prepare to be shocked;but at this moment in time, i wish i could throw my teenage dd out , ive reached breaking point.:-(

[canttakeanymore]

this is long, im afraid.
im a regular with a namechange.
my eldest daughter has been a handful since she was 18 months old, she started having violent rages which have just got worse and worse.
when her brother was born, she took her rages out on him and i never dared leave her alone with him.
by the time she was 9, her behaviour was so bad that she punched me in the tummy when i was 9 months preg with ds2, just because i told her off for hitting her brother.
her father and i seperated when she was a baby and he has been no help, he always made it clear that he couldnt care less how she behaved in my house.
the last couple of years have been really bad, the trouble is, when shes calm, she can be lovely, and also puts forward a very convincing act of being a little angel, so previous attempts to seek help have fallen flat on the ground as no one beleives that anything is wrong.
she will usually errupt into a rage because shes told she cant have/do something, she will attack my other children, throwing things at them, shes smashed her bedroom door on the inside and chunks are missing from the walls.
the last time she went beserk, she went to a friends and told them i hit her!!!! the mother threatened to phone social services, it took a while for me to convince her otherwidse and im sure she thinks im cruel to dd.
i cant touch dd otherwise she screams child abuse.
this week shes grounded as she had an explosion a few days ago, i also took her phone away from her.
today she started kicking off demanding her phone back, i ignored her and she went beserk, she terrified 2 year old dd, and i dread to think what my neighbours must think.
she smashed her room up, then stormed off to her friends, i was powerless to stop her, shes probally down there now telling lies that i abuse her....i cant stop crying..where did i go wrong...ive even considered suicide because i seem to be in a no win situation..today is the final straw, i just want her out of my house, i refuse to let her terrorise my other children, but shes ponly 15, so i cant make her leave, but if i could i would....

Hey youv got us...x

BE STONG

damn right you are. You are not a bloody doormat. You are not her servant. You are her mother!

or even strong he he

will report back when she returns home.
its not going to get better overnight, if at all, but ive been bowing to her demands and tempers for too long.

And that is the key isn't it? What was happeneing before wasn't working, you were unhappy and so was she.

Please tell us how it goes.

Stay strong. Or even Stong!

I am the Mother.

if this was any one else a neighbour,someone at work,on the bus,on the street surely youd defend yourself...?

Do it dont let her push you around Take control!!!! it will feel good

ride out the storm,the tears that are bound to follow dont give in untill things change

do you know the deffinition of madness?
someone who repeats the same thing over and over and expects a different outcome!!

MMAD-i know, i know, i wouldnt hesitate to defend myself, yet im allowing my entire household to be terrorised by a 15 year old.
doesnt help that my mother stivcks up for her..grrr

mothers! thats a whole new thread

this is about you taking control of YOUR territory..if she dosnt like your rules FINE! move on

be cool when she gets home be busy say what you need to say no more dont get dragged into long arguments that resolve nothing

say it,mean it,do it im sending you strength..

thanks, im not going to say anything until she goes into her room, then i will deal with the fallout when it comes.

Hi sc, I don't have anything constructuve to add to the fantastic advice you have received here, just wanted to say sorry you are going through this.

Good luck when she gets back.

Don't let her draw you into a fight or argument.

Can you go out for a drive with the other children if she starts? Just leave her to her tantrum.

Good luck

Jesus

It must be catching, my DS has just had a meltdown, he is 5. Will watch this thread with interest and send him to you if I need to Spacey.

so you know theres light at the end of this tunnel..

My dd 6 years on (the one i had against the door)is meeting me on friday.. for regular drink and curry on her!!!

shes working has a beautiful home that she shares with her girlfriend! whom i am very fond of and over the years she has admitted that she was an absolute shit to the point it makes her
blush

she has honestly said that i should have been harder sooner!

MMAD-its nice to hear a success story-thanks.
lol LGJ-5 year olds i can deal with!

LGJ ?

I have just sat here listening to him sobbing, I want my Mummy, I want my Mummy, I eventually capitulated and said (well...... shouted up the stairs) for what. ??

Well................ I am playing Buckaroo, and I can't get the camel to behave. (Felt like saying, I know the feeling.)

To which I replied you are supposed to be in bed, good night.

aww bless him!

lol

my 24 yr old whose back home for 4th time left mobile bill on breakfast bar...235 quid!!!
without his "fon" he has no contact with..me,work,girlfreind,mates outside world.....

I SHREDDED IT...BE STRONG OR EVEN STONG

235!!!!!!!!

Did you shred the phone or the bill ??

lol-