 12:37

Oh no SC, agree with the others get her to casualty asap, surely someone has got to do something

SpookyMadMummy · 16/02/2007 12:38

Spacey I am here if you need me.... you know how to get in touch XX

winnie · 16/02/2007 12:42

spacey, I agree. Take dd to casualty and sit there until you are seen. I am so angry for you both. Good luck. Thinking of you {{{}}}

Radley · 16/02/2007 12:44

If I lived near you, I'd come with you and they WOULD deal with your daughter.

Molesworth · 16/02/2007 12:53

Oh god sc I'm so sorry to read this

Is there not an emergency psych team number you can call?

It seems to me that in her current state of mind she could be sectioned for her own protection?

dolally · 16/02/2007 13:09

have been following this sc, I feel totally inadequate but cannot not post. You so desperately need help - and I hope you will get it.... today.

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SpaceCadet · 16/02/2007 20:11

i took her casualty last time, we sat there and eventually after being seen, despite being a suicide risk, we were told, come back tomorrow, when we got back the next day, they said there was no mental health provision for young adults in the hospital and to go somewhere else, we went there and are now on their list.....its just bloost ridiculous

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staceym11 · 16/02/2007 20:22

SC, i used to self harm, haven't read any of your thread as it is long but if you/your daughter would like to email me and have a chat about the reasons behind and how i got over it i would be more than happy, i have had nearly 4 years free of self harm now and am much more settled.

my email is [email protected] as i said, you or your daughter are welcome to contact me any time!

winnie · 17/02/2007 10:17

SC, how are things today?

I have been thinking about you both {{{}}}

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SpaceCadet · 19/02/2007 20:15

well, theyve offered us an interim appt for tomorrow, but guess what? my car has broken down, so cant go.

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runkid · 19/02/2007 20:33

oh spacey is there no one who can help

Molesworth · 19/02/2007 20:38

oh no

could a friend or neighbour give you a lift?

is a taxi out of the question?

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SpaceCadet · 19/02/2007 23:06

no one unfortunately, i dont really know anyone and i cant afford a taxi, its sods law, the car is in the garage on thursday so hope fully they will actually fix is this time

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