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I have only just come across this post and thought I would add my 2 pence worth.
Im not sure where you are based, but where I used to live when I had my ds at 19 - that was considered "old" Its terrible!
I also have a younger brother. He was a troubled teen, my mum sent him 300 miles away to live with my dad, he still didnt settle, got into smoking cannabis, drinking, he has also been in court a few times!
He met a girl when he was 16 (i know slightly old than your dd) she was 15, they were on and off for two years! When he was 18 she fell pregnant (she was 17) My nephew is now almost 2 yrs old, hes a gorgeous little boy and although it took a while for my brother to settle down, numerous arresting incidents, fighting with his girlf, they split up for a while it was hell basically! They have just found a nice new house together, he is getting councilling and they are getting on fab. Im not saying your daughter should get back with ehr boyf, god no he sounds bloody awful!! And good on you for keeping him away!!
What Im trying to say is, maybe the baby will do her good, I know shes only 14 and it will bring her back down to earth with a hard bump, it did me and I was 19! Im now 24 and preg with my second. Maybe once she gets the realistic jist of the responisibilty she may settle down. My brother refused any kind of councilling until he had his son, now his whole world revolves around his little boy and although they are only young its lovely to watch him and see how much he has changed.
Good luck for whichever your daughter decides, I think your a brilliant mum for sticking by her