Couthy
I know you're tired. I was tired too when I had to fight 'the system' as a single parent. I was so ill I was signed off work for 2 months. But I tried every avenue to get DS the dx and help he needed. If you continue to believe that you have exhausted every avenue you will get nowhere.
You need to prioritise. The most pressing need at the moment is your DD's. The rest of the family wil have to wait. I had to prioritise when DS when acutely unwell and in hospital.
You keep harping back to 'years ago'. Things have changed. It really is worth another shot at this. I could not sit back and let them do this to me.
And the GP surgery is two buses, 1hr journey, right across town. How do you get THERE every day when I have appointments every day, sometimes two, and I get complained to because I can't fucking FLY to a third appointment on a day because it's convenient for whatever HCP wants to book that day, when I have 3 school runs a day to do too!
That alone should be a cause for complaint to your local PALS as it is not reasonable to expect any patient to trvel that far to see their GP. Our GP and all the others in the area have very small catchmnet areas. They would not take someone who had to use 2 buses to see them. A new GP would give you the chance to establish a new relationship with your GP. If PALS can't get you into a new GP's practice then complain strongly to your MP in writing.
GPs cannot refuse to take people based on the fact they need high levels of care and expensive drugs. They simply cannot do it and that has been estbalished in law. I simply don't see why you cannot say to PALS that the current geographical distance is untenable and you demand a closer GP and ask them to put their reasons in writing back to you should it not be possible to register at the GP of your choice. At the very least a caring GP would help you overcome some of your own helath problems. I doubt very much if anyone has bigger health needs than me at the moment and I changed GPs a few months ago.
A few other possibiities:
Your DD is curently living in a different area. She could register with a GP in that area - albeit temporarily.
Your DD has a father who appears to be married to a very able woman who has experience in this area. OK - he's a long way away geographically, but he too could write letters on his DD's behalf. He doesn't have to be in your area to do that.
As I said, my first complaint would be to PALs complaining that CAMHS have refused to see my daughter who has mental health needs as evidenced by the fact that she had to be removed from my house by the Police and has faced Youth Courtm yet does not warrant a CAMHS assessment of her difficulties, which are lobg-standing. And copy the letter to CAMHS and to your MP.
How long would that take? A couple of hours?
Worth a try surely.
And if you're on a roll write to the GP of your choice requesting registraion and if they cannot register you then ask for their reasons in writing so you can take the matter up with PALS. FFS they cannot all be full all the time. Patients do get ill/old and die. They do keep waiting lists.
You cannot just accept the status quo.